Month: July 2024

Gila’s Way: A Charity Set Up To Help Prevent Teen Suicide And Educate On Mental Health. Interview with Rabbi Hammer.

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Sometimes, I get emails about stories and they really stand out to me. This was one of them. A friend of mine knew about this suicide prevention charity in Israel, called Gila’s Way. The Hammer family in the Jewish community sadly lost their daughter Gila z’l to suicide when she was just 18. Gila had mental health issues and the family want to save lives in her name and make sure it doesn’t happen to another family. Rabbi Shalom Hammer, Gila’s father and a world renowned lecturer, started sharing his insights from Gila’s tragic story in order to raise awareness, teach empathy, and promote dialogue regarding suicide in order to ensure its prevention.

Gila’s Way is a non-profit organisation which implements, educates and presents programs regarding mental health awareness and suicide prevention in order to save lives.

I asked Rabbi Shalom Hammer a few questions about his life saving mission:

  1. Your charity Gila’s Way has such an important mission. Please can you tell me more about Gila as a person, her mental health struggles and how you as a family coped in the aftermath of her tragic death/ how the charity got set up?

Gila was an unbelievable girl, vibrant, vivacious, social, hilarious and extremely sensitive. She was a leader of her peers socially and she loved to have fun. She also saw the world in a very innocent wholesome way, she was not capable of harming anyone nor did she believe that people would harm her. Tragically she experienced a sexual episode which was obviously extremely traumatising for her. She also did not wish to or know how to openly communicate the degradation she felt and the pain she was experiencing. Consequently, a swell of anxiety and depression built up inside of her and she eventually began to lose hope which ultimately lead to her passing away.

After Gila died, we decided to take the inexplicable pain and the unfathomable loss to as much of a positive place as possible. My wife and I feel that Gila should be alive and the reason she is not is largely because of the lack of knowledge with mental health and certainly suicidal ideation that we had and that so many others have as well. Gila’s Way is an organisation therefore, who’s primary concern is education via seminars, lectures, interactive workshops and presentations, understanding that the more we educate and inform the greater chance we have of lowering the numbers and preventing suicide.

(image of Gila z’l: Gila’s Way and Hammer Family)

2. What would you like people to know about teen suicide and suicide prevention in Israel and globally?

The most important vital point that I cannot emphasise enough, is that the vast majority of people who die from suicide, do NOT want to die. Particularly when we are speaking about adolescents who are experiencing so much pressures and may impulsively make a decision within a few seconds and not realising that it is finite. When people understand that most people who die from suicide, did not want to die, they also understand that this means we are capable of saving that person.

3. What is your message to other parents coping with children with mental health issues or who have also experienced bereavement?

There are a number of very crucial messages for parents. Firstly, don’t be afraid or ashamed to talk and converse, secondly don’t converse with just everyone. Dealing with mental health and a child who is challenged, is very procedural and therefore exhausting. Make sure to speak to the right people and save your energies for those people. Don’t speak to just anyone because you will grow more confused and more exhausted; make sure to find those/that people/person who can be helpful and focus on speaking to them.

In addition, pay attention to what your child is “saying”. A child (or anyone for that matter) who is dealing with mental health challenges or experiencing a crisis, will not necessarily explicitly say “I need help”, but they will often send “cries for help” and share those signs because they really want help. Some of those “warning signs” can be familial/social isolation , spending long hours in their bedrooms and refusing to join the family for activities which they normally enjoyed. In addition, they may be exhibiting exhaustion, or become physically unkempt, and they also might desist from performing normal expectations (like going to school, doing their homework, participating in events etc.)

Finally, and this is something that I consistently emphasise, trust your parental instincts. We were blessed with instincts and often a Dr or professional might suggest something and our instinct is saying “this just does not sit well with me”…trust that instinct and pay attention to it, because it is there for a reason.

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4. What do you at Gila’s Way want to achieve through your charity and how are you doing this through programmes/events?

Our primary focus is on education. We don’t want any parent or any significant other, to be in situations where they “don’t know” or “didn’t know enough” because knowledge is power and empowers us with the capacity to be aware, respond and even save a life. We do so through the many programs, presentations, seminars and interactive workshops and exhibitions that we offer for diverse groups (parents, educators, adolescents, leaders, professionals, here in Israel in the army and pre-military academies). Engaging audiences in the conversations breaks stigmas and allows for knowledge and consideration.

Finally, Gila’s Way offers a consultation service (NOT a hotline). Navigating the mental health system, especially in Israel, isn’t simple. If one knows someone struggling with their mental health, they can schedule a consultation with us to help guide them through initial steps towards healing and recovery.

‘Whoever saves a single life is considered to have saved an entire world’ (the Talmud)

For more about Gila’s Way, please go to their website here.

Creating a Safe Space: Helping Your Adopted Child Heal From Trauma by Brooke Chaplan

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As mom/mums, we want nothing more than to provide a safe and nurturing environment for our children. But when it comes to adopted children who have experienced trauma, the task can feel overwhelming. It’s important to understand that healing from trauma is a process that takes time and patience. In this blog post, we will discuss some strategies for creating a safe space for your adopted child to heal and thrive.

Build Trust

Building trust is vital when helping your adopted child heal from past trauma. Trust serves as the foundation for a relationship where your child feels safe and understood. To build trust, start by being a consistent presence in their life, maintain routines and be predictably positive in your interactions. Listen to them with empathy and without judgment, making sure they feel heard and valued. Honoring your promises, no matter how small, also reinforces their sense of security. Offer choices to empower them, showing that their feelings and opinions matter. Through these actions, you create a supportive environment where your child can begin to heal and flourish.

Create Routine

Maintaining a routine can be incredibly beneficial for adopted children who have been through trauma, as it provides a sense of stability and predictability in their lives. A structured daily routine might include waking up at the same time each morning, having breakfast together, and engaging in activities like schoolwork, outdoor play, or reading time. Following a set bedtime ritual, such as taking a warm bath, reading a story, or listening to calming music, can help signal the end of the day and promote restful sleep. These consistent activities provide security and help the child know what to expect, reducing anxiety and allowing them to focus on their growth and healing.

Offer Support

Offering support to your adopted child as they work through past trauma requires patience and understanding. Recognize that healing is a journey, and each child progresses at their own pace. Show your support by being consistently available and approachable, allowing your child to share their feelings when they feel ready. Validate their emotions by acknowledging their pain and expressing empathy, reinforcing that their feelings are normal and understandable. Engage in calming activities together, such as drawing, walking, or simply sitting in silence, which can provide comfort and a sense of connection. Additionally, educate yourself on trauma and its impacts so you can better understand and respond to your child’s needs. Through unwavering patience and a compassionate approach, you create a secure space for your child to navigate their healing journey.

Educate Yourself

When supporting your adopted child through past trauma, it’s crucial to educate yourself on various aspects of trauma, including its emotional, psychological, and physical effects. Learn about attachment theory to understand how early experiences shape a child’s ability to form secure relationships. Explore trauma-informed care practices to provide the best possible support. Resources such as books on child psychology, trauma, and adoption can be invaluable. Online courses, webinars, and support groups for adoptive parents can offer practical skills and community support. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help from therapists who specialize in trauma and adoption, like those at Relevant Connections PLLC. By expanding your knowledge, you can create a nurturing environment that fosters your child’s healing and growth.

Foster Connection

Helping your adopted child foster positive connections while working through past traumas involves creating opportunities for safe and meaningful social interactions. Encourage participation in group activities that align with their interests, such as sports teams, art classes, or music lessons, where they can build friendships in a structured and supportive environment. Facilitate playdates with compassionate and understanding peers to help your child practice social skills and develop trust in others. Encourage involvement in community events or volunteering, which can provide a sense of purpose and belonging. Additionally, reinforcing family bonds through regular family activities and open communication can help your child feel secure and connected. By nurturing these connections, you create a network of support that can bolster your child’s emotional resilience and aid in their healing process.

Creating a safe space for your adopted child to heal from trauma requires patience, understanding, and love. By building trust, establishing routine, offering support, educating yourself, and fostering connections, you can help your child feel secure and supported as they navigate their healing journey. Remember that healing takes time, so be gentle with yourself and your child as you both navigate this process together.

Brooke Chaplan is a freelance writer.

Rehab 101: What to Expect When Entering Treatment by Miranda Spears

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Rehab treatment is one of the most important things you can get if you’ve been struggling with dependencies and substance abuse issues. This is because the human body and mind can become reliant on certain substances, making it almost impossible to quit a substance without the help of the kind of professionals who work in rehab facilities. However, it’s never easy to make a major life decision without knowing the full story, which is why you should know what to expect as you’re entering rehab.  

Admission 

If you want to go to a drug rehab in Austin, USA, some of which are considered among the best in the world, you’ll have to understand what the process of admission is going to be like. Rehab facilities get a lot of patients each year, and all of these people have different needs and considerations because they may have different side effects from the same drug or may have been using wildly different substances. When you first enter rehab, professionals at the facility you’re considering going to will be able to assess your case by getting a medical history and figuring out the effects substance abuse has had on your body, which can then be used to create a treatment plan for you.   

Detoxification 

Detoxification is the next step of any good treatment plan and is often the toughest part of the early stages of sobriety and recovery. Withdrawal symptoms arise when people have not had access to drugs for a number of hours, upsetting their bodies, which have grown to develop a reliance on those substances. Symptomatic treatment for withdrawals by using medication to control cravings and side effects helps a lot in ensuring people are able to comfortably transition to recovery by lowering the worst sensations they’ll be feeling during this time, and, once the body has gotten rid of all of the toxins lurking within, the rest of your treatment will begin.  

Getting a treatment plan 

As previously mentioned, getting a proper treatment plan is a major part of getting better and weaning yourself off of the substance you’ve been abusing, including any side effects you’ll have to get accustomed to. For instance, using needles that are not clean could result in diseases like hepatitis, which means experts at the clinic would need to create a custom plan to help relieve this issue, too. Whatever the case may be, healthcare professionals will be able to create the best treatment for your case, balancing the side effects of that medication with the massive benefits you’ll get by taking them.  

Education 

A major part of treatment at rehab facilities is the education they provide to people who are struggling with dependencies. Many people are unaware that addiction can fundamentally change how the brain works, rewiring it to depend on drugs and further enabling abuse, and that triggers present in everyday life can make it even tougher to make a clean break. Getting educated about these issues will make it more likely for you to avoid triggers and ensure you’re not falling into the same traps as before once you’re done with rehab. 

Progress monitoring 

Monitoring progress is another part of ensuring success during the process of rehab because, though you may be able to get sober for a short time, you’ll have to work hard to maintain that sobriety. There are many ways that facilities are able to monitor progress, including while you’re within the premises by noting down the changes they’ve seen and scheduling regular checkups by a doctor, and when you’re outside the premises, by connecting you to a sponsor that will check on you on a weekly basis for years to come.  

Rehab is an integral part of treating substance abuse and drug addiction all over the world, as the professionals who work inside each facility can have permanent impacts on the lives of millions of people each year, helping them work through their issues. If you make yourself aware of what you should be expecting when you begin treatment, it’ll only make things easier to deal with in the short term, allowing you to be more comfortable once you start rehab. 

This article was written by writer Miranda Spears.

Navigating Mental Health: The Role of Therapists in Personal Recovery Stories by Brandy Levine

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Therapists around the world play a crucial role in helping individuals navigate their mental health journeys. Whether in Los Angeles, London, or any other bustling metropolis, the support they offer is invaluable.

Urban Living and Mental Health

Life in a big city can be exhilarating but also overwhelming. The fast-paced lifestyle, career pressures, and constant quest for success can take a toll on mental well-being. That’s where therapists come into the picture, offering a lifeline to those seeking solace and support.

Real-life Stories of Recovery

Consider Sarah, a marketing executive who recently moved to Los Angeles from a small town. The city’s energy was overwhelming, and she found herself struggling with anxiety. Sarah decided to seek help from a therapist. Through regular sessions, she learned coping mechanisms and mindfulness techniques that helped her regain control over her life. Her therapist provided a safe space where she could express her fears without judgment, leading to significant improvements in her mental health.

Meanwhile, in London, Tom, a financial analyst, faced similar challenges. Balancing work and personal life was a constant struggle. Through therapy, Tom discovered ways to manage stress and set healthy boundaries. His therapist helped him find a work-life balance that improved his overall well-being.

Understanding the Therapeutic Process

Therapy isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. Each individual’s journey is unique, and therapists understand this well. They tailor their approach based on the client’s needs. Whether it’s Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), psychotherapy, or other modalities, the goal is to foster healing and personal growth.

The Importance of Finding the Right Therapist

Finding the right therapist is like finding a trusted friend who guides you through life’s challenges. For John, a struggling artist, connecting with a therapist who understood the pressures of creative professions was a game-changer. His therapist helped him navigate the highs and lows of his career, offering strategies to manage stress and maintain a healthy work-life balance.

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Therapists Around the World: A Diverse Pool of Experts

From Los Angeles to London, and beyond, there are therapists specializing in a wide range of issues. This diversity ensures that individuals can find someone who resonates with their specific struggles and cultural background.

How Therapy Transforms Lives

Consider Maria, a single mother dealing with postpartum depression. She felt isolated and overwhelmed until she reached out to a therapist. Through compassionate counselling and practical advice, Maria gradually rebuilt her confidence and found joy in motherhood again. Her story is a testament to how therapy can transform lives, offering hope and healing.

The Role of Therapy in Overcoming Trauma

Therapists also play a vital role in helping individuals overcome trauma. For example, Mike, a firefighter, had recurring nightmares after a particularly harrowing rescue mission. Therapy provided him with techniques to process his experiences and manage PTSD symptoms. His sessions were a critical part of his recovery, enabling him to continue his vital work with renewed strength.

Accessibility and Affordability of Therapy

One of the challenges often associated with therapy is its accessibility and cost. However, many therapists offer sliding scale fees based on income, making mental health support more affordable. Additionally, online therapy options have become increasingly popular, providing flexibility and convenience.

Breaking the Stigma Around Mental Health

Therapists are also on the frontline of breaking the stigma surrounding mental health. Through community outreach and education, they encourage individuals to seek help without shame. By normalising conversations about mental health, they create an environment where everyone feels empowered to pursue their well-being.

Building a Supportive Community

Therapists often go beyond individual sessions to build supportive communities. Group therapy sessions, workshops, and support groups offer individuals the chance to connect with others facing similar challenges. These community-based approaches foster a sense of belonging and mutual support, crucial for long-term mental health.

Taking the First Step Towards Healing

Deciding to see a therapist can be daunting, but it’s a courageous step towards healing. For anyone feeling hesitant, know that therapy is a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Therapists around the world are committed to guiding you through this journey, offering the tools and support needed to thrive.

In cities across the globe, therapists serve as beacons of hope, guiding individuals towards better mental health. Their dedication and expertise ensure that no one has to navigate their struggles alone.

If you or someone you know is considering therapy, therapists in Los Angeles and other cities are ready to help. Take that first step today and embark on a transformative journey towards well-being.

Brandy Levine is a licensed therapist at Stori, specializing in cognitive-behavioural therapy to help clients navigate life’s challenges with resilience and insight. Her approach is centred on fostering self-awareness and empowering individuals to enact positive change in their lives.

Why Unplugging More Often Could Be The Best Thing For Your Mental Health.

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If you think about it, it’s unusual how overly connected we are to everyone and the world. A decade ago, if you sent a text message to someone and then a “Hello??” minutes afterward, you’d look desperate or rude, but nowadays, it’s a whole 180 degrees, and instead, if you’re not the one responding back in minutes, you’re the rude one! From the moment we wake up to the time we fall asleep, our lives are dominated by screens.

Whether it’s checking emails, scrolling through social media, or binge-watching the latest series, our digital devices have become constant companions. Now, everyone knows how dangerous it can be to use phones and screens too much. There are limits for kids, but not too much pressure to limit children, right?

Generally speaking, this interconnectedness can be way too negative. There’s doom scrolling, contact misinformation online, full-on rude people, trolls, and questionable hostility overall. It’s not good. The Internet can be an escape from reality, but nowadays, real life feels more like an escape from the internet.

So, why not unplug more often? Here’s why you should!

You Have to Keep in Mind There’s a Mirage to Social Media

It’s no secret that platforms like Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitter are filled with picture-perfect snapshots and videos of people’s lives. Some of these people seem to have perfect lives, like the perfect job, the perfect family, the perfect house, the perfect friends, and everything in their lives is absolutely perfect.

Their lives are just perfect, and you can’t help but feel sad and jealous to the point you’re probably thinking, “Do I have depression” right? But here’s the kicker: what you see is often just a highlight reel. Sure, what you see appears perfect, but chances are, it’s the furthest thing from perfect.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to these seemingly flawless lives. This comparison can seriously dent our self-esteem. It makes you feel like there’s inadequacy, right? Well, you’re constantly seeing everyone’s best moments; it’s hard not to feel like you’re falling short in your own life.

Doom Scrolling is Dangerous

Social media isn’t the only reason to unplug. Are you scrolling and seeing an endless stream of bad news? Maybe it’s political turmoil, natural disaster, or something else that’s overwhelmingly bleak. This constant negativity is going to lead to stress and anxiety in some people so make sure you look after yourself and monitor how much you watch.

It’s Best to Reconnect with the Real World

The real world is an escape from the internet, and honestly, it can be a fairly good escape. When you unplug, you have the opportunity to engage with the world around you. It usually gives you a better chance to spend time with loved ones, go for a walk in nature, or pick up a hobby that doesn’t involve a screen. Overall, these activities can help ground you and remind you of what truly matters.

Unplugging Improves Your Sleep

Screen time, especially before bed, can interfere with your sleep. The blue light emitted by our devices can mess with our sleep patterns, making it harder to fall asleep and stay asleep. Unplugging in the evening can lead to better, more restful sleep.

It’s All About Boosting Your Mood

Being connected all the time is stress-inducing, and engaging in offline activities can boost your mood and reduce stress. Reach out to your Dr or therapist if you need help boosting your mood.

This article was written by a freelance writer,

6 Healing Rituals for Grief During Times Of Mourning by Addy Reeds

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In times of mourning, finding ways to process grief is crucial for emotional healing. While everyone grieves differently, certain rituals can provide comfort and help individuals honour their loved ones. Please do reach out for support from your doctor or therapist if you need it.

Here are six healing rituals that can support you during these difficult times:

Creating a Memory Box 

One meaningful way to remember a loved one is by creating a memory box. This can include photographs, letters, and personal mementos that hold special significance. By curating these items, you create a tangible connection to your loved one, allowing you to revisit cherished memories whenever you need comfort. This ritual helps keep their memory alive and provides a physical space for their emotions. 

Planting a Memorial Garden 

Nature has a soothing effect on the soul, and planting a memorial garden can provide a serene space for reflection. Choose plants that were meaningful to your loved one or that symbolise remembrance and renewal. Tending to the garden over time can be a therapeutic activity, offering a sense of purpose and continuity. This living tribute grows and blooms, mirroring the ongoing nature of love and memory. 

Holding a Candlelight Vigil 

A candlelight vigil is a peaceful way to gather friends and family to honour your loved one. The soft glow of candles creates a tranquil atmosphere, perfect for sharing stories, reading poetry, or simply sitting in silent remembrance. This ritual fosters a sense of community and collective support, reminding you that you are not alone in your grief. It’s a moment to reflect on the light your loved one brought into your life and to share that light with others. 

Writing a Eulogy 

Crafting a eulogy is a powerful way to honor and celebrate a loved one’s life. Whether delivered at a funeral or kept as a personal tribute, a well-written eulogy encapsulates the essence of the departed and their impact on those around them. Seeking custom eulogy services, like Eulogy Pen, can help articulate your feelings and ensure that the tribute is both heartfelt and eloquent. This process can be incredibly cathartic, helping to process your emotions and find closure. 

Practicing Mindfulness and Meditation 

Grief can be overwhelming, and mindfulness practices can help ground you in the present moment. Meditation, deep breathing exercises, and mindful walking can provide relief from the intense emotions of mourning. These practices encourage self-compassion and allow you to observe your feelings without judgment. Regular mindfulness practice can create a space for healing and offer moments of peace amid the turmoil of grief. 

Creating Art in Their Memory 

Artistic expression can be a profound outlet for grief. Whether through painting, writing, music, or crafting, creating art in memory of your loved one allows you to channel your emotions into something tangible. This process can be deeply personal and healing, providing a way to express what words cannot capture. Art becomes a tribute to your loved one’s life and a testament to your enduring love. 

Grieving is a deeply personal experience, and finding the right rituals can make a significant difference in your healing process. Whether you choose to create a memory box, write a custom eulogy, plant a memorial garden, hold a candlelight vigil, practice mindfulness, or create art, each of these rituals offers a unique way to honour your loved one and find comfort. Remember, it’s okay to seek support and take the time you need to heal. 

Addy Reeds is.a freelance writer.

Four Ways To Enhance The Quality Of Your Sleep And Mental Health

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There are plenty of things you can do that can improve your life, but if you haven’t got the basics in place, then it’s harder to make the most of all that life offers you. Let’s think about sleep. No one’s their best self when they’re running low on sleep. It makes all aspects of life more difficult, most notably our relationships — because after all, who isn’t irritable when they wish they could still be in bed? Lack of sleep can also worsen mental health conditions including anxiety and depression and being in a good sleep routine helps improve these.

You can’t always guarantee a full 6 – 8 hours of sleep, but you can increase the likelihood. In this post, we’ll look at some handy tips for consistently sleeping well. 

Get Serious About Your Sleep Routine

Taking an ad hoc approach to your sleep might work, but it’s not a very reliable method. A better approach is to get serious about having a proper sleep routine. Humans are creatures of habit, so the longer you do your sleep routine, the more effective it’ll be. You don’t need to do anything wild; simply going to bed/getting up at the same time each day is a good enough start.

Get Active During the Day

You’ll find it more difficult to fall asleep if you still have a lot of energy. You’ll wake up with an allotted amount of energy, and if you don’t use it, then well, your body’s not going to get the hint that it should go back to sleep. You don’t have to run a marathon every day to tire your body out, but you should be at least a little active. This is especially an issue for people who work from home, who are generally less active than people who travel to work. Keep moving and improve your sleep and health!

Use/Avoid The Right Products

Some products are good for sleep, and some will help to keep you awake. Coffee might be great in the morning when you want to be more alert, but if you have it too late in the day (say, after 3 pm), then you might find that you’re lying in bed while still completely wide awake.

Alcohol consumption can also impact the quality of sleep you get and worsens mental health. On the other hand, CBD oil (without the psychoactive part) and chamomile tea have both been shown to help relax the body and put it in a state ready for sleep. Lavender oil also really helps relax the body and mind. Sometimes, you just need a relaxing regime to aid sleep.

Creating a Calm Atmosphere

Some people can fall asleep anywhere. But that’s not the case for most people. It’s generally easy to fall asleep in a calm and relaxed atmosphere. So take a look at your bedroom: does it fit that description? If not, then look at making some changes.

Decluttering, changing the lighting, and making the space a tech-free zone (no phones in bed!) will all help to make it a sleep-friendly environment. You may also keep some books handy for when you can’t drift away and calming things by your bedside eg lavender spray.

Good sleep is vital for good mental health. These tips will help you to get better quality sleep.

This article was written by a freelance writer.