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Living With Imposter Syndrome As A Writer by Eleanor

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I wrote about this a little bit a few days ago on my Instagram and Facebook but thought I would write a longer blog here.

So here goes…

In 2016, I started this little blog as a place to share my emotions and feelings around living with anxiety and panic attacks, processing trauma I had been through a few years before and just as a place to vent to family and friends. Nearly 10 years later, I and many contributors have kept this wonderful corner of the internet going and I am very grateful.

From 2016 onwards, I began to write my heart for mental health charities and national publications after sending pitch emails to them about my more unusual story of being diagnosed with bipolar at 16 and hospitalised twice by 25. At the time, bipolar was way less talked about (with psychosis and hospitalisation still a major taboo) and I wanted to be a part of changing that.

Amazingly everything started to click into place after I began online networking with editos… I was writing articles for Metro.co.uk regularly on mental health (Thank you Yvette!), I was featured in Glamour and the Telegraph (thank you editors!), I started writing for Jewish community papers and for a new magazine at the time, Happiful. Then, I decided I wanted to submit my journey with bipolar from 16 onwards to Trigger Publishing as a memoir and signed with them for a book deal in 2018. 2018 was a year of manifestation and synchronicity for me in many areas of my life.

Then, I was asked to write my story to be featured in the Book of Hope by my friends Jonny Benjamin MBE and Britt Pfluger alongside celebrities including Dame Kelly Holmes, Zoella, Alastair Campbell ,Elizabeth Day, Joe Wicks and many others including friends in the mental health writing world. Seeing my name on the cover alongside all these successful people I admired was something else and again my story of hope against adversity was being shared globally to help people who needed it.

My own book Bring me to Light came out in November 2019 just a few months before the Covid Pandemic and so I couldn’t get out there to promote it fully but it still did well on Amazon and was sold in Waterstones and globally. Its something I am hugely proud of despite sometimes feeling shy that my story is out there for all tom read.

Since 2020, I have kept blogging, writing for Metro.co.uk from time to time and I finally self published my children’s book Arabella and the Worry Cloud. However, imposter syndrome has really kicked in, let me explain.

The start of my writing career happened when I was unemployed due to my mental health. I had to leave a face to face teaching job due to my anxiety. I had no idea that this little blog for friends and family would turn into so much. In fact I would say it was a total whirlwind. I was only 30 when I signed my book deal (independently without an agent). I was just 28 when I started writing openly about my mental health and I often feel like an imposter! That little voice that says you’re not good enough because…

I am an independent writer which means I don’t yet have an agent but I have been published before by several publishers and I have also self published my kids book. So I worry that I won’t ever find an agent, that my dream of being a professional author with a team around me (agent, marketing team, earning good money from my craft) seems out of reach. In this industry as well when you pitch to agents to take on your book, it comes with a lot of rejection. My children’s book for example was rejected by Pan Macmillan (although I was fortunate to know someone there who was able to look at my manuscript). I know I need to keep going to help others, but sometimes it feels super lonely and you have to be so resilient. Rejection is normal but its hard.

I chose not to go into journalism full time in a news room for health reasons but I love to write freelance from home and hope to continue to do so.

I guess I feel like an imposter because my career that I did work hard for, came after my former editor Yvette connected with me on Twitter, she liked my blog and commissioned me to write mental health articles (despite at that point never meeting). This was the same for so many incredible editors who gave me their time and knowledge including Naomi Greenaway at the Telegraph , Deborah Joseph (formerly of Glamour) and Rebecca at Happiful. I truly feel blessed these women championed me and my writing.

So I guess what I want to say is that its OK to feel like you aren’t there yet, like you aren’t good enough, like the mountain of where you want to be is too hard to climb. What I have found is when people believe in you, in your ideas, in your story and when you can find that inner confidence and believe in yourself- incredible things can happen. You can manifest your dreams and I do believe one day more will manifest (even if my little imposter voice speaks up).

I want to end this story with something quite relevant that haunts me to this day. I was staying at my Dads when I was writing my first book, in the middle of the Buckinghamshire countryside at the time. I was more ‘high profile’ in the mental health world and very prolific on Twitter back in 2018-19 and so I received an email invitation from a producer at BBC Women’s Hour for a segment they were doing about bipolar. She asked if I would come on the show to talk about it. My fear/ panic about being exposed and too seen (and not worthy) meant I didn’t feel able to do it and I have kicked myself ever since! If anyone from Women’s Hour is reading this (haha) please do get back in touch!

But seriously- sometimes fear and anxiety stops us from doing what we most want to do but are too frightened to do. I still feel scared to give talks about my kids book. I look at others on Instagram who are Sunday Times Bestsellers and have agents and I think to myself….will I ever get there? Unfortunately social media comparisonitis at age 36 (i know I am still young) is still rife.

I think I have to remember that its OK to feel like this, as my friends have told me, so many creatives do. And its ok to take my time, work hard and see where it lands. It’s also OK to take other jobs while being a writer isn’t paying a main income too. I feel imposter syndrome in other areas of my life too but thats a blog for another day.

Do you feel imposter syndrome?

Thanks for reading,

Ellie x

9th Blog Anniversary of Be Ur Own Light!

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Whenever 1st March rolls around, I feel a tremendous sense of pride but also – how has it been so many years since I started blogging on WordPress about my mental health?

Be Ur Own Light Blog started on 1st March 2016 after I had had to leave a face to face job because I was having panic attacks and couldn’t get in to work. I saw blogging as a form of therapy.. and in truth, I was only originally sharing with friends and family because I felt really alone with it. That eventually snowballed into me writing for Rethink Mental Illness and then in the national media, speaking at a few in-person events and recording podcasts. It was also an honour to be included in several books including ‘The Book of Hope’ by Jonny Benjamin MBE and Britt Pfluger, talking about life with bipolar.

There’s times I still feel alone with my health but I also have so much support and understanding from family and friends and readers here too, which helps a great deal.

I just want to thank everyone we have collaborated with in the past year (sponsored or not)- brands, charities, businesses, individuals making a difference in the mental health world. Thank you for writing blogs for Be Ur Own Light and our personal mission of taking a sledgehammer to the stigma of mental illness (or trying to!).

Thank you also to everyone who has promoted or bought my books, especially my recent kids book ‘Arabella and the Worry Cloud’. I am so proud of ‘Bring me to Light’ too and hope sharing my story continues to help people.

If you’ve been following this journey for 9 years (or longer)- thank YOU for being here for the ride and continuing to read, support and show up.

It has been harder for me in the past 2 years to authentically share everything about my mental health and other health things on here but one day I hope that our journey can inspire others. I live in remission from Bipolar due to my medications holding me and I never forget daily how lucky I am to have access to mental health medications (due to living in the UK) and an excellent therapist, plus support from family.

Going forward, I will still be blogging but I am hoping that the sequel to Arabella and the Worry Cloud will manifest soon. I have written it, I just need the funds to secure everything! Shout out to my friend and illustrator Shelley. I hope also that Arabella will continue to reach more children and find it’s way to all who need its message.

Thank you all of you for enabling me to blog and write and hopefully help people with bipolar, depression, anxiety, PTSD, panic attacks etc. Thank you to every person who has read a blog, bought a book, shared an article, commissioned me in the press to write an article on mental health or current affairs and to all who have or continue to believe in me- including my amazing husband and family. and of course G-d who is behind everything.

Love and gratitude,

Ellie x

Understanding The Connection Between Hair Loss And Mental Health.

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For many of us, our hair is a part of our identity, a form of self-expression, and a source of confidence. So, when hair loss strikes, it can feel like a punch to the gut, leaving us feeling vulnerable, insecure, and even depressed.

But while hair loss presents real challenges, there are ways to face this struggle while protecting your mental well-being. Reframing your mindset, finding new ways to express yourself, and seeking support can help you regain control.

The Emotional Toll of Hair Loss

Hair loss can hit hard because it’s tied to how we see ourselves. Here are some reasons it can be emotionally challenging:

Loss of Confidence

Losing your hair can make you feel like you’re losing part of your identity or attractiveness. You might find yourself avoiding mirrors, skipping social events, or feeling uneasy at work.

The good news? You can take steps to rebuild your confidence. Start by seeing a doctor or dermatologist to figure out what’s causing your hair loss — whether it’s genetics, hormones, or another health condition. They can guide you toward hair loss treatments like minoxidil or hair restoration options.

Loss of Control

Hair loss can feel like an unpredictable journey, especially when it stems from factors like genetics, health conditions, or medications. This lack of control over the situation can leave you feeling frustrated and powerless. However, arming yourself with knowledge and seeking professional guidance can help restore a sense of agency.

Fear of Social Stigma

Society often equates a full head of hair with youth and attractiveness, making hair loss feel like a big deal. You might worry about judgment or feel isolated. Remember: hair loss is incredibly common, and embracing it on your own terms can help you regain confidence.

How Hair Loss Affects Mental Health

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Hair loss isn’t just a cosmetic issue; it can have a significant emotional impact. Here’s how it might affect you:

  • Anxiety and stress: Constantly worrying about your hair can create a cycle of stress. Unfortunately, stress can worsen hair loss (a condition called telogen effluvium). Breaking this cycle means addressing both the physical and emotional sides of the issue.
  • Depression: For some people, hair loss can lead to feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or even depression. It’s not just about appearance — it’s about feeling disconnected from yourself and others. If these feelings persist, talking to a therapist can help.
  • Social withdrawal: When you feel self-conscious about your hair, it’s easy to retreat from social interactions. You might avoid events, gatherings, or even everyday conversations because you feel like everyone is noticing your hair. Over time, this isolation can make you feel lonelier and less confident.

Supporting Mental Health During Hair Loss

Dealing with hair loss can be an emotional rollercoaster, but there are practical steps you can take to protect your mental health and rebuild your confidence.

Seek Professional Guidance

Therapists can help you work through the emotions tied to hair loss. Techniques like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can help shift negative thought patterns and build resilience. Joining a support group — online or in-person—can also be a great way to connect with others who understand what you’re going through.

Explore Your Treatment Options

Today’s hair loss treatments offer more choices than ever. Depending on the cause, options might include medications, topical treatments like minoxidil, or even surgical procedures like hair transplants. Consulting a dermatologist can help you create a personalized plan.

Experiment with Alternatives

While waiting for long-term treatments to work, consider wigs, toppers or hairpieces. These options have come a long way in terms of comfort, quality, and appearance. They can provide a confidence boost and allow you to experiment with different looks without committing to permanent changes.

Prioritize Your Overall Health

Your overall health plays a big role in how you feel — and even in the health of your hair. A balanced diet with nutrients like iron, zinc, and biotin can support hair growth. Regular exercise helps manage stress and boosts your mood, which can also help with certain types of hair loss.

Lean on Your Support System

Talking to friends or family members you trust can make a huge difference. Sharing your feelings with someone who listens and offers encouragement can help you feel less alone and more supported.

Hair loss is a personal journey, and it’s normal to feel a mix of emotions as you go through it. The most important thing is to focus on what makes you feel empowered. Whether it’s exploring treatment options, connecting with supportive communities, or finding new ways to express yourself, you have the tools to take charge of your well-being.

No matter where you are in your journey, help is available. With the right support and resources, you can move forward with confidence.

This blog was written by a freelance writer and contains paid links.

Things You May Not Know Can Impact Your Mental And Physical Wellness.

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So many aspects of life can impact your mental and physical health and overall wellbeing. In this blog, we will be focusing on relationship stress, seasonal changes and our homes and how they can impact our wellness.

Your Relationship

Your relationship is one of the things that can impact your health the most. Of course it has the ability to impact your mental health, though we’re also talking about the physical side of things. This is especially apparent if your relationship is full of stress and causing you to struggle mentally. Stress from relationships can trigger skin conditions such as acne and break outs. It can be a reaction that your body is having, to tell you that it needs to slow down and heal.

Relationship troubles can lead to arguments and isolation and cause emotional difficulties. If you’re worried that your relationship is not good for your health, try talking to your partner calmly and in a safe environment. If this is not possible, reach out to a therapist or support network too.

The Season

Time of the year has a huge effect on our mental health, the season changes everything. In the fall (autumn) and the winter it’s far more common for people to be ill with depression due to the weather, than it is in the summer months. People also become more physically unwell too. This could be for a number of reasons, but it’s partially because people’s immune systems are weaker when it’s colder outside. 

So, if you notice that you are getting poorly, that your joints are hurting, that you’re generally feeling unwell, it could be because of the colder weather and season.

Your Home

Your home doesn’t mean to harm you, but sometimes a build up of dust or toxic material, a leaking roof or something else can really cause you problems you can’t avoid. You can try cleaning, making repairs, and even throwing out old furniture and replacing it with new pieces. Oak dining chairs and tables are in fashion right now, so why not consider it?

At the end of the day, there are so many different things that can impact your health and you have to be ready for all of them. It’s important that you remain vigilant, and if something seems to be causing you any issues with your health, you have to work on it asap and reach out for support from your doctor.

This article was written by a freelance writer.

New Year, Rome Holiday and Health by Eleanor

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Hi everyone!

Wishing you all a very Happy New Year 2025!

January can be a challenging month for us all, post the festivities and time off work. I just thought I would write a little update here.

This year, I am looking for a new role in Digital Communications for charities/ lifestyle brands, Journalism or Writing. I have also written the sequel to Arabella and the Worry Cloud– which is very exciting. I loved writing it and hope to work on it further this year :). The story came to me in Summer 2024 and I have been refining it. This month, my story (and my Dads) is also featured in ‘The Inherited Mind’, an amazing book by journalist James Longman about his search to understand whether mental illness is inherited – which is out now with Hyperion Books!

I had some time off over Christmas break and my husband Rob and I spent a wonderful holiday in Rome. It was really wonderful to explore the city (Robs first time there), eat lots of delicious food and just have time together! We tend to go away in the Winter due to Robs annual leave and have lots of lovely memories to sustain us through the new year (we went to the Colosseum and Roman Forum, Stadio Olimpico and Jewish Museum). We visited lots of restaurants and an amazing gelato shop (Marlene’s) and went shopping. We spent New Years Eve eating a yum dinner with wine and it was a very special week.

My health is a work in progress. I am working with the NHS Oviva programme to lose weight at the moment- which I hope will boost my fertility and general health- both mental and physical (and hopefully improve my PCOS). I will give more updates on that when I have experienced more of the programme- but I am working alongside a dietitian and medical professionals.

Mentally, it has not been an easy time and there has been a lot going on outside of all of this, but I am trying to take it day by day, hour by hour and create new opportunities for myself to thrive. There’s times where we all don’t feel good enough and have imposter syndrome. I do believe miracles happen when we choose joy and choose to co-create. The right opportunities will come- career wise, financially and health wise. I have been feeling more anxious at times but every day is different and I am trying to reset and look after myself, and those around me.

Here’s to a a happy and healthy 2025 with lots of amazing things manifesting!

How was your break?

Love,

Eleanor

5 Potent Paths for Prolonged Pain: Where to Turn When Life Feels Overbearing by Meghan Belnap

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Few trials in life are as demanding or relentless as those rooted in chronic physical pain or emotional trauma. For the young adult grappling with long-term afflictions, navigating through daily life can feel like traversing a battlefield with no map and an unreliable compass. 

Seeking Solace in Shared Stories 

When the weight of your struggle seems too heavy to bear, one of the most powerful avenues toward comfort and understanding is through storytelling and shared experiences. Whether you’re dealing with the debilitating effects of chronic illness, the fallout from trauma, or a blend of both, realizing you’re not alone can be profoundly liberating. 

Joining Support Groups 

Surrounding yourself with peers who understand firsthand the turmoil you face can provide a unique and invaluable support system. Consider reaching out to local or online support groups focused on your specific condition or trauma type. Here, you can share your story, glean insights from others’ journeys, and forge connections that transcend your individual pain. When you open up to a circle of understanding listeners, you’ll find that there is collective strength in solidarity. 

Creating Community 

Online forums and social media groups can serve as modern-day campfires, where you can find solidarity and support among those with similar struggles. From these virtual communities, real friendships and mentorships can blossom, creating a network that uplifts and sustains, even on the darkest of days. 

The Healing Art of Expression 

When words fail us, sometimes the canvas, the page, or the stage can amplify our voices. The creative process—whether through visual arts, music, writing, or performance—can be an outlet for the unspoken struggle within us. Engaging in art as a form of therapy not only provides an escape; it can also catalyse healing on a deeper, psychological level. Be careful though!

Exploring Therapy Through Art 

Art therapy, a form of psychotherapy that utilises creative means to express and process emotions, can be particularly powerful for young adults navigating complex internal landscapes. In a safe and guided environment, you can use artistic mediums to explore memories, release pent-up feelings, and discover new perspectives on your pain. 

Finding a Creative Community 

Being part of a creative community can cultivate a shared language around your pain that transcends traditional dialogue. Whether you join a local writers’ group, painting class, or theater troupe, immersing yourself in art alongside others can provide catharsis, camaraderie, and a fresh lens through which to comprehend and cope with your experiences. 

Professional Partners in Your Personal Battle 

With a struggle as intricate and unyielding as chronic pain or emotional trauma, it’s often necessary to call upon specialized professionals who can provide the knowledge and guidance you need to manage and, ideally, overcome your challenges. 

Therapy and Counselling 

The benefits of therapy and counselling for chronic pain and emotional trauma are well-documented. Contacting a skilled therapy center or counselling office can equip you with tools to address the cognitive and emotional aspects of your condition. Cognitive-behavioural therapy, in particular, has shown efficacy in helping individuals reframe their experiences and manage their pain more effectively. 

Seeking Medical Specialists 

Chronic pain often requires a multidisciplinary approach. Connecting with pain management specialists, physical therapists, or holistic health practitioners can lead to innovative treatments and strategies for maintaining your well-being. For those contending with trauma, seeking out psychiatrists, psychologists, or trauma-focused therapists can pave the way toward understanding and healing deep psychological wounds. 

Navigating Life With a Compassionate Guide 

The path to healing and resilience from long-term afflictions is rarely a straight line. Sometimes, having a life coach or mentor—a compassionate and knowledgeable guide—can help you chart a course that aligns with your personal goals and values. 

Life Coaches 

Life coaches work with clients to identify areas of dissatisfaction, set goals, and make strategic plans to achieve those objectives. While a therapist may look into your past to heal emotional wounds, a life coach can help you focus on the present and future, encouraging you to move forward with intention and purpose, despite your struggles. 

The Power of Mentorship 

Mentors, too, can be instrumental in guiding young adults through the labyrinth of chronic pain and trauma. Whether personal or professional, a mentor can offer support, share wisdom, and act as a role model for resilience. A mentor’s insight and perspective can prove invaluable as you learn to not just survive, but thrive, despite the weight you carry. 

Fortifying Your Internal and External Network 

In your darkest moments, it’s crucial to know that there are sources of strength—both internal and external—to which you can turn. These can be practices that you cultivate within, or connections you foster without, that fortify you against the relentlessness of your pain. 

The Power of Daily Practices 

Mindfulness, meditation, yoga, and relaxation techniques can serve as anchors in the storm of chronic pain or trauma. These practices help you tune into your body-mind connection, fostering a sense of control and calm that is often elusive. Establishing a consistent routine of these activities can help reduce stress, manage pain, and improve your overall quality of life. 

Building Resilient Relationships 

Cultivating healthy and supportive relationships can significantly bolster your resilience in the face of chronic pain or trauma. Whether it’s family, close friends, romantic partners, or even pets, the unconditional support and love found in strong relationships can act as a wellspring of hope and comfort. Nurturing these connections—through open communication, empathy, and mutual aid—can create a network of resources that sustain you through even the most challenging times. 

Finding your way through the intricate labyrinth of chronic pain and emotional trauma as a young adult can be daunting, but it’s not a lonely path. By reaching out to these potent sources of support and understanding, you can begin to unravel the complexities of your experiences and piece together a map that leads to a life defined not by your pain, but by your resilience and triumph. 

This article is by Meghan Belnap, freelance writer.

How You Can Achieve A Healthier Lifestyle This New Year.

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It’s about the time of year when everyone decides that they’re going to live a healthier lifestyle. If you’re not sure how you can achieve this goal, don’t worry. There are plenty of changes, some of which are easier to manage than others, that will help you improve your health. You can also do this all year round, not just on New Year’s Eve or for a few weeks in January.

  1. Eat Better

Have you ever heard the saying “you are what you eat”? People often think about it in the vein of weight loss, but that’s the first misconception people have about eating healthily. 

Eating better doesn’t just mean trying to lose weight. Sometimes, weight loss is a part of your lifestyle goals, but not necessarily. In fact, changing your diet just to lose weight can lead to an unhealthy and unsustainable lifestyle. You might lose the weight quickly, but your health could suffer and you’re less likely to maintain the results. 

Instead, focus on a well balanced and nutritious diet. Eat the calories you need and make wise food choices. You don’t need to be too restricted, just controlled. 

  1. Drink Plenty 

No, this isn’t a suggestion to drink more alcohol. While alcohol in moderation isn’t a problem, too much alcohol can be terrible for your health. 

Rather, you should think about how much water you drink. The recommended amount is between 6 and 8 glasses of liquid. It doesn’t have to be water. Tea, coffee, and soft drinks do count. 

However, it’s better to drink mainly water and non-sugar drinks. Soft drinks with a lot of sugar contain loads of calories and have very little nutrition, which isn’t a great combo. 

  1. Cut Out Bad Habits

Speaking of cutting things down, you should definitely think about cutting out bad habits like smoking or substance abuse. 

Smoking causes a huge amount of damage to your body and wallet. While you can go cold turkey and completely cut smoking out, some people find this difficult. NRTs, or nicotine replacement therapies, are a good way to wean yourself off.

If you’re trying to stop a very heavy smoking habit, this is especially helpful. Find treatments that work for you, whether that’s extra strong pouches or another kind of medication. 

  1. Exercise

It’s no secret that good fitness is good for your physical and mental health. 

The key to getting fit is to build yourself up. Don’t try to run a marathon right away. Set small, achievable goals and stick to them. The key is exercising regularly, not becoming an instant athlete. 

  1. Mental Health 

A big part of a healthy lifestyle is your mental health. This will keep you happy and healthy. 

This is easier said than done, especially when you’re balancing your mental health with physical health problems. We have enough to deal with in our lives without adding chronic pain or fatigue into the mix. 

Keep an eye on your mental state and well-being. If you do feel overwhelmed, talk to someone. Whether it’s a friend or a medical professional, talking things out can help you process problems and manage them better. 

Heres to a healthy and happy 2024!

This article was written by a freelance writer.

The Subtle Joys Of Escaping City Life And Returning To Nature.

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Getting out of the city and returning to nature is one of the best ways to improve your mental health – at least, for some people. However, it is also one of the least-discussed options on blogs and by the medical community. There’s an assumption that where you live has little effect on how you feel, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. 

Theories about why cities are so damaging to mental health vary. However, some researchers believe that it stems from a so-called evolutionary mismatch. We evolved in nature, yet cities present us with a radically different environment that changes how we feel by exposing us to excessive light, busyness, and people. 

Here are some of the subtle joys of escaping city life and returning to nature: 

Simplicity

Returning to nature or living a simpler life in a smaller community can give you a sense of simplicity and quietness. It gives you time apart from the endless hustle and bustle of urban life, providing your mind with a break from all the stimulation.

Nature doesn’t rush to do anything, yet harmony and perfection are achieved. As a part of that process, getting away from the city can remind you that you too are a vessel of perfection. 

Belonging

Phoning your conveyancing solicitors and getting them to help you move to a more natural setting can enhance your sense of belonging. Living in a city sometimes makes you feel like you’re an alien visiting from another world, whereas living in nature gives you a sense that you’re going along with everything else, making you feel more connected. 

New Perspectives

Getting out of the city also gives you new perspectives. The bright lights and fast pace disappear, replaced by bucolic scenes and people quietly going about their traditional lives. 

This shift can have a profound effect on your sense of joy immediately. Many people instantly feel happier the moment they move, getting out of the city, and having more space to enjoy their lives and pursue outdoor activities. 

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Personal Growth And Reflection

Getting out of the city also gives you the space you need to grow and reflect on your life. You have the physical and mental space to do more inner work, concentrating on what makes you tick instead of constantly striving to fulfil others’ needs. 

This “quiet time” is something that can also give you new perspectives and help you feel more fulfilled. It gives you the impetus to try fresh and new things in your life, enabling you to experiment and find purpose and meaning where perhaps it might be lacking with a conventional city-based life. 

The Improved Environment

Finally, getting out of the city introduces you to a better environment. While the built-up world can be architecturally stunning, it isn’t always what our bodies and minds need. You can avoid breathing in exhaust fumes linked to brain inflammation and instead, enjoy the clear air every morning. You can also escape the constant din of police sirens and honking horns for a more natural noise environment.

Remember that being in nature, as part of other forms of help, can improve mental health and relaxation. Reach out to your GP or therapist for support too.

This article was written by a freelance writer.

Keeping Yourself In Balance, Mentally And Physically: A Guide by Meghan Belnap.

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In today’s fast-paced, stress-laden world, it can be a real challenge to keep yourself mentally and physically balanced. It’s easy to overlook the impact of your lifestyle choices on your overall well-being and end up feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and burnt out. However, maintaining a healthy mind and body is crucial for long-term happiness and success. This post intends to explore tips and tricks for prioritising your mental and physical health and keeping them in balance. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, depression, or just seeking a more balanced lifestyle, there are answers to follow. 

Eat Healthily 

The food you eat keeps your body in shape and can significantly impact your mental health. Research shows that eating a balanced and nutrient-rich diet can reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. Try incorporating more whole foods, fruits, greens, and lean proteins into your diet, and steer clear of processed foods, refined sugars, and unhealthy fats. If you want to take it a step further, try meal prepping always to have healthy food when you’re in a rush. 

Exercise Regularly 

Exercise is one of the best ways to balance your body and mind. Whether going to the gym, taking a yoga class, or going for a run or walk, exercise releases endorphins that lift your mood and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. Make sure to find something you enjoy that you can stick to long-term. Even if it is just 30 minutes of physical activity daily, you’ll notice a huge difference in your overall well-being. 

Rest and Relax 

With life’s stressors always looming, finding time to rest and relax can be challenging. However, taking care of yourself by getting enough rest is crucial to balancing your mental health. Ensure you are getting enough sleep, aiming for around seven to nine hours per night, and take other measures to relax, such as massage, a bubble bath, or indulging in your favourite hobbies. 

Prioritise Your Mental Health 

Mental health is just as important as physical health. If you’re struggling with depression, anxiety, or another mental health problem, it’s essential to prioritise your mental health. Seek professional mental health care if necessary, talk to trusted friends and family about any concerns, and make sure you take time each day to do things you love. Self-care and meditation can also work wonders to quiet your mind, reduce stress, and ease feelings of anxiety. 

Find Balance in Your Relationships 

Achieving balance in your relationships is also crucial for mental health. Sometimes, unhealthy relationships can lead to unhealthy habits that throw you off balance and make you feel worse. Make sure you only surround yourself with people who support you, respect you, and have your best interests at heart. Ensure you set boundaries, say no when necessary, and openly communicate your needs and feelings. 

Keeping yourself in balance mentally and physically is an ongoing process that requires continual effort and investment. However, the rewards of prioritising your mental and physical health can be nothing short of life-changing. By taking care of yourself and making sure you are eating healthily, exercising regularly, getting enough rest, prioritising your mental health, and finding balance in your relationships, you can achieve a balanced and fulfilling life. So, try some of these tips, and watch yourself grow into the best version of yourself yet. 

Meghan Belnap is a freelance blogger, researcher and writer.

Helping A Loved One Feel More At Ease In A Care Home.

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Making the decision for a loved one to enter a care home is never an easy one. You probably feel guilty for doing it, but the truth is that it will help them get the best possible care as they get older – more than you might be able to give yourself! There’s a lot of negativity about the subject, but many people find their quality of life improves in a care home, and there are things you can do to make that even better. Ultimately, it comes down to making a decision for their best interests, and even if it doesn’t feel that way at first, it soon will.

So what can you do to help them settle in? You can do your bit by finding ways to help them feel more at ease in their new surroundings. Here are some ideas to help your loved one adjust to life in a care home.

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Make their space feel more like their own

One of the biggest changes people face when going from their own home to a care home is the lack of personalisation and familiarity, and feeling like the space isn’t theirs. But there are things you can do to help fix that, including:

  • Decorate their room with things from their own home, including pictures, furniture, rugs, etc.
  • Choose from care home beds that they are happy with (if the home allows you to do this).
  • Add familiar fragrances.
  • Make sure they can indulge in their hobbies and interests with books, TVs, etc.

Talk to your loved one about what would help them settle in and do what you can to make it happen. 


Be there to make things more enjoyable

With your loved one receiving proper residential care, you can be there to help them have fun and stay active, something that might not have been possible while you were caring for them. Use your energy to take them out for trips, help them exercise, and spend quality time with loved ones. The Body Coach even has his own workout series for older people!

Being in a care home doesn’t mean your usual outings and activities have to stop, so you can help them keep up a routine that they enjoy.

Exercise is very important to help improve mobility and mood. Finding ways to help your loved one’s physical health can also benefit their mental health, improving their mood and helping them feel more at ease.


Get to know the staff 

There are a lot of reasons you should get to know the staff at a care home:

  • It can help you be more involved in your loved one’s life by getting to know the other people who are in it.
  • They’ll know more about you and your loved one, which can help them provide better care.
  • If you experience any issues, it’s good to have someone familiar you can talk to.
  • It creates more of a family atmosphere.

Regular visits and chatting with the staff more will help you make those connections, helping you feel more involved in your loved one’s care. It makes things nicer for them and for you, and is a fantastic way for you all to get to know people better. 

You will have all sorts of feelings about your loved one being in a care home, but it’s important that you focus on them and ensure they feel happy and comfortable where they are. Talk to them about what they want and how you can make it happen, helping them settle in quicker so you can both feel more at ease.

This article was written by a freelance writer.