7 Proven Techniques To Calm Anxiety And Reclaim Your Peace Of Mind.

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Anxiety can make ordinary moments feel crowded: a tight chest before a meeting, a loop of worst-case thoughts at night, or a restless sense that something is wrong even when you are safe. Calming anxiety is not about forcing yourself to be endlessly positive. It is about teaching your body and mind how to return to steadiness, one repeatable practice at a time. If you are building a gentler relationship with your inner world, Mind Voyage can be a helpful place to continue that journey.

The National Institute of Mental Health describes anxiety disorders as conditions that can involve excessive fear, worry, avoidance, muscle tension, sleep disruption, and difficulty functioning. That matters because real anxiety deserves real tools, not shame. The seven techniques below are practical, evidence-informed ways to lower the intensity of anxiety and rebuild a sense of control.

1. Breathe Out Longer Than You Breathe In

When anxiety rises, the body often shifts into a threat response: breathing becomes shallow, the heart speeds up, and attention narrows. A simple way to interrupt that spiral is to lengthen the exhale. Try inhaling through the nose for four counts, then exhaling slowly for six counts. Repeat for three to five minutes. The long exhale encourages the parasympathetic nervous system, the branch associated with recovery and calm. Do not worry about doing it perfectly. The goal is not a dramatic transformation in one breath; it is a steady signal of safety repeated until the body begins to listen.

2. Name the Thought, Then Test It

Anxious thoughts sound convincing because they arrive with physical urgency. Instead of arguing with them blindly, write the thought down in one sentence: “I will fail,” “Something bad will happen,” or “I cannot handle this.” Then ask three questions: What evidence supports this? What evidence weakens it? What is a more balanced version? This technique, drawn from cognitive behavioral therapy, helps create distance between you and the fear. You are not denying risk; you are refusing to let anxiety act as the only narrator.

3. Use the 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Method

Grounding is especially useful when your mind is racing into the future. Pause and name five things you can see, four things you can feel, three sounds you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste. Speak them slowly, even if only in your head. This method works by bringing attention back to the present moment through the senses. Anxiety feeds on imagined outcomes. Grounding reminds the nervous system that, right now, you are here.

4. Relax Your Muscles on Purpose

Many people try to calm the mind while the body remains braced. Progressive muscle relaxation reverses that pattern. Starting with your feet, gently tense one muscle group for five seconds, then release for ten seconds. Move upward through the calves, thighs, stomach, shoulders, hands, jaw, and forehead. Notice the difference between tension and release. This practice trains body awareness and can be especially helpful before sleep, after conflict, or during periods of constant pressure.

5. Move Before Anxiety Talks You Out of It

Exercise does not have to be intense to be therapeutic. A brisk walk, gentle yoga, cycling, dancing, or a short strength session can reduce anxious arousal and improve mood. Movement helps metabolize stress chemicals, improves sleep quality, and gives the mind a concrete task. When anxiety says, “I cannot do anything,” make the action smaller: put on shoes, step outside, walk for five minutes. Momentum often returns after the first move, not before it.

6. Reduce Stimulants and Protect Sleep

Anxiety is easier to manage when your body is not running on caffeine, poor sleep, skipped meals, and constant alerts. Try limiting caffeine after late morning, eating regularly, reducing alcohol when anxiety is high, and creating a 30-minute wind-down routine before bed. Put your phone away, dim the lights, and repeat the same calming sequence each night. These basics can sound too simple, but they create the biological conditions that make every other technique more effective.

7. Take Small Steps Toward What You Avoid

Avoidance gives quick relief, which is why it becomes so powerful. The problem is that it also teaches the brain that the avoided situation is dangerous. Choose one small, safe step toward what anxiety wants you to escape: send the message, make the call, sit in the room for two more minutes, or practice the conversation once. Repeat the step until it feels less charged, then move slightly further. Confidence grows through evidence, and evidence comes from action.

Peace of mind is not a permanent state where anxious thoughts never appear. It is the ability to notice fear, steady your body, question the story, and take the next kind step. Start with one technique today and practice it long enough for your nervous system to recognise it. Calm is not a personality trait reserved for a lucky few; it is a skill you can rebuild with patience, repetition, and support.

This post is by Mind Voyage.

We are a Top 10 UK Mental Health Blog by Vuelio (for 9 Years In A Row) This Mental Health Awareness Week!

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Today a wonderful email from Christina at Vuelio here in the UK dropped in my inbox, to say that Be Ur Own Light is a Top 10 UK Mental Health Blog for 2026 (and has been every year since 2018!). I am really not good at blowing my own trumpet but am so proud of this achievement and know that it is a true blessing. Click here to see the full list: https://www.vuelio.com/uk/social-media-index/mental-health-blogs-uk-top-10/

As well as working with some incredible people, brands and collaborators, I am proud of myself for showing up consistently for 10 years to talk about mental health online here and on our social media. The blog has published over 800 posts and has reached so many and I am forever grateful to our readers.

Thank you Vuelio for listing us at No 7 among really fantastic bloggers and blogs (shout out to you all!)

I often get imposter syndrome so will just say thank you to Vuelio and I hope this blog will continue to share about mental health, wellness, bipolar, life and everything in between- and reach even wider audiences online.

With gratitude,

Eleanor

Our Love Is Stronger Than Your Hate: Antisemitism And Mental Health

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Today I want to blog about something a lot of my family, friends and Jewish community worldwide are feeling. This is only my opinion but I am writing to make sense of the senseless hatred that is hitting the UK towards my community.

For the past few years, since October 7th 2023, life for our Jewish community changed overnight. We had the trauma of the hostages being take into captivity, of people murdered and sexually abused, of the war in both Israel and Gaza. But no one could have predicted (unless you work in intelligence) that after the hostages were returned, and with the current war in Iran, British Jewish buildings- synagogues, charity buildings, ambulances saving lives of anyone regardless of faith, would be being firebombed with intent to endanger life across North West London. And in Manchester just 6 months ago at Heaton Park synagogue, people were killed in a terror attack just for being Jewish on the holiest day of our calendar. Indeed, I know people in Manchester who were meant to be in synagogue that day but miraculously were ill so didn’t go- which potentially saved their lives.

Of course, many of us knew about the reach of Iran and it’s proxies- we had the attack too at Bondi Beach and in USA. But to target British Jewish institutions and communities because Israel is at war with Iran, is antisemitic and its not just happening in this country, its global.

So how do I feel?

We can not let them scare us, intimidate us, tell us we can’t live our Jewish lives. Yes, we must be safe and take precautions but we can’t stop our lives, because then the terrorists will win.

It’s an incredibly upsetting and anxiety provoking time and with the constant news of attacks (here and abroad), mental health can dip. So I would say if you’re reading this, please reach out to your Jewish friends and communities. No one should have to be afraid to go and pray or be part of their community in the UK and elsewhere in 2026.

Standing in solidarity with my community and all those being attacked right now.

Love will win- our love is stronger than hate. I am praying we don’t have more attacks here and abroad.

Eleanor

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We’re in FeedSpot’s 20 Best Social Anxiety Blogs To Follow For 2026!

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Thank you to Anuj and team at FeedSpot for selecting as us a Top 20 Social Anxiety Blog on the web for 2026! We are thrilled to be on the list at number 10.

You can see the full list here: https://bloggers.feedspot.com/social_anxiety_blogs/?feed_id=4606511&_src=f1_newcampaign#h4606511

Eleanor x

Living With Severe Functional Neurological Disorder (FND), My Mental Health And Determination To Thrive by Liam Virgo

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Trigger warning: discussions of FND, illness and mental health.

Hi! My name is Liam Virgo and I’m pleased to share my story with Be Your Own Light blog.

In 2016, at age 13 and after months in hospital, I was diagnosed with severe Functional Neurological Disorder (FND). I was suddenly paralysed and unable to speak. I had all my abilities taken away from me and was left severely disabled. For six months my mind switched off and I didn’t know who or what anything was. I don’t remember the early days of my illness and life before it is a blur. My FND resulted in me being bedridden, unable to walk or talk. I felt trapped inside my own body.

Being a prisoner in my own body felt like my body had completely betrayed me. The psychological impact of being locked inside my own body is still felt to this day. It’s been a long hard battle with FND- painful and very isolating. The doctors aren’t sure what caused my FND. All we know is that it happened and I was severely affected by the condition but without any real explanation as to why this was the case. 

However, while I was bed bound I found comfort in a few things and one of them was London. It was my dream to visit the city but because of my FND I wasn’t well enough to go. I was supported by CAMHS (UK NHS child mental health services) for four years and they created London themed progress charts to help motivate me to achieve my wish. 

FND hasn’t only affected my physical health but my mental health too. The impact of severe FND left me with difficult feelings and emotional difficulties. The emotional scars of FND are still felt to this day. Over the years I’ve been supported by Psychiatrists and Psychologists. Some of the overwhelming feelings I experienced and still do are anxiety, I felt misunderstood and isolated. I sometimes became tearful and emotional. I was put on different medications over the years but nothing really helped. I also had many other assessments and strategies used to help understand my mental health including a cognitive test and I also had a mood diary. 

Because of FND I’ve missed years of schooling as I wasn’t well enough to return to education.

Eventually after three years my physical health started to improve and when I was well enough I made it to London and have been back many times since to my favourite place. I went to London with my parents and I loved visiting Central London. I went to all main sights such as London Eye, Big Ben, Tower of London, Buckingham Palace and lots more. 

10 years on, I’m now slowly recovering and learning to walk again. I’m using my voice, the voice that FND stole from me to raise awareness about the condition. I still have very difficult days with FND but I’m learning to live with my new normal and adjusting to life post severe FND. I’ve had a very long journey with FND but I know if I can get through all of that I can get through anything.

At 13, I lost all my abilities to FND but one thing FND could never take from me is my determination.

(image: Liam Virgo)

The medical professionals are unsure if I’ll ever make a full recovery because of the impact of severe FND but I’m now at a stage in my life where I’m able to live with the condition. I’m able to talk and I can move my arms again. I’m no longer bedridden and can walk with support. I still battle with FND daily but I’m determined to never give up hope. I still use a wheelchair but just sitting in a wheelchair is a big achievement for me as I couldn’t tolerate sitting in anything before. 

You can follow Liam on his adventures here on Instagram. Thank you Liam for your bravery in using your voice and sharing your story.

Celebrating A Decade Of Be Ur Own Light Blog- 10 Years!

On 1st March 2016, I wrote my very first blog about my mental health struggles with bipolar disorder and anxiety. For me, it was an outlet to share with friends and family what I was experiencing after one of the worst bipolar episodes I had faced and after hospitalisation in 2014. I didn’t realise that this traumatic time in my life, would also cause my mental health to dip and struggle further as I developed PTSD symptoms (panic attacks) and sat on a 2 year waiting list for NHS therapy. Professional support was not coming easily during this time, and so this blog became not only a therapeutic outlet but a place to connect with others going through similar things. And to explain to those who had never experienced mental illness, exactly what it can do but just how you can support those experiencing it.

Part of me can’t fully believe that I have been blogging consistently for 10 years. There have been times where I have wanted to give up but this little blog has been my saviour and in truth, helped me to launch a writing career that I did not expect and am so grateful for. It has also helped others to share their mental health stories and products, been a platform for mental health campaigns and charities and I am super proud of the impact we have had. One of our biggest accolades is being a Top 10 UK mental health blog by Vuelio every year since 2018- which means we are having a positive impact and reach!

The blog has published over 800 posts, with hundreds of thousands of views! It is read on every continent with a particularly large readership in the USA (as well as UK and other countries). We have covered so many topics- bipolar disorder, PTSD, anxiety disorders, depression, pre and post natal depression, OCD, BPD, eating disorders, psychosis, mania, schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder, trichotillomania, addictions (drug, alcohol, gambling), body dysmorphia and mental health topics like child mental health, work stress, emotional burnout, relationships, domestic and sexual abuse, homelessness. We have shared about wellness products and worked with inspiring health and lifestyle brands.

The blog inspired me to share my own story far and wide – writing for mental health charities Mind, Rethink, Time to Change, Bipolar UK, No Panic, SANE and Metro.co.uk, The Telegraph, Happiful, Glamour, Jewish News, Huff Post. Featured in Cosmopolitan, Elle, Yahoo News and other publications. Thank you particularly to the editors at the publications for sharing my story and believing in my mission! This also led to me writing my book ‘Bring me to Light’ which was published in 2019 by Trigger and remains one of my proudest achievements. I then released my children’s book ‘Arabella and the Worry Cloud’ and had some writing featured in ‘The Book of Hope’ by my friends Jonny Benjamin MBE and Britt Pfluger (an amazing experience!). In 2017-18, I was also involved with setting up the Jami mental health shabbat in my community and spoke in several synagogues and at a community festival Limmud with my Dad, about our journey with bipolar. The same year that I started this blog (2016), I also met my now husband, who supports me through all of my writing and mental health work.

As I look back over the past 10 years, to where we were in 2016 with mental health stigma, I am proud to have played a small part in changing the landscape and narrative online around mental illness, particularly bipolar disorder and psychosis. We have many followers on social media platforms and continue to share about mental health and well being and be a resource for all those who need it, so they never feel alone.

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Thank you to every single contributor (and every reader) to Be Ur Own Light Blog 2016-2026. Your words and belief in our mission to end the stigma around mental illness have meant the world to me. I hope going forward I can continue to share more real stories, more important information on care and treatment and campaign for better care.

There is still a way to go. NHS waiting lists are too long and care is under funded, leading to not enough beds. Mental health stigma online (and sometimes offline) sadly still remains high. As a society, although we have improved, we still need to fully understand mental health conditions and separate them from the person themselves. I am optimistic that things can and will change.

To everyone reading this going through a period of mental ill health or living with a chronic mental illness, I see you and you are never alone. As a blog community, we can come together to empower each other, so no one ever feels invisible and I hope that I can continue to write too.

Thank you, from my heart, for the past 10 years! Here’s to many more years,

Love and gratitude always,

Eleanor

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WiseUp Launches Groundbreaking Digital Detox Journal For Young People As UK Debates Social Media Safety Policy.

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WiseUp Team Building, the multi award winning, UK Youth wellbeing and resilience organisation, has launched WiseUp to Switching Off – a guided programme designed to help young people and families build healthier relationships with screens and technology.

This launch comes at a time when children’s digital wellbeing is at the centre of national discussion, with the UK government recently consulting on measures inspired by Australia’s ban on social media for under-16s as part of wider online safety reforms.

With evidence mounting globally – recent World Health Organization data shows that rates of problematic social media behaviour among adolescents increased from 7% to 11% between 2018 and 2022 and that more than one in ten teenagers may struggle to control their use and experience negative consequences such as disrupted sleep and lower wellbeing – WiseUp’s journal is positioned as a practical alternative to purely restrictive approaches.

A significant proportion of young people report a negative impact on mental health from digital and social media use; a UK Digital Youth Index indicates that approximately 17% of young people aged 8–25 say their internet and digital device use harms their mental health, with the prevalence rising among older teens equating to around 2.5 million young people across the UK.

Richard Wise, CEO of WiseUp, said: “We created WiseUp to Switching Off, a digital detox guide, because families, teachers and young people are increasingly telling us they want positive and practical tools – not more tech bans – to make sense of their digital lives. Screens are now woven into education friendships and culture but when usage becomes compulsive it can undermine sleep focus and emotional wellbeing. Our journal helps young people become aware of their patterns reflect on their experiences and make incremental sustainable changes.

He continued: “Screens themselves aren’t the problem – but the way they pull young people in can be. When scrolling becomes a coping mechanism, when anxiety, loneliness or pressure drive screen use the impact on wellbeing can be profound. WiseUp to Switching Off exists to break that cycle. It gives young people permission to pause, space to breathe and the tools to reconnect with themselves and the world around them — while empowering schools and parents to put wellbeing back at the centre of everyday life.”

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The WiseUp to Switching Off digital journal combines evidence-based education about technology and the brain, practical habit-building tools, daily reflection prompts and offline challenges designed to improve focus sleep and connection with others. It is intended for use both at home and in educational settings complementing Personal Social Health and Economic (PSHE) learning.

Parents and wellbeing leads in schools have reported that the journal has helped young people reduce conflict over screens. It has also improved sleep routines and helped them rediscover offline interests, reinforcing WiseUp’s belief that self-directed change (rather than coercive restriction) is both sustainable and empowering.

WiseUp encourages parents, teachers, practitioners and policymakers to explore the journal and join the ongoing effort to support a balanced digital future for young people. To download your free copy visit the WiseUp website.

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Living In Remission With Bipolar 1 Disorder- Time To Talk Day by Eleanor.

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Time to Talk Day is today and it is ‘the nation’s biggest mental health conversation’. This year’s theme is Brave the Big Talk, have conversations about mental health experiences that might feel a bit unspoken, with an aim to destigmatise mental health issues.

Today I would like to talk about living in remission with Bipolar 1 Disorder (I was diagnosed aged 16 in 2004 and am now 37!). I am lucky that although the illness I have when unmedicated is severe- I have had episodes of psychosis and mania and suicidal depression, and been hospitalised twice, I live in remission these days.

What does remission mean to me?

  • It means my medication (Lithium and Quetaipine- a mood stabiliser and anti psychotic) stops the very high (manic) and very low (depressive) moods and I can cope better. I am still a work in progress but its way less severe!
  • It means that although I have ongoing therapy to deal with past trauma, I don’t need to see a psychiatrist at present and am managed by my GP.
  • It also means that I don’t have to worry too much about bipolar episodes, which is not the same for everyone with our illness! I do however still struggle with anxiety, which I have spoken about before and some days can be harder than others.

Time to Talk Day say, ‘ Talking openly and honestly can be the first step towards better mental health for everyone. It can even save lives. Talking can reduce stigma and help people feel comfortable enough to seek help when they need it.

So whether you talk to a friend or an employee or listen to someone else, you can be making a big difference today. Find more about getting involved here: https://www.mind.org.uk/get-involved/time-to-talk-day/

Thanks to Mind and Rethink Mental Illness for creating such an important day,

Eleanor

10 years Of Jami (And Jewish Care) Mental Health Shabbat by Eleanor

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10 years ago, Rabbi Daniel Epstein and the team at Jami charity had an idea about making the stigmatised topic of mental health in the UK Jewish community be more visible amongst synagogues and organisations. They did this by focusing on the day of rest- Shabbat, with Rabbis and speakers of lived experience or mental health professionals. I was lucky to come on board as a volunteer in the first few years, alongside a wonderful team. My role was to help contact Jewish shuls and organisations by email and in the first year I believe we got the Shabbat in to over 80 organisations and over 100 in subsequent years.

My reason for doing this was because I struggled with bipolar disorder (depression, mania and psychosis) and anxiety/PTSD from when I was 15. I felt that no one really talked about it publicly on a communal level and I was inspired by my friend Jonny Benjamin MBE, who was open about having schizoaffective disorder and taking a sledge hammer to stigma. I also admired the work of Jami in the hubs and with their Head Room Cafe and I wanted to make a difference.

I can’t quite believe that the Jami Mental Health Shabbat is 10 years old this year. The Shabbat enabled me to speak about lived experience with my Dad (who also has bipolar) to two large communities (my childhood one- Bushey and husbands- Chigwell) and my Dad spoke at Belsize Square and Edgware Yeshurun about our joint story. I was diagnosed with bipolar at 16 and my Dad was at 44. We were honoured to help dispell stigma through telling our stories from the pulpit, however difficult they were.

The Shabbat has also enabled thousands of people to have conversations and mental illness is no longer hidden in the shadows to be feared. The theme for the tenth Jami Mental Health Shabbat is ‘Bringing Mental Health to the Table’

Jami says, “This special Shabbat is an opportunity for us to encourage conversations on mental health, raise awareness of mental illness and distress and share ideas on how to support ourselves and others within our community. There are many ways for you, your synagogue, school, student or youth group to get involved and everyone can mark Jami Mental Health Shabbat in their own way. Some communities choose to arrange for members of their congregation to share their lived experience or invite mental health professionals to lead a talk, discussion or panel event.”

This year you can get involved by hosting a meal for JMHS and ask your guests to donate instead of bringing a gift, sign up for the free toolkit of resources (services, activities for all ages and much more) or donate at https://jamiuk.org/donate-to-jmhs_meal/ . For other ways to get involved please see: https://jamiuk.org/get-involved/jmhs/.

Jami Mental Health Shabbat coincides with Torah portion- Bo. On this Shabbat, we read about the plague of darkness, which can be likened to the experiences of many living with mental illness and distress. The Torah portion also talks about how the Israelites, full of hope, could see through the darkness into the light. This special Shabbat is an opportunity for us to encourage conversations on mental health, raise awareness of mental illness and distress and share ideas on how to support ourselves and others within our community. 

As the Shabbat is this weekend, I want to show my support. Although I won’t be sharing our story in shul this year, everyone doing so should be so proud. I will be donating to Jami to show my support.

Where to get help with your mental health

If you or someone you know needs mental health help, there are a variety of options depending on the issue of concern.

  • SHOUT – 24/7 crisis text service – Text Jami to 85258
  • Jami is here to help with mental health support: jamiuk.org/get-support/referral, call 020 8458 2223 or email info@jamiuk.org
  • Jewish Listening Line on 0800 652 9249 (Sunday – Thursday 12:00 – 00:00; Friday 12:00 – 15:00)
  • Jteen support line for young adults https://jteen.co.uk/support/
  • Ring your GP or out of hours service for an emergency appointment
  • Contact your Community Mental Health Team (CMHT) if you have one
  • Samaritans – Call Samaritans on Freephone 116 123 (24 hours a day) 
  • Call the Papyrus HopelineUK, on 0800 068 41 41 or text 88247 if you are under 35 and worried about how you are feeling. Or call if you are worried about a young person. 
  • Call 999 or NHS Direct on 111 (England) or 0845 46 47 (Wales)
  • Don’t hesitate to call 999 in mental health emergencies

Heres to 10 amazing years of mental health conversations!

Eleanor x

Dealing With January Anxiety- Getting Back To Life After A Trip To Venice. By Eleanor

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I was hesitant to write this blog as my husband Rob and I have just come back from a truly wonderful holiday in Venice, Italy and I feel so grateful we had that time together. We had been waiting all year to go away properly and we had the best time. We walked over many bridges, saw some beautiful things such as St Marks Square and Basilica, Museo Correr (where I found the most incredible ballroom that was like the one in Beauty and the Beast- see photo below), The Doges’ Palace and we celebrated Robs birthday by going on a day trip by boat to Murano and Burano Islands. Murano is the home of stunning glassmaking and Burano is the island with the colourful houses and its a UNESCO world heritage site, famous for lace making. It was so pretty! We also toured the Jewish quarter- the ghetto in Cannaregio and synagogues, ate lots of delicious food (pasta and tiramisu) and went to Chabad (the Jewish centre) for shabbat, went shopping, took water buses and gondolas and just really enjoyed the time off work and exploring. Venice is a truly beautiful place and at every turn you can see something new and exciting- whether its a boat or gondola going along the canal or towers of meringues in a bakery window, to seeing an old lady shuffling over a bridge carefully with her stick and Italians carrying their dogs in little bags to keep them warm, Venice is full of character and of life. One of my favourite things was seeing the laundry (yes really) being hung out on pulleys over the canal in the Jewish Ghetto area, as they don’t have gardens.

I surprised myself this trip with how much I was able to do exercise wise. My husband loves to keep busy and lives life at a faster pace than I do and there were mornings where I found this hard and felt overwhelmed by the thought of the day, so rested and went out later in the day. But generally, we were able to go and explore some wonderful things together. There were a few days I did 14,000 steps a day! Which for someone who is quite sedentary normally, I was so pleased I could do this. Venice was just a truly beautiful city- we stayed in a lovely hotel that used to be a Palazzo (Palace) and had Murano glass chandeliers, it also was on the Grand Canal and had a Vaporetto (water bus) and Water taxi stop. Exploring the city with my husband gave me such a lovely focus and I was really amazed by how much I was able to do, how much walking I did, which proved to me that I can be active and explore.

(image: E Mandelstam- Museo Correr)

Coming home, I have felt hugely grateful to have had this time with Rob. However, adjusting back to normal life in January is hard anyway, but after a holiday I find my anxiety rises a bit. There have been plans I wanted to do here that I havn’t been able to do. However, I am working on it and on exposure therapy with myself to try and do more things here, go out the house more (as I work from home) and do what I can so that my anxiety doesn’t stop me from living my life.

When you have an anxiety disorder, it can be tough sometimes to go outside, to meet people, to do basic things in your normal environment. The weather is cold and dark early, all you want to do is hibernate. Which I feel is OK! I do notice though that its when I start feeling more anxious and unable to do things and can’t push myself that I have to take a step back and start looking after myself, just plan in a few small things to achieve. Overplanning for me tends to be a disaster! Even on holiday, if there was too much planned in, I found I couldn’t always do it and so we had to adapt plans, but I still did lots so to me, that was a win.

The January blues can be hard whether you have been lucky enough to go away or whether you are here and contemplating a brand new year and what it can bring. Remember to be kind to yourself and make things achievable. Whether you’re looking for a new job or you want to achieve another goal, know it will unfold at the right time. I am not good with being patient, but sometimes we have to be!

If you are struggling with your mental health and you need more support, please reach out to your GP, psychiatrist or therapist if you have one. I find things like taking my medication on time and getting enough rest also help me too. I am also counting the wins of thank G-d being well enough to travel and enjoying that time with my husband. I still achieved things and I have to remember I am capable of more than I think sometimes. The most important thing for me is making I do not spend too much time indoors- as the anxiety can then worsen.

(image: E Mandelstam- Cannaregio gondola)

How are you finding the January blues/ anxiety?

Eleanor x