This weekend was World Mental Health Day, an important day to shine a light on mental health and people with lived experience of depression, anxiety disorders, bipolar, psychosis, eating disorders, schizophrenia, OCD, PTSD, BPD, EUPD and many other conditions.
Today I want to tell you- do not suffer in silence. If you are struggling please tell a loved one, a therapist or a trusted GP. There are also incredible helplines including Samaritans (116 123 in UK), JTeen, SHOUT and UK charities running services including Noa Girls UK, Jami, SANE, Mind Charity, Bipolar UK and Rethink Mental Illness.
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Ive written about my journey with Bipolar 1 and PTSD/Panic disorder. Please make sure you do not suffer with painful feelings or dark thoughts alone. Talking saved my life and I hope it will help you on the road to recovery. You matter and you are not alone.
You can also call NHS 111 option 2 for urgent mental health support and call 999 for emergencies.
Remember the theme this year is for those of us with lived experience to talk safely and make change where we can.
Recently, I received an email about an incredible project by ‘Steel from Gladiators’ star Zack George who has launched the Zactiv Glimmer Pad. This is a brand new tool designed to support children’s overall health and wellbeing.
I was told that ‘Taking a holistic approach, the Glimmer Pad combines journalling, creative activities, and positive habit building to support both mental and physical health.’
The product builds on the success of Zactiv, Zack George’s children’s wellbeing programme, which is already booked through to February 2028 and reaches over 5,000 children aged 5 to 11 each month in schools. Known for combining movement, confidence building, and mindset coaching, Zactiv has rapidly become a trusted name in children’s development, with the Glimmer Pad extending that experience into children’s everyday routines at home.
Children are guided to reflect on their day, explore their emotions, and build healthy routines through structured diary pages. The introduction of “glimmers” encourages them to focus on small positive moments, helping to reduce stress and build a more balanced outlook. There are also beautiful colouring pages with positive motivational words and stories about healthy eating and fitness, suitable for kids.
The Glimmer Pad has been shaped by Zack’s work with teachers in schools and by coaching tools from Happy Confident Kids. As a Dad himself, Zack has seen first-hand how important it is to create simple, positive activities that children genuinely enjoy engaging with away from screens.
Zack said, “Health is not just about being active. It is about how you think, how you feel, and the habits you build every day. The Glimmer Pad is designed to support the whole child, inside and out.”
(image: Zack George)
The launch comes as concerns around children’s screen time and wellbeing continue to grow. By encouraging reduced screen time and more mindful activities, the Glimmer Pad helps children create healthier daily patterns while building confidence and emotional awareness. Built around the message Strong Body, Calm Mind, Happy Heart, the Zactiv Glimmer Pad offers a simple yet effective way to support children’s long-term wellbeing.
From a personal view, I was honoured to be sent a Zactiv Glimmer Pad to review. It has a vibrant orange colour with motivational messages. This pad teaches children how to use their journal pages to describe their feelings and defines what glimmers are and a growth mindset. It also helps children to understand healthy eating and to be aware of their emotions daily. I particularly loved the positive colouring pages and stories at the back and I would recommend the Glimmer Pad to parents and carers of children, to help teach about emotions and healthy living.
The Zactiv Glimmer Pad is available now from www.glimmerpad.co.uk and Amazon UK, priced at £24.99.
I received a gifted Glimmer Pad in exchange for an honest review, all views my own.
This week I was on a call with a very special friend, the talented illustrator of Arabella and the Worry Cloud (our kids book on anxiety)- Shelley. I was speaking to her about the challenges of being a self-employed independent writer- financial and as a founder, everything being on you. She told me to believe in myself and my writing and not give up! Those kind words have meant everything during a challenging time.
Then, today, I decided to pick an affirmation from my flip chart (that another lovely friend had got me for my birthday) without looking. I flipped the chart over and not only does it have pink roses (a special flower to me that is a positive sign I asked for) but I received the message,
‘The greatest things take time so never give up.’
And so, even though being a writer, a creative can be exhausting when you aren’t famous with lots of money coming in- I remember why I wrote Arabella, the children I wrote for and who need to hear its message. And because I have had this message twice this week, I will not give up. On my writing, on my journey through life and its ups and downs. I won’t give up on my first book either.
Today’s blog is about a very special calming self care gift box – The Steady Box that was kindly sent to me by post to review from James Marchant at The Little Box of Mindfulness here in the UK.
I chose the Steady Box to review as someone who lives with an anxiety disorder at times and I wanted to see this self care box and how it can help calm anxiety by being mindful. The Steady Box is created for ‘people navigating anxiety, worry or emotionally overwhelming periods. A thoughtful gift designed to bring grounding, reassurance and gentle moments of calm.’. The Steady Box creates space for pause, presence and the feeling of being supported.
I opened the little black box and on the packaging it says ‘You are in someone’s mind this moment is yours‘. So already as you open it, you are feeling loved and welcomed. Each box also includes access to digital mindfulness practices, extending the feeling of care long after the gift is received. When you open the little box which is compact and fits through a letter box easily, you open to a winking face and a message- ‘You are not your thoughts, this moment is yours. Breathe. You’ve got this.‘ and some beautiful resources nestled within:
(image: The Little Box of Mindfulness)
A painted blue and cream handcrafted ceramic thumb stone (created by a local potter) to help with mindfulness and slow breathing when anxious. You hold it between your thumb and finger, focus mindfully on its texture and weight and then breathe slowly, returning to the present. The stone feels so calming and will make a lovely gift to a friend or loved one who needs to practise calming anxiety through mindfulness and breathing.
A Little Mindfulness box- a ‘Pause Pack’ containing items to help you ‘reconnect and reflect’, exploring at your own pace. These contain reflection cards with calming photos, affirmations about dealing with anxiety and lifes challenges( and finding strength and peace) and on the back, mindfulness prompts. They remind you to be in this moment, be still, breathe, name and ground yourself in the present;
There is also a leaflet teaching you how to ground yourself in the present (eg 5 things you can see, 4 things you can heal, 3 things you can hear) and a QR code for digital mindfulness resources that James has curated online.
Lastly, the box includes a Mindful Checklist card where you can tick off activities to help calm anxiety through mindfulness eg ‘I drank some water’, ‘I moved my body’, ‘I reminded myself I am safe’, I let go of one unhelpful thought’ , ‘I paused and noticed my breath.‘
(image: Little Box of Mindfulness)
This box retails at £15 and it makes the perfect letter box gift to send to a friend that needs to breathe, find a moment of peace to steady and ground themselves. I would recommend it as someone who lives with anxiety- I particularly liked the calming activity of slowing down and breathing with the thumbstone. As someone who has learnt a bit about how to practise mindfulness, I would say this box would be particularly useful at managing anxiety before it turns into a panic attack.
The Little Box of Mindfulness describes this as a’ refined letterbox gift for moments when words feel hard to find. A way to offer reassurance, presence and the quiet message that someone is thinking of them.‘. I would agree that it would make a lovely gift to send to reassure someone!
James Marchant, the founder and creator of the Little Box of Mindfulness, said to me, “I created these boxes with the simple hope of helping people feel remembered and supported during difficult moments, so it means a great deal to know the Steady Box resonated with you personally.” I truly love these products and the story behind them!
James created ‘The Little Box of Mindfulness’ due to his own battle with anxiety, stress and career burn out. He says, ” I’ve experienced anxiety in my own life and have seen first-hand how difficult moments can affect both individuals and families.The Little Box Of Mindfulness was created from a simple belief: when someone is struggling, small acts of kindness can make a real difference.Sometimes it’s hard to know what to say or how to help. My hope is that these letterbox gifts make it a little easier to reach out and remind someone they’re not alone.”
James’ story is so inspiring and I truly love these gift boxes and the concept. As well as the Steady Box there are two other boxes in the mindfulness range. They also sell beautiful self care mental health gift sets for thinking of you, bereavement, stress and burn out which are lovely and contain different treats. You can see all the mental health gift sets here: https://littleboxofmindfulness.co.uk/collections/mental-health-gift
Thank you James for gifting me this wonderful box to review!
(Image: Little Box of Mindfulness)
This article is a sponsored and gifted review. All thoughts on the product are my genuine review.
Stress is a normal part of life, but when it becomes persistent or overwhelming, it can have a significant impact on emotional wellbeing, physical health, relationships, and overall quality of life. Many people experience periods of increased stress due to work responsibilities, family obligations, financial concerns, health issues, or major life changes. While occasional stress is expected, chronic stress and anxiety can gradually interfere with daily functioning and make even simple tasks feel difficult.
One of the most common signs that stress is becoming problematic is when it begins affecting sleep. People may struggle to fall asleep, wake frequently throughout the night, or wake up feeling exhausted despite getting several hours of rest. Poor sleep often contributes to increased irritability, difficulty concentrating, memory problems, and reduced productivity during the day. Over time, this cycle can become difficult to break without addressing the underlying causes.
Anxiety can also present itself in many different ways. Some individuals experience constant worrying or racing thoughts that are difficult to control. Others notice physical symptoms such as muscle tension, headaches, rapid heartbeat, stomach discomfort, sweating, or feelings of restlessness. These physical symptoms are real and can significantly impact daily life, even when there is no immediate danger or threat present.
Another important sign of ongoing anxiety is avoiding situations that once felt comfortable. Someone may begin declining social invitations, avoiding public places, postponing important decisions, or putting off responsibilities because they feel overwhelmed. While avoidance may provide temporary relief, it often strengthens anxiety over time and makes returning to normal activities increasingly difficult.
Stress and anxiety frequently affect workplace performance as well. Individuals may find themselves struggling to stay focused during meetings, completing projects more slowly than usual, or feeling mentally exhausted by routine responsibilities. Decision-making may become more difficult, and confidence can gradually decrease. These challenges are common and should not be viewed as personal weaknesses but rather as potential indicators that additional support could be beneficial.
Relationships can also be impacted. Increased stress may cause someone to become more withdrawn, impatient, or emotionally reactive. Misunderstandings with spouses, family members, friends, or coworkers may occur more frequently. Loved ones often notice changes in mood before the individual fully recognizes them. Open communication and early intervention can help prevent these difficulties from becoming more serious.
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Healthy coping strategies play an important role in managing everyday stress. Regular physical activity has consistently been shown to improve mood and reduce anxiety symptoms by releasing natural chemicals that promote emotional well-being. Even moderate activities such as walking, cycling, or yoga can provide meaningful benefits when performed consistently.
Maintaining healthy sleep habits is equally important. Going to bed and waking up at consistent times, limiting caffeine later in the day, reducing screen time before bedtime, and creating a relaxing evening routine may improve sleep quality. Nutrition also contributes to mental wellness, as balanced meals help support stable energy levels and brain function throughout the day.
Mindfulness techniques, deep breathing exercises, meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation can help reduce the body’s stress response. Many individuals also benefit from journaling, spending time outdoors, engaging in hobbies, or maintaining meaningful social connections with supportive friends and family members.
However, self care alone is not always enough. When symptoms persist for several weeks, interfere with work or relationships, or significantly reduce quality of life, speaking with a qualified mental health professional can be an important next step. A comprehensive psychiatric evaluation helps identify contributing factors and allows treatment recommendations to be tailored to each individual’s unique circumstances.
Modern psychiatric care often includes a combination of approaches. Depending on a person’s needs, treatment may involve psychotherapy, medication management, lifestyle recommendations, or collaboration with therapists and primary care physicians. Every treatment plan should be individualized, with ongoing monitoring to ensure that progress continues and adjustments are made when necessary.
Seeking help early can often prevent symptoms from becoming more severe. Mental health conditions are highly treatable, and many individuals experience substantial improvement with appropriate care. Reaching out for professional guidance demonstrates strength and a commitment to long-term health rather than weakness.
If you or someone you care about has been struggling with persistent anxiety, chronic stress, mood changes, difficulty sleeping, or emotional challenges that interfere with daily life, consulting aCarmel IN psychiatrist can provide valuable guidance, accurate diagnosis, and personalised treatment options designed to help restore emotional wellness and improve overall quality of life.
One year and a half after my bipolar 1 diagnosis and after a hospitalisation.
On holiday with friends in Spain and already on medication to stabilise my mental health. So many children now are on waiting lists for NHS CAMHS to even get to see a psychiatrist.
It is my hope and prayer that the government fund mental health services and improve access to healthcare. Or people will die from suicide or become hugely unwell.
I support the work of Mind and Rethink Mental Illness in highlighting and campaigning for this.
I was in the Priory North London adolescent unit in 2004 which was funded by the NHS and I had so much help after a mixed bipolar episode became psychosis. The psychiatrists were so caring.
We need more support for the next generation. Please to the UK government- fund CAMHS NHS services!
Today a wonderful email from Christina at Vuelio here in the UK dropped in my inbox, to say that Be Ur Own Light is a Top 10 UK Mental Health Blog for 2026 (and has been every year since 2018!). I am really not good at blowing my own trumpet but am so proud of this achievement and know that it is a true blessing. Click here to see the full list: https://www.vuelio.com/uk/social-media-index/mental-health-blogs-uk-top-10/
As well as working with some incredible people, brands and collaborators, I am proud of myself for showing up consistently for 10 years to talk about mental health online here and on our social media. The blog has published over 800 posts and has reached so many and I am forever grateful to our readers.
Thank you Vuelio for listing us at No 7 among really fantastic bloggers and blogs (shout out to you all!)
I often get imposter syndrome so will just say thank you to Vuelio and I hope this blog will continue to share about mental health, wellness, bipolar, life and everything in between- and reach even wider audiences online.
It’s Mental Health Awareness Week (with the Mental Health Foundation) and this year’s theme is Take Action for good mental health- for yourself or a loved one and for the wider community. They say, “we’re asking people to join us in taking action to support good mental health. Even small actions can help us feel hopeful and less powerless. And while our individual actions matter, when we come together we are even more powerful.”
Real change happens when we take action. Here’s some Top 10 tips from the Mental Health Foundation of simple actions to support good mental health, lift your mood and improve your ability to cope with life:
Plan something to look forward to– Making plans for things we enjoy can increase our sense of hope, which is important for our mental health. It could be a plan to sit down with a cup of tea and take a quiet five minutes, or a long-term plan for an ambitious trip. Whether it’s a big or small goal, the important thing is to plan it.
2. Eat Well- One of the simplest ways to improve mental health is by eating a healthy, balanced diet. Not only can it support your emotional health, but introducing small habits, such as staying hydrated or having fruit snacks, can help make changes stick easier.
3. Get closer to nature- Spending time in nature can boost your mood, lessen stress, and help you concentrate.
4. Get good sleep- Good quality sleep helps your brain work better, lifts your mood, and is good for your overall health.
5. Get Creative– Spending time on creative activities is a great way to help ease stress and anxiety. Carve out some time to listen to music, paint, sing, or do whatever you enjoy most.
6. Move regularly- Being active can boost your mood and raise your self-esteem. It’s also an effective stress management technique. Whether you go for a walk, do some yoga, or vigorously clean the kitchen, it all counts.
7. Try Mindfulness- Being fully aware in the present moment can positively change the way you feel about life and how you approach challenges. Aim to notice the colour of the sky, the sound of leaves, or the feeling of your feet on the ground.
8. Friends- Having good relationships with others can help you feel like you belong, allow you to share experiences, and receive emotional support. It’s a great reason to have a catch-up with a friend on the phone.
9. Be Kind to yourself– Bad days happen to everyone. If you’re having a tough time, remember to treat yourself with kindness and understanding. You’re doing the best you can.
10. Talk things over with someone you trust- It can take a lot of courage to tell someone else how we’re feeling or what we’re finding hard. Just talking things through with a person we trust can feel like a relief and make us feel less alone.
There are times when some of the above will be or feel too much, for example if facing a deep depression or a serious episode of mental illness. In these cases, the most important thing is to reach for help from your doctor or therapist (or both) and get referred in to mental health services to see a psychiatrist. Practising self care such as eating, sleeping and taking prescribed medication as well as simple things like showering and getting dressed can make a big difference on a day to day basis.
Remember that you are not alone and that you have so much to give and offer to the world. Take small achievable actions and reach for help and support from a trusted place, charity or helpline.
Support lines in the UK:
First port of call if a new referral (not already known) is to call 111 or request an urgent GP appointment
Thank you to Anuj and team at FeedSpot for selecting as us a Top 20 Social Anxiety Blog on the web for 2026! We are thrilled to be on the list at number 10.
Trigger warning: discussions of FND, illness and mental health.
Hi! My name is Liam Virgo and I’m pleased to share my story with Be Your Own Light blog.
In 2016, at age 13 and after months in hospital, I was diagnosed with severe Functional Neurological Disorder (FND). I was suddenly paralysed and unable to speak. I had all my abilities taken away from me and was left severely disabled. For six months my mind switched off and I didn’t know who or what anything was. I don’t remember the early days of my illness and life before it is a blur. My FND resulted in me being bedridden, unable to walk or talk. I felt trapped inside my own body.
Being a prisoner in my own body felt like my body had completely betrayed me. The psychological impact of being locked inside my own body is still felt to this day. It’s been a long hard battle with FND- painful and very isolating. The doctors aren’t sure what caused my FND. All we know is that it happened and I was severely affected by the condition but without any real explanation as to why this was the case.
However, while I was bed bound I found comfort in a few things and one of them was London. It was my dream to visit the city but because of my FND I wasn’t well enough to go. I was supported by CAMHS (UK NHS child mental health services) for four years and they created London themed progress charts to help motivate me to achieve my wish.
FND hasn’t only affected my physical health but my mental health too. The impact of severe FND left me with difficult feelings and emotional difficulties. The emotional scars of FND are still felt to this day. Over the years I’ve been supported by Psychiatrists and Psychologists. Some of the overwhelming feelings I experienced and still do are anxiety, I felt misunderstood and isolated. I sometimes became tearful and emotional. I was put on different medications over the years but nothing really helped. I also had many other assessments and strategies used to help understand my mental health including a cognitive test and I also had a mood diary.
Because of FND I’ve missed years of schooling as I wasn’t well enough to return to education.
Eventually after three years my physical health started to improve and when I was well enough I made it to London and have been back many times since to my favourite place. I went to London with my parents and I loved visiting Central London. I went to all main sights such as London Eye, Big Ben, Tower of London, Buckingham Palace and lots more.
10 years on, I’m now slowly recovering and learning to walk again. I’m using my voice, the voice that FND stole from me to raise awareness about the condition. I still have very difficult days with FND but I’m learning to live with my new normal and adjusting to life post severe FND. I’ve had a very long journey with FND but I know if I can get through all of that I can get through anything.
At 13, I lost all my abilities to FND but one thing FND could never take from me is my determination.
(image: Liam Virgo)
The medical professionals are unsure if I’ll ever make a full recovery because of the impact of severe FND but I’m now at a stage in my life where I’m able to live with the condition. I’m able to talk and I can move my arms again. I’m no longer bedridden and can walk with support. I still battle with FND daily but I’m determined to never give up hope. I still use a wheelchair but just sitting in a wheelchair is a big achievement for me as I couldn’t tolerate sitting in anything before.
You can follow Liam on his adventures here on Instagram.Thank you Liam for your bravery in using your voice and sharing your story.