Sometimes life feels like a constant effort to keep up. We try to do things the “right” way, to make choices that look successful, to follow what others say will make us happy. Yet inside, many of us still feel anxious, confused, or tired. We wonder why it seems easier for others to find peace or purpose.
Human Design offers a different way to understand yourself. It is not about fixing or changing who you are. It is about learning how you naturally work: your energy, emotions, and ways of making decisions. When you understand this, life can start to feel lighter and more peaceful.
You can get a free Human Design Chart online using your birth details. The chart may look unusual at first, but it gives insight into how you are wired, how you connect with others, what drains you, and what supports your wellbeing.
So much of our mental stress comes from trying to be someone we are not. Human Design can help you see that your way of being is not wrong, it is simply different.
For example, some people are made to act quickly and follow their gut. Others are meant to take time and wait until things feel clear. If you are naturally the second type, trying to rush decisions can create anxiety or pressure. Learning your own rhythm helps you slow down and trust yourself. That simple understanding can calm the mind and reduce self-doubt.
Human Design reminds us that there is no single right way to live. Everyone has a different type of energy and purpose. When we stop comparing ourselves to others, something inside us relaxes.
You may begin to notice when your energy feels low and choose rest instead of pushing through. You might stop blaming yourself for needing quiet time or for feeling different. This acceptance helps reduce guilt and stress, which are heavy weights on mental health.
Another quiet gift of Human Design is how it can improve relationships. We often expect others to think, feel, or react the way we do. But when you understand that people have different emotional patterns and decision styles, it becomes easier to give space and kindness.
You may find more patience with your partner or family. You may notice that certain people energize you while others drain you, and you can make choices that protect your peace. Healthier connections grow from understanding, not control.
Human Design is not a quick fix. It is more like a mirror that helps you see yourself clearly. You can explore at your own pace, and you do not have to believe in anything spiritual to find meaning in it. It is simply a way to understand your patterns and give yourself permission to live more gently.
If you want to explore further, you can look into Human Design Software to study your chart more deeply and learn how your energy works day to day. But even just reading your basic chart can spark a lot of reflection and relief.
Good mental health often begins with acceptance. Human Design invites you to stop forcing yourself to fit an idea of how life “should” be and to start listening to what feels right for you.
When you live closer to your true design, life often feels softer. You react less, you rest more, and you start to trust that your own way is enough. There is no competition in that, just a quiet kind of peace.
In the end, Human Design is simply one more way to understand yourself with kindness. And that kindness, over time, becomes the foundation for healing.
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When I had my son in 2022, I was overwhelmed in the best way possible.
He was blonde, blue-eyed perfection, and I fell completely in love with him. As he grew, I realised how much I enjoyed being his mum, so much that I knew I wanted to expand our family. That longing feeling stuck around until I asked my husband, “Shall we have another one? I know it’s early but I’m ready,” which he obviously was happy to!
In July 2023, I fell pregnant again with my daughter. The timing overlapped with a busy summer, including marrying my husband, Oskar, in August. With everything going on, those early weeks of pregnancy passed quickly, and my mind was completely preoccupied with wedding plans and family life.
But once things calmed down and the routine returned, something shifted.
When Everyday Anxiety Turned Into Something Bigger
By early autumn, I began to feel a growing sense of anxiety that didn’t feel like my usual ups and downs. By October, it reached a point where I struggled to leave the house.
Even thinking about stepping outside would trigger panic, and it could take hours to build up the confidence to even think about stepping foot out of the door. I was consumed by fear, anxiety and the panic attacks were frequent.
I’m naturally quite open about how I feel, so I told my husband directly that something wasn’t right and that the anxiety was starting to affect my mood, and I could feel myself slipping into depression.
The guilt that followed made everything heavier.
I felt like I was letting my son down because our daily walks stopped. I worried he wasn’t getting the best version of me anymore. And the more I thought about it, the more overwhelming it all became.
My husband, being the steady and practical person he is, simply said, “Alright then Georgie, let’s get it sorted.”
Speaking Up at My Midwife Appointment
When my next midwife appointment came around, he came with me. I have a habit of downplaying things, and he wanted to make sure I didn’t brush it off.
When she asked how I was feeling, he gently stepped in and explained what had been happening.
What happened next was something I’ll always be grateful for.
Our midwife, by complete luck, was a former mental health consultant. She listened without judgement, spoke to me with genuine kindness, and immediately discussed practical steps to help me manage the anxiety.
Before I left the appointment, she’d already referred me to perinatal mental health services.
Every single time anyone asks about midwives in our area, I always rave about her because of this. She was the best person for the job, for me.
(image: Georgia Anne)
Getting Support: Talking Therapies & Medication
Within a month, I had started talking therapies, and I was given a low dosage of anti depressant, sertraline. It was a huge relief to finally feel like something was moving in the right direction.
I continued with therapy throughout the pregnancy, and in March, my daughter, Freya, was born. Giving my children a small but beautiful 17 month age gap.
After the birth, a mental health consultant at the hospital sat with me to talk through how I was feeling. We discussed baby blues, hormonal crashes, and how to manage my medication over the next few weeks.
And honestly, the main emotion I felt that day was relief. She was here. Safe. Healthy. And I’d made it through.
Where I Am Now
Freya is now a lively toddler: walking, talking, exploring everything.
I’m still on my treatment plan, and I’m okay with that. The difference in how I feel is huge. I can leave the house without fear. I no longer carry the weight of guilt or the worry that I’m letting my children down. I feel lighter, calmer, and more grounded. I’ve learned so much during my time in therapy, the coping mechanisms to help on bad days, the affirmations to remind myself of how far I’ve come and most importantly: how to open up and be completely vulnerable.
I often think back on that period in my life and feel a sense of pride that I was honest with my husband, and that he spoke up for me and didn’t let me sugarcoat.
What I Learned And What I Want Others to Know
Mental health care is not a luxury. It’s essential, especially during pregnancy because it’s a time when so many physical and emotional changes are happening at once.
Reaching out to my midwife and being honest about how I was feeling was the most important step I took. It led to support that genuinely changed my experience of pregnancy and early motherhood.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, low, or unlike yourself during pregnancy, please know this:
You’re not alone, and you deserve support just as much as anyone else.
There is help available through midwives, GPs, perinatal mental health teams, talking therapies, charities, and NHS services.
Reaching out doesn’t make you weak. It’s the first step toward feeling like yourself again.
Georgia Anne is a UK lifestyle blogger who writes about motherhood, identity, and alternative living. After experiencing pregnancy-related anxiety, she became passionate about speaking openly about maternal mental health and helping others feel less alone. She lives in England with her husband and two children, and shares her honest reflections at georgiaanne.co.uk.
I was delighted to collaborate with JTeen mental health support helpline and service for Jewish teens and young adults aged 11-24, on a podcast talking about my journey with bipolar disorder and social anxiety. I did this to help others and encourage people to seek help, and show its OK to talk about mental illness.
You can watch the podcast here, please watch with care: Trigger warning: discusses suicidal ideation, psychosis, mania, being sectioned under the mental health act and depression. Suitable for 18+
I decided to do this podcast to fight stigma in the Jewish community in London and worldwide and educate people about bipolar, especially parents as it started for me at the age of 15.
Thank you to Yaakov, Tehilla and Michal for making this such a relaxed but important conversation.
When people begin looking for psychological support, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or CBT for short, is one of the most well-known and accessible forms of psychotherapy. Recently, more and more therapists are offering Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), particularly for trauma.Both are well established, evidence-based treatments that can help people move forward from distressing experiences — but they do so in quite different ways.
If you’ve been wondering what sets them apart, or which might be the best fit for you, this post aims to break down the differences in a clear and down-to-earth way.
Understanding CBT
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is arguably the most widely accessed and researched psychological approaches, particularly in the UK. It’s based on the understanding that our thoughts, emotions, physical sensations, and behaviours are all connected. When one of these areas becomes unhelpful — for example, when our thoughts become overly negative or worrisome — it creates a negative cycle that keeps us stuck and in turn maintains that distress.
CBT helps a person to notice these patterns and challenge them with practical, realistic alternatives. The aim is not to “think positively” but to think more accurately. For instance, if you often find yourself thinking “I always mess things up,” CBT would explore the evidence for and against that thought, helping you see the situation in a more balanced light.
Sessions are focused on the present and typically structured towards achieving mutually agreed goals. There is less emphasis on the past and childhood, although this can be useful to consider in relation to the development of a person’s belief system or how they see the world today. This, in turn, influences a person’s responses to distress. CBT continues outside of sessions as clients engage in task such as trying alternative response to distress, or journalling at challenging times.
CBT for trauma focuses on making changes to the way a person thinks about a traumatic event, and themselves within that event. Re-living is a key element of CBT for trauma and enables the person to safely revisits the traumatic memory in a structured, supportive way with their therapist. This allows the brain to process the event as a memory, rather than something that is still happening now, which in turn reduces distress around the event and any associated flashbacks or nightmares. The overall aim is to reduce distress, restore a sense of safety and control, and help the person make sense of what happened so the trauma feels like something from the past — not something still happening in the present.
CBT is highly effective for anxiety, low mood/depression, panic attacks, phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), PTSD/trauma, poor sleep/insomnia and many other mental health difficulties.
Understanding EMDR
Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) might sound unusual at first — after all, what do eye movements have to do with mental health? Yet EMDR is a powerful, evidence-based therapy originally developed to help people recover from trauma.
The theory behind EMDR is that when something distressing happens, our brains sometimes struggle to process it properly. The memory can get “stuck,” remaining vivid and the person continues to experience the fear as if the event is happening again. EMDR helps the brain work through these memories so they can be stored more adaptively — as something that happened in the past, rather than something that continues to feel threatening now.
During EMDR sessions, the therapist will guide you through sets of bilateral stimulation — this could involve following their fingers with your eyes, hearing alternating tones through headphones, or feeling gentle taps on your hands. This process is thought to mimic the way the brain naturally processes memories during REM sleep.
One benefit of EMDR is that it’s not necessary to go into detail about the event if you don’t want to. The focus is on how it feels in your body and what comes up in the moment. Over time, people often report that distressing memories lose their emotional intensity, and the beliefs tied to those experiences begin to shift to something most positive and empowering, rather than fearful or critical.
Can CBT and EMDR Be Combined?
Absolutely. Many therapists are trained in both and will tailor the approach depending on your needs. For example, someone with trauma may start with CBT techniques to manage anxiety and develop coping skills, then move into EMDR once they feel more grounded and ready to process deeper memories. In some cases, EMDR can help resolve traumatic roots of long-standing patterns, while CBT provides the tools and strategies to maintain progress in day-to-day life.
It isn’t about one being “better” than the other — it’s about finding what works for you, at the right time and pace.
Which One Should You Choose?
If you’re feeling stuck in unhelpful thoughts or patterns — for example, overthinking, avoidance, or self-criticism — CBT can be a great place to start. It’s structured, practical, and gives you tools you can continue using long after therapy ends. If you’ve experienced trauma, flashbacks, or distressing memories that feel “frozen in time,” EMDR might be more suitable. It’s gentle yet powerful, and often helps people move on from experiences they’ve been carrying for years.
Ultimately, the best way to decide is to talk with a qualified therapist who can help assess your situation and guide you towards the most appropriate treatment.
Final Thoughts
Both CBT and EMDR offer genuine hope for change. Whether you’re learning to manage anxiety, heal from trauma, or simply understand yourself better, the right therapeutic relationship can make all the difference.
At its heart, therapy isn’t just about techniques — it’s about feeling safe, understood, and supported while you make sense of your experiences. Whether through CBT, EMDR, or a combination of both, the goal is the same: helping you feel more in control of your thoughts, emotions, and your life again.
This blog was written by UK therapist Andrew Kemp at www.clearmindcbt.comand contains sponsored links.
Autumn (or if you’re in the USA, Fall) is one of my favourite seasons. Beautiful autumn leaves, the weather getting gently cooler, cosy hot chocolates and pumpkin spice, the autumn harvest of pumpkins, snuggling in blankets with a good book or TV show and for some- walks in nature with the orange and yellow trees and landscapes. However, did you know that the clocks going back and the change in light and dark, with nights drawing in, can affect your mental health? Studies have shown that when its darker, people are more prone to depression and anxiety and some (like myself at times) struggle with Seasonal Affective Disorder.
There are many ways to take care of yourself if you feel your mood dipping or you are becoming more anxious. If you feel it is affecting your daily functioning, please reach out for support from your doctor (and if you have one, a therapist or psychologist). Here I talk about a few tips to help support your mental health this Autumn.
Make sure you rest as well as play and work
Work can become all consuming, but if you prioritise rest this season too, your body will thank you. Autumn is all about slowing down, recovering, resting (and for animals (and some humans) hibernating). Yes you can work and play hard if you prefer, but make sure you find that balance to support your wellbeing. In our busy lives and for those who are parents or just struggling with their mental health, self care can slip. Practising good self care- eating well, resting, gentle exercise, can really help our minds.
2. Release Control- Give Stress Over
Gabby Bernstein, my favourite spiritual teacher, often says ‘Release control to find peace, surrender it to the Universe’. Surrendering means not obsessing about what we can’t control, but giving it over to a higher power or the universe. This can really help when we feel overwhelmed and stressed, to pray and meditate or simply write down how you are feeling and then ask the universe to take it from you. Journalling thoughts and feelings can help too.
3. Nature walks
Despite the cold, this Autumn, walking in nature can help get the blood pumping and our minds to reset. Sometimes going with a friend, spouse or family member can cheer you up- there is something about the colours of nature, the soft greens that is truly calming.
(image: Erika Mendes, Unsplash)
4. Make your home cosy
Whether its getting some new cushions or blankets, fairy lights or lamps, investing in cosy and light interiors for the darker seasons is a must! I like to use lamps when the nights draw in.
5. Get enough sleep (but not too much!)
During the Autumn/ Winter period, most of us naturally want to hibernate in the evenings. Sometimes this period can make depression and anxiety worse. I know with my bipolar that sometimes I feel lower or more anxious. Getting enough daylight and if you struggle with seasonal affective disorder, use an SAD lamp, which can help you to wake up gently in the mornings. Similarly, make sure you get enough sleep for you to keep your mental and physical health at its best. Depression can cause us to sleep longer hours and hide away- I find daytime distractions can help me not to sleep too much.
6. Take your medication as prescribed
If you struggle with mental health in winter and are prescribed antidepressants or other meds, do not suddenly stop them as this can cause a relapse in your mental health. Make sure you speak to your doctor first!
7. Treat yourself
Treat yourself to a hot chocolate (or pumpkin space drink) and a good book or TV show, wrapped in a cosy hoodie or blanket. You deserve it!
Wishing you all a wonderful and well Autumn/Fall season.
If you havn’t heard of the bestselling book ‘The Let Them Theory’ by Mel Robbins, I urge you to grab a copy or watch Mel’s videos on Youtube. This book teaches you how to take back your emotional power. Say you break up with someone who doesn’t see your worth or you get excluded from social arrangements from your friend group, or you have a difficult relationship with a parent or sibling…. this book teaches you how to live the best and happiest life for you, without causing terrible emotional impact to others and yourself.
This blog is not an advert for the book. I havnt been paid to read and review. I just found it personally so helpful and life changing for me. I am an empath, I am sensitive and I take peoples actions to heart. I am slowly learning to choose me and look after what I can control and not worry so much about others behaviour or people pleasing. Not easy when you want to be kind and you also have anxiety- but boundaries are so important. Building your own self confidence and protecting yourself is key too.
Mel Robbins says,
“The moment you say “Let Them,” you stop giving your power away. And when you say “Let Me,” you take it back and start living life for you—your dreams, your peace, your values.
This quote is from page 106 of The Let Them Theory. It’s a powerful reminder to stop chasing approval and start choosing yourself.”
Just wanted to wish all our Jewish followers Shana Tova U’Metuka, a happy and sweet new Jewish year for Monday. May all our prayers be heard and answered and all of our dreams for the year ahead unfold in the perfect way. May we all have happiness, good health, love and light, with many blessings, to be written in the book of life.
If you are struggling with your mental health please reach for support as sometimes celebrating two day festivals can increase anxiety/ depression and other symptoms due to changes in routine. Equally, eating disorders can be triggered so reach for help if you need it. I will be taking a short break to celebrate Rosh Hashana with family and just a thank you from me for reading and supporting the blog this year.
Mental health is an essential part of overall well-being, yet it is often overlooked until symptoms become overwhelming. Millions of people around the world live with mental health conditions that can affect their mood, thoughts, and behavior. These challenges can interfere with relationships, work, and daily routines, but the good news is that treatment options are more accessible and effective today than ever before.
When individuals understand their condition and seek the right support, they can build healthier coping strategies and regain control of their lives. Two common struggles people face are bipolar disorder and anxiety—both of which can be complicated further when substance use is involved. Exploring recovery options designed specifically for these conditions can open the door to long-term healing.
The Importance of Addressing Mental Health Early
Early recognition of mental health symptoms is critical. Too often, individuals dismiss mood swings, prolonged sadness, excessive worry, or fatigue as “just stress” or “a bad week.” However, these patterns can signal a deeper issue that requires professional support. Addressing mental health concerns at the onset not only improves outcomes but can also prevent the development of secondary challenges such as addiction, chronic stress, or physical health problems.
By taking proactive steps, individuals are more likely to develop resilience and maintain stability over time. Family members, friends, and colleagues also play an important role by offering encouragement and understanding instead of judgment or stigma.
Understanding Bipolar Disorder
Bipolar disorder is one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions. Characterized by extreme shifts in mood, energy, and activity levels, it goes far beyond the typical ups and downs that people experience in daily life. Those with bipolar disorder may experience manic or hypomanic episodes—periods of high energy, impulsivity, and elevated mood—followed by depressive episodes that bring sadness, hopelessness, or loss of interest in activities.
Because bipolar disorder exists on a spectrum, its symptoms vary greatly from person to person. This makes individualized care essential. Professional intervention, therapy, and medical management can significantly reduce the intensity and frequency of mood episodes, allowing individuals to lead fulfilling and balanced lives.
For those seeking guidance, comprehensiveBipolar Disorder Treatment programs provide structured support that combines psychotherapy, medication management, and lifestyle strategies to stabilize mood patterns. These programs focus on helping individuals better understand their triggers, strengthen coping mechanisms, and create long-term wellness plans.
The Overlap Between Mental Health and Substance Use
Mental health conditions often coexist with substance use disorders. This dual challenge, known as co-occurring disorders, can complicate both diagnosis and treatment. For example, individuals with bipolar disorder may use drugs or alcohol during manic episodes to maintain their energy or during depressive episodes to numb emotional pain. Similarly, those with anxiety might turn to substances as a form of temporary relief, leading to dependency over time.
The presence of co-occurring disorders makes it critical to find treatment centers that specialize in dual diagnosis. Traditional approaches that treat mental health and substance use separately may fail to address the underlying causes of each condition, resulting in relapse or incomplete recovery. Integrated treatment programs, on the other hand, provide a holistic approach that tackles both issues simultaneously, improving long-term outcomes.
Anxiety and Its Connection to Addiction
Anxiety disorders are among the most common mental health conditions worldwide. They can manifest as generalized anxiety, panic attacks, social anxiety, or phobias. For many, constant worry and fear interfere with work performance, social interactions, and even physical health.
When anxiety is left untreated, individuals often look for ways to escape their symptoms. Unfortunately, this can lead to reliance on alcohol, prescription medications, or illicit substances. While these may provide short-term relief, they create long-term consequences and increase the risk of developing addiction.
To break this cycle, specializedanxiety and addiction treatment programs are designed to address both issues together. These programs typically combine evidence-based therapies such as cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT), mindfulness practices, and medical support to help individuals identify the root causes of their anxiety while also treating their substance use.
(image: Sydney Rae: Unsplash)
Building a Strong Support System
Professional treatment is only one piece of the recovery puzzle. Having a strong support network can make a tremendous difference in maintaining long-term wellness. Family therapy, peer support groups, and community-based programs help individuals stay accountable while fostering connections that reduce isolation.
Loved ones can also benefit from education and counseling, as understanding mental health conditions makes it easier to provide the right kind of support. Encouraging open conversations about mental health challenges helps break down stigma and creates an environment where healing is possible.
Healthy Lifestyle and Daily Habits
Lifestyle changes play a critical role in managing conditions like bipolar disorder and anxiety. Regular exercise, balanced nutrition, adequate sleep, and mindfulness practices can all reduce symptom severity. For example, yoga and meditation help regulate stress, while consistent sleep patterns can stabilize mood swings.
Journaling, creative activities, and spending time in nature are additional strategies that promote mental clarity and emotional balance. While these habits may not replace professional care, they work in tandem with treatment to strengthen resilience.
Long-Term Recovery and Hope
Recovery is not a one-time event—it’s an ongoing process that requires commitment, patience, and self-compassion. Relapses or setbacks may occur, but they don’t mean failure. Instead, they can serve as opportunities to re-evaluate strategies and adjust treatment plans.
The growing availability of specialized programs for conditions like bipolar disorder and anxiety shows that no one has to face these challenges alone. With proper care, individuals can achieve stability, rebuild relationships, and pursue meaningful goals.
Final Thoughts
Mental health conditions such as bipolar disorder and anxiety can feel overwhelming, especially when compounded by substance use. However, effective treatment and recovery programs provide hope and healing. By seeking out resources tailored to specific needs, individuals can find balance and create a foundation for lasting well-being. It is important to be lead by a psychiatrist about medication and treatment when someone also has substance abuse.
No matter how challenging the journey may seem, recovery is always possible. Support, understanding, and professional guidance are the keys to moving forward and embracing a healthier, more fulfilling future.
A year or two ago, I recorded this webinar with Bipolar UK talking about our family story (mine and my Dads) with bipolar disorder, suicidal ideation, depression and both of us finding recovery.
Suicide is a terrible but common outcome of bipolar and acute mental health episodes. I also know what it is like to lose a loved one to suicide and mental illness and the pain that brings.
I share this webinar today to raise awareness, but also to encourage people to go to their GP/psychiatrist/ family/ spouse and talk, if safe, about what is going on for you.
Watch here, with care, trigger warning : discusses bipolar episodes, suicidal ideation
In this webinar, Bipolar UK CEO Simon Kitchen shares the findings of the Bipolar Commission on the critical link between bipolar and suicide. He is joined by Ashley Brice, an experienced crisis negotiator with the British police specialising in suicide prevention, and Eleanor Mandelstam, author and freelance writer who lives with bipolar. Together, they explore the risk factors, warning signs, and practical strategies to prevent suicide, offering crucial insight for anyone living with bipolar, supporting someone with bipolar, or wanting to better understand how bipolar impacts mental health and suicide risk.
I am honoured to be an Ambassador for Maaglei Nefesh מעגלי נפש with Rav Yoni Rosensweig, an organisation that is close to my heart. In recent years, it has provided support to those who are struggling with mental illness, yet still wish to find a way to live their life in accordance with Halacha (Jewish Law) to the best of their abilities. Maaglei Nefesh saves lives, helping people with bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, eating disorders, schizophrenia, psychosis and many kinds of mental illness. Maaglei Nefesh does groundbreaking work globally and has been at the forefront while helping to break stigmas and silence that can surround those suffering. The organisation contributes to literally saving lives, as well as vastly improving the quality of life for many.
This Rosh Hashana, please partner with me if you can to help ensure that Maaglei Nefesh can continue to provide such important assistance to all who request it. During this campaign any sum you donate will be matched so that your impact and the positive effect your donation has will be doubled.
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