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The Subtle Joys Of Escaping City Life And Returning To Nature.

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Getting out of the city and returning to nature is one of the best ways to improve your mental health – at least, for some people. However, it is also one of the least-discussed options on blogs and by the medical community. There’s an assumption that where you live has little effect on how you feel, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. 

Theories about why cities are so damaging to mental health vary. However, some researchers believe that it stems from a so-called evolutionary mismatch. We evolved in nature, yet cities present us with a radically different environment that changes how we feel by exposing us to excessive light, busyness, and people. 

Here are some of the subtle joys of escaping city life and returning to nature: 

Simplicity

Returning to nature or living a simpler life in a smaller community can give you a sense of simplicity and quietness. It gives you time apart from the endless hustle and bustle of urban life, providing your mind with a break from all the stimulation.

Nature doesn’t rush to do anything, yet harmony and perfection are achieved. As a part of that process, getting away from the city can remind you that you too are a vessel of perfection. 

Belonging

Phoning your conveyancing solicitors and getting them to help you move to a more natural setting can enhance your sense of belonging. Living in a city sometimes makes you feel like you’re an alien visiting from another world, whereas living in nature gives you a sense that you’re going along with everything else, making you feel more connected. 

New Perspectives

Getting out of the city also gives you new perspectives. The bright lights and fast pace disappear, replaced by bucolic scenes and people quietly going about their traditional lives. 

This shift can have a profound effect on your sense of joy immediately. Many people instantly feel happier the moment they move, getting out of the city, and having more space to enjoy their lives and pursue outdoor activities. 

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Personal Growth And Reflection

Getting out of the city also gives you the space you need to grow and reflect on your life. You have the physical and mental space to do more inner work, concentrating on what makes you tick instead of constantly striving to fulfil others’ needs. 

This “quiet time” is something that can also give you new perspectives and help you feel more fulfilled. It gives you the impetus to try fresh and new things in your life, enabling you to experiment and find purpose and meaning where perhaps it might be lacking with a conventional city-based life. 

The Improved Environment

Finally, getting out of the city introduces you to a better environment. While the built-up world can be architecturally stunning, it isn’t always what our bodies and minds need. You can avoid breathing in exhaust fumes linked to brain inflammation and instead, enjoy the clear air every morning. You can also escape the constant din of police sirens and honking horns for a more natural noise environment.

Remember that being in nature, as part of other forms of help, can improve mental health and relaxation. Reach out to your GP or therapist for support too.

This article was written by a freelance writer.

Festive Greetings from Eleanor, Founder Of Be Ur Own Light.

~ Eleanor Segall ~ 2 Comments

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I can’t believe its almost Christmas and the end of 2023! It has been at times a challenging year but I do love the holidays, even though we don’t celebrate Christmas. But its nice to come together as we’re all off work here in the UK and have family time, food and watch movies.

My favourite thing about this season are the cosy, twinkly lights and light trails. We’ll be doing one this year at a stately home. Lighting up the darkness feels appropriate this time of year.

I know that Christmas is not easy for everyone and many struggle with their mental health and relationships this time of year. Please know you are not alone and reach out to Samaritans 116 123 if you need to talk. There is also the Shout text service.

I hope your festive season will be merry and bright… and if it isn’t please tell someone and seek help if you can. You are never alone.

Love,

Eleanor (and family`)

x

Navigating Divorce Law While Caring for Your Mental Health by Brooke Chaplan

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Note: the author refers to USA divorce laws but the advice for mental health is the same.

Divorce is an extremely difficult process, emotionally and financially draining, and legally complex. Whether you are the one filing for divorce or the one who is served with divorce papers, this life-altering experience can take a toll on your mental health. With so many issues to consider – child custody, spousal support, property division, and more – navigating divorce law (USA) can be intimidating. But it’s important to prioritise your mental health during this challenging time. In this blog post, we will explore some ways to help you manage your mental health and navigate divorce law.

Focus on Self-Care

The first step to taking care of your mental health is to focus on self-care. Amidst all the chaos, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Eat healthily, exercise regularly, get enough sleep, and seek help immediately if you feel overwhelmed. Make sure to carve out time for activities that you enjoy and engage in self-care rituals that make you feel good.

Seek Therapy

Divorce is a tough time, and you don’t have to go through it alone. Don’t hesitate to seek out professional help from a licensed therapist. A therapist can help you work through the complex emotions you’re feeling and provide you with coping mechanisms to manage your emotions proactively.

Find Emotional Support

Surround yourself with positive and supportive friends and family who will uplift and cheer you up. Find a support network of divorce recovery groups where you can share your experiences and get emotional support from people who understand what you’re going through. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and delegate tasks to relieve stress.

Stay Educated on Divorce Law (USA)

Divorce laws vary from state to state, so it’s important to stay educated about the laws that apply in your state. An understanding of the legal process can help you make better decisions and manage your legal battles more effectively. Consult with a qualified divorce attorney who can provide you with legal guidance and support.

Mediation

Consider mediation as a way to avoid going to court. It’s an opportunity to resolve your differences collaboratively and avoid contentious legal battles that can take a toll on your mental health. Mediation focuses on negotiating a settlement that works for both parties, and an experienced mediator can help you resolve issues like child custody, spousal support, property division, and more.

Going through a divorce is challenging, and it’s okay to ask for help.

Remember to take care of your mental health during this time by focusing on self-care, seeking therapy, finding emotional support, staying educated on divorce law, and considering mediation. You are not alone, and with the right support and guidance, you can successfully navigate the divorce process. Take care of yourself, and don’t hesitate to reach out to professionals if you need help.

This article was written by Brooke Chaplan, who is based in the USA. For UK and other divorce laws, please see your own country.

The Kind Mind Method: A Book and Philosophy by Alexander Walton

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In 2015, Alexander Walton had an idea. It was an emotional short story that he wrote, then placed in brightly coloured envelopes and randomly distributed across the city he lived in. Each one also contained a small gift: a symbol of hope. He called this project Find My Story and through the support and kindness of others, it expanded across the globe.

Over the next five years there were three stories in total. Hundreds of volunteers. Thousands of envelopes. And an avalanche of profound and moving responses from people who had found one of these envelopes, and had the curiosity to open it.

This experience was the inspiration for The Kind Mind Method and ultimately changed the author’s life in ways he never could have expected. He continues to advocate kindness and positivity through his books and ongoing projects.

(image: Alexander Walton)

For years, scientific studies have continuously demonstrated a clear link between kindness and mental wellbeing. Throughout that time, there has never been any unified mechanism to harness this power. Until now.

Do you feel as if you are stuck inside your own head? Does worry stop you engaging with the wider world? Do you sometimes feel helpless to stop negative thoughts? The Kind Mind Method is a simple thought process that will allow you to embrace a positive mindset in everything you do. It will change you in ways you never could have imagined and snap you into the moment like nothing else you have tried.

Built upon proven scientific principles and leveraging the power of kindness, Alexander Walton will explain how you can benefit from this profound change. Through clear steps and real-world examples, he will guide you through its adoption and ongoing usage. Along the way, he will examine how this approach provides you with a true alternative thought that you will actively want to pursue. And by the end of this book, you will understand how it can offer a structured mechanism to deal with any situation, and watch as you seamlessly embrace a different thought. A better thought. A kinder thought.

Here were just some responses to the Find my Story envelopes:

  • Found your story and you have no idea at what time it entered my life and the impact it had.”
  • “It is impossible to describe how this story made me feel…I will keep this gift on me until I feel I need to pass it on myself.”
  • “THANK YOU for writing your story, and sending that message of hope out into the world. I needed it so badly and I’ve kept the gift with me ever since. I’ll never forget the feeling of opening your envelope.”
  • A Christmas carol’s feeling in the belly. Your story is beautiful and your letter found me in a very special time. A time of uncertainty and doubts where this star blowing in the middle of the night was somehow something I didn’t expect anymore.  Thank you so much for that.

You can find Alexander Walton on his website and his book is out now.

Coping With Emotional Distress After A Car Accident by Lizzie Weakley.

~ Eleanor Segall ~ 2 Comments

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A car accident can be a traumatic experience that can leave a lasting emotional impact on a person. It’s so important to not only look after your physical wellbeing but to also prioritise your emotional wellbeing. Here are some effective ways to cope with emotional trauma after a car accident.

Allow Yourself to Feel Your Emotion

Emotional reactions are common after a car accident, such as shock, nervousness, or panic. These feelings are natural and normal but also can be overwhelming. It is essential to recognize and label your emotions, express them in a healthy way, and avoid suppressing them. Consider talking to a friend, family member, or professional counselor to help you process all that you’re feeling and experiencing.

Self-Care Practices

After a car accident, it is crucial to care for yourself, physically and mentally. Engage in self-care practices such as taking walks, meditating, listening to music, taking a relaxing bath, or other activities you find calming and comforting. Eat well-balanced meals, get enough sleep and avoid alcohol and drugs that may escalate your emotional reactions.

Reach Out For Support

A car accident is an extremely stressful event. If you’re finding it difficult to manage your emotions, it may be helpful to reach out for support. You can talk with a friend or family member or join a support group for people who have experienced car accidents. Professional counselors and mental health experts also can help you learn how to process and cope with your emotions.

Speak to Legal Help

After an accident, it is common to seek legal guidance to navigate compensation and payment for damages and injuries. During this process, if you experience anxiety or depression, talking to a legal professional may be beneficial. To lessen the burden of insurance claims, a car accident injury lawyer can help secure compensation and provide emotional support for their clients.

Be Patient with Yourself

Recovery and healing from emotional distress can take time and patience. Allow yourself the time and space you need to recover. It’s crucial to keep communicating your needs and emotions with friends, family, and professionals who can help support you through your healing process. You might not feel ready to drive again due to the accident. And that’s okay. Allow yourself time to heal and get back into the swing of things.

A car accident can be a life-changing event that can have a lasting impact on your physical and emotional well-being. Coping with emotional trauma after a car accident can be overwhelming, but it is possible with the right tools and support. Practice patience with yourself, seek the help of qualified professionals, and prioritise your self-care practices. Together, these steps will help you heal and rebuild after a car accident.

This article is written by Lizzie Weakley.

4th Book Anniversary: Bring me to Light, My Memoir On Living With Bipolar And Anxiety.

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Four years ago today, my book ‘Bring me to Light: Embracing my Bipolar and Social Anxiety’ was released to the world, in partnership with Trigger Publishing.

I wrote it to explain how I turned the darkness that bipolar episodes can bring, into light. And so people reading feel less alone, so stigma can fall. So important to talk about our illnesses once we are better, so that it isn’t so hard to understand.

Living with severe mental illness like bipolar psychosis. mania or suicidal depressions can be very challenging. However, they do not have to be your entire life. For me, medication and therapy over time have helped me. Its different for everyone.

If you would like to read my story or gift it to a friend to help them, please see Amazon or other well known bookshops.

And remember- we are never truly alone although being ill can feel unbearable- hold on to hope if you can:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Bring-Me-Light…/dp/1789560365

To happiness and good health,

Eleanor

Empowering Homebound Parents Through Mental Health Support Strategies by Lizzie Weakley.

~ Eleanor Segall ~ 3 Comments

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Being a parent is challenging, but being a parent who is homebound can be incredibly isolating and stressful. With the added pressures of the COVID-19 pandemic, homebound parents have been struggling with their mental health more than ever before. However, it doesn’t have to be this way. There are several mental health support strategies that parents can implement to help them cope with this challenging time and help them continue to provide their children with the love and care that they deserve.

Prioritise Self-Care

Self-care practices such as mindfulness, meditation, and exercise can help homebound parents manage their stress and maintain their mental health. They can schedule regular exercise routines at home, and practice deep breathing and meditation during their downtime. It is essential for homebound parents to set boundaries and take care of their well-being to increase their capacity to address the demands of parenthood.

Seek Professional Help

Homebound parents who are struggling with their mental health should consider seeking the support and guidance of a mental health professional. They can benefit from online therapy sessions, group therapy sessions, or taking medication that might help them feel better. There are also many mental health hotlines and online resources available to parents struggling with their mental health.

Connect with a Support Network

Homebound parents can engage with online support groups where they can share their experiences, offer and receive advice, and connect with other people going through the same thing. It is also a good idea to connect with friends and family members for emotional support. Social connection is vital to maintaining good mental health.

Utilize Home Health Care Services

Home health care services can provide support and assistance for parents who are struggling with their health. These services can include anything from medication management to helping with household chores and providing much needed respite care for parents. Home health care services can also help parents navigate local resources to receive additional support.

Practice Stress-Reducing Activities with Children

Homebound parents can engage their children in various stress-reducing activities such as sensory play, guided meditation, deep breathing exercises, and yoga. These activities can help children learn how to manage their emotions and provide a calming environment for both parents and children.

Being a homebound parent is challenging, but it becomes even more challenging when mental health struggles are involved. Still, it is essential to prioritise self-care and seek professional help when needed. Engage with a support network, consider utilising home health care services, and perform stress-reducing activities with children.

These strategies will significantly empower homebound parents and help them cope with the challenges of parenthood effectively. With the proper support, homebound parents can provide the love and care their children need and deserve.

This article was written by writer Lizzie Weakley.

Keeping Yourself In Balance, Mentally And Physically: A Guide by Meghan Belnap.

~ Eleanor Segall ~ 1 Comment

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In today’s fast-paced, stress-laden world, it can be a real challenge to keep yourself mentally and physically balanced. It’s easy to overlook the impact of your lifestyle choices on your overall well-being and end up feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and burnt out. However, maintaining a healthy mind and body is crucial for long-term happiness and success. This post intends to explore tips and tricks for prioritising your mental and physical health and keeping them in balance. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, depression, or just seeking a more balanced lifestyle, there are answers to follow. 

Eat Healthily 

The food you eat keeps your body in shape and can significantly impact your mental health. Research shows that eating a balanced and nutrient-rich diet can reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. Try incorporating more whole foods, fruits, greens, and lean proteins into your diet, and steer clear of processed foods, refined sugars, and unhealthy fats. If you want to take it a step further, try meal prepping always to have healthy food when you’re in a rush. 

Exercise Regularly 

Exercise is one of the best ways to balance your body and mind. Whether going to the gym, taking a yoga class, or going for a run or walk, exercise releases endorphins that lift your mood and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. Make sure to find something you enjoy that you can stick to long-term. Even if it is just 30 minutes of physical activity daily, you’ll notice a huge difference in your overall well-being. 

Rest and Relax 

With life’s stressors always looming, finding time to rest and relax can be challenging. However, taking care of yourself by getting enough rest is crucial to balancing your mental health. Ensure you are getting enough sleep, aiming for around seven to nine hours per night, and take other measures to relax, such as massage, a bubble bath, or indulging in your favourite hobbies. 

Prioritise Your Mental Health 

Mental health is just as important as physical health. If you’re struggling with depression, anxiety, or another mental health problem, it’s essential to prioritise your mental health. Seek professional mental health care if necessary, talk to trusted friends and family about any concerns, and make sure you take time each day to do things you love. Self-care and meditation can also work wonders to quiet your mind, reduce stress, and ease feelings of anxiety. 

Find Balance in Your Relationships 

Achieving balance in your relationships is also crucial for mental health. Sometimes, unhealthy relationships can lead to unhealthy habits that throw you off balance and make you feel worse. Make sure you only surround yourself with people who support you, respect you, and have your best interests at heart. Ensure you set boundaries, say no when necessary, and openly communicate your needs and feelings. 

Keeping yourself in balance mentally and physically is an ongoing process that requires continual effort and investment. However, the rewards of prioritising your mental and physical health can be nothing short of life-changing. By taking care of yourself and making sure you are eating healthily, exercising regularly, getting enough rest, prioritising your mental health, and finding balance in your relationships, you can achieve a balanced and fulfilling life. So, try some of these tips, and watch yourself grow into the best version of yourself yet. 

Meghan Belnap is a freelance blogger, researcher and writer.

7 Tips On How To Get Good Rest As A New Mom/Mum.

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Being a mother, let alone a new mother, is no easy task. New moms might find themselves flustered with the idea of being a parent for the first time ever. No longer do they only have to care for themselves but also a little one, too, who depends on them. Frustration, stress, and lack of sleep are all common for new mothers. So, how can they fix this? Here are some tips.

  1. Sleep in the Same Room as Baby

Waking up every few hours in the night is no easy task. Having your sleep disrupted when in a groggy state is several times easier when your baby is close by to you.

Keep a crib or bassinet right next to your bed or at least a few feet away to reduce long walks throughout the house to tend to your baby in the night. This way, you can resume sleep as soon as possible.

  1. Prepare a Feeding & Changing Station Before Bed

Another way to ensure proper rest and sanity as a new mom is to keep a feeding and changing station stocked before going to bed for the night. Keep diapers, wipes, rash cream, baby powder, and a change of clothes nearby. Also keep clean bottles and formula (if applicable) within close reach.

  1. Don’t Skip the Bubble Baths

Good hygiene provides relaxation, which in turn, helps us feel more put together and well-rested. There’s nothing quite like soaking in a calming bubble bath to ease those tense muscles.

  1. Keep Your Mental Health in Check

After having a baby, your mental health is of utmost importance. When you’re in a bad mental health state, it’s difficult to get quality sleep at night. You may have problems falling asleep, staying asleep, or may be oversleeping. Either way, you find yourself feeling unrested.

If your mental health is suffering, it may be time to consider postpartum depression care in Orange County.

  1. Let the Household Duties Slide

Right now, your wellbeing and your baby’s well being matter most. A pile of dirty dishes? Leave it for tomorrow. Now is the time to prioritize your physical and mental state in the form of good rest. Unless there’s broken glass on the ground or a horrible stench in the house, the chores can be put off.

  1. Get Physical

Even simply going on a walk around the block can be a great way to get exercise in. This in itself can be a relaxing activity. And as everyone knows, getting exercise can also allow you to get a better night’s rest.

  1. Drinking Calming Teas

Turning to herbal teas like chamomile or lavender can be great ways to unwind after a hectic day as a new mom. Never underestimate the power of a hot beverage filled with calming herbs, especially before bedtime.

Conclusion

Being a new mother is going to be a challenge no matter how you look at it. However, what a mom can do differently to make things easier is to ensure she gets proper rest. With the latter tips, any overwhelmed, exhausted mom can get the rest and relaxation she needs to feel rejuvenated after a long day of parenting.

This article was written by a freelance writer.

Bipolar And Suicide Prevention Webinar with Bipolar UK- 11th September 2023

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On Monday 11th September, I am looking forward to being on a webinar on Bipolar and Suicide prevention for Bipolar UK charity, with their CEO Simon Kitchen and a police officer, Ashley Brice (pictured), who specialises in suicide prevention for people in crisis in Wales. This is a difficult topic to discuss and one that will be tackled with empathy.

If you can join, please register here for free: https://www.bipolaruk.org/suicidal-thinking

Thanks,

Eleanor x