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CBT vs EMDR: Which Therapy Is Right for You? by Andrew Kemp, Therapist at Clear Mind CBT.

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When people begin looking for psychological support, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or CBT for short, is one of the most well-known and accessible forms of psychotherapy. Recently, more and more therapists are offering Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), particularly for trauma.Both are well established, evidence-based treatments that can help people move forward from distressing experiences — but they do so in quite different ways.

If you’ve been wondering what sets them apart, or which might be the best fit for you, this post aims to break down the differences in a clear and down-to-earth way.

Understanding CBT

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is arguably the most widely accessed and researched psychological approaches, particularly in the UK. It’s based on the understanding that our thoughts, emotions, physical sensations, and behaviours are all connected. When one of these areas becomes unhelpful — for example, when our thoughts become overly negative or worrisome — it creates a negative cycle that keeps us stuck and in turn maintains that distress.

CBT helps a person to notice these patterns and challenge them with practical, realistic alternatives. The aim is not to “think positively” but to think more accurately. For instance, if you often find yourself thinking “I always mess things up,” CBT would explore the evidence for and against that thought, helping you see the situation in a more balanced light.

Sessions are focused on the present and typically structured towards achieving mutually agreed goals. There is less emphasis on the past and childhood, although this can be useful to consider in relation to the development of a person’s belief system or how they see the world today. This, in turn, influences a person’s responses to distress. CBT continues outside of sessions as clients engage in task such as trying alternative response to distress, or journalling at challenging times. 

CBT for trauma focuses on making changes to the way a person thinks about a traumatic event, and themselves within that event. Re-living is a key element of CBT for trauma and enables the person to safely revisits the traumatic memory in a structured, supportive way with their therapist. This allows the brain to process the event as a memory, rather than something that is still happening now, which in turn reduces distress around the event and any associated flashbacks or nightmares. The overall aim is to reduce distress, restore a sense of safety and control, and help the person make sense of what happened so the trauma feels like something from the past — not something still happening in the present.

CBT is highly effective for anxiety, low mood/depression, panic attacks, phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), PTSD/trauma, poor sleep/insomnia and many other mental health difficulties.

Understanding EMDR

Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) might sound unusual at first — after all, what do eye movements have to do with mental health? Yet EMDR is a powerful, evidence-based therapy originally developed to help people recover from trauma.

The theory behind EMDR is that when something distressing happens, our brains sometimes struggle to process it properly. The memory can get “stuck,” remaining vivid and the person continues to experience the fear as if the event is happening again. EMDR helps the brain work through these memories so they can be stored more adaptively — as something that happened in the past, rather than something that continues to feel threatening now.

During EMDR sessions, the therapist will guide you through sets of bilateral stimulation — this could involve following their fingers with your eyes, hearing alternating tones through headphones, or feeling gentle taps on your hands. This process is thought to mimic the way the brain naturally processes memories during REM sleep.

One benefit of EMDR is that it’s not necessary to go into detail about the event if you don’t want to. The focus is on how it feels in your body and what comes up in the moment. Over time, people often report that distressing memories lose their emotional intensity, and the beliefs tied to those experiences begin to shift to something most positive and empowering, rather than fearful or critical.

Can CBT and EMDR Be Combined?

Absolutely. Many therapists are trained in both and will tailor the approach depending on your needs. For example, someone with trauma may start with CBT techniques to manage anxiety and develop coping skills, then move into EMDR once they feel more grounded and ready to process deeper memories. In some cases, EMDR can help resolve traumatic roots of long-standing patterns, while CBT provides the tools and strategies to maintain progress in day-to-day life.

It isn’t about one being “better” than the other — it’s about finding what works for you, at the right time and pace.

Which One Should You Choose?

If you’re feeling stuck in unhelpful thoughts or patterns — for example, overthinking, avoidance, or self-criticism — CBT can be a great place to start. It’s structured, practical, and gives you tools you can continue using long after therapy ends. If you’ve experienced trauma, flashbacks, or distressing memories that feel “frozen in time,” EMDR might be more suitable. It’s gentle yet powerful, and often helps people move on from experiences they’ve been carrying for years.

Ultimately, the best way to decide is to talk with a qualified therapist who can help assess your situation and guide you towards the most appropriate treatment.

Final Thoughts

Both CBT and EMDR offer genuine hope for change. Whether you’re learning to manage anxiety, heal from trauma, or simply understand yourself better, the right therapeutic relationship can make all the difference.

At its heart, therapy isn’t just about techniques — it’s about feeling safe, understood, and supported while you make sense of your experiences. Whether through CBT, EMDR, or a combination of both, the goal is the same: helping you feel more in control of your thoughts, emotions, and your life again.

This blog was written by UK therapist Andrew Kemp at www.clearmindcbt.com and contains sponsored links.

Finding Your Center: Grounding Techniques For Stability And Balance by Bhavya Jain

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Let’s admit it- there are days when you just don’t feel like yourself, and even saying that does not quite capture it. It’s as if your body is here, but your mind has wandered off somewhere far away. Everything feels out of sync-your thoughts, your feelings, your surroundings- there’s a disconnect. You might find yourself overthinking, your nervous system overstimulated, reacting in ways even you can’t predict. The chaos of it all makes you feel heavy. Your mind races, your emotions spiral, and your body? Exhausted. Everything feels too much. That’s what being ungrounded feels like. 

We often hear about “finding your center.” But what does that really mean? It’s more than just a calming Pinterest quote. It refers to that deep, stable place within you, where you feel aligned with yourself-emotionally, mentally and spiritually. A place where your nervous system isn’t constantly fighting or fleeing, but finally resting. Your center is the part of you that remains unchanged amidst this chaos. It’s your home. And grounding is how you find your way back. 

Getting Grounded

Grounding is a technique to return to your body and the space around you. It involves activating your senses, engaging with the physical world and gently reminding yourself that- I am here. I am now. I am okay. It doesn’t have to be something extremely fancy. Sometimes, just placing your bare feet on the grass can calm your system. Your body knows. It’s just waiting for you to listen. 

One of the most helpful strategies is the ‘5-4-3-2-1 method’. It’s simple- you just look around and name five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell and one thing you can taste.It might seem too simple to work, but it has helped people bring them back to themselves in powerful ways. A girl once shared how this technique helped her come out of an anxiety attack. She was disassociating, feeling far from herself, until this grounding practice slowly brought her back. 

Your body holds wisdom. Even something as basic as conscious breathing can help regulate your nervous system. When your breath becomes deep and slow, it sends a signal to your brain: “You’re safe now.” This is where Dr. Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory comes in. It explains how activating the parasympathetic nervous system through breath, movement, cold water, or even humming can bring your body out of stress mode and into a state of calm. Grounding, in this sense, is not just emotional-it’s biological. You’re not just calming your mind, you’re regulating your entire being. 

There’s a reason we feel so held when we touch water or soil or walk barefoot. Our bodies remember their connection with the Earth. A study from The Journal of Environmental and Public Health even found that simply placing your body in direct contact with the Earth can regulate the autonomic nervous system and reduce inflammation. It’s nature, simply doing what it’s always known how to do-grounding us in the most quiet and comforting way. 

Slow Down

In a world that has always pushed us to do more and be more, simply slowing down and being present can feel rebellious. But it’s necessary! You cannot really pour anything from an empty cup. You cannot create anything from chaos. You cannot heal while running. You need to come back to yourself. 

And let’s not pretend it’s easy. Finding your center is not a one time thing. You lose it, often. Especially if you have trauma, anxiety or even neurodivergent experiences like ADHD. Your nervous system may be more sensitive. That doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It just means you need tools to return-again and again. 

Return To Your Inner Child

The journey of grounding is also the journey of returning to your inner child. That version of you that existed before the noise, before the pressure, before the need to prove anything. Children live in the present. They are fully in their bodies, unfiltered in their expression, and completely immersed in the now. Maybe the healing is not in becoming something new, but in remembering who you were before the world told you who you had to be. 

You don’t have to fix yourself. You’re not broken. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s presence. It’s feeling at home in your own skin, even when the world feels unsteady. Sometimes you just need to sit still. To let the storm pass. To breathe like you’re filling your spine with stillness. To exhale like you’re letting go of static. 

This moment, right here, is all you truly have. So ground yourself. Look around. Breathe. You’re not late. You’re not lost. You’re just coming home.

About the Author – Bhavya Jain:

Bhavya is an I/O Psychologist and Integrative Psychotherapist committed to promoting positive mental health and breaking the stigma around therapy. She spearheaded a year-long pro bono initiative offering free mental health services, partnering with schools and nonprofits to make support accessible to underserved communities. Through her work, Bhavya continues to advocate for inclusive, unconventional approaches to mental well-being.

Creating a Safe Space: Helping Your Adopted Child Heal From Trauma by Brooke Chaplan

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As mom/mums, we want nothing more than to provide a safe and nurturing environment for our children. But when it comes to adopted children who have experienced trauma, the task can feel overwhelming. It’s important to understand that healing from trauma is a process that takes time and patience. In this blog post, we will discuss some strategies for creating a safe space for your adopted child to heal and thrive.

Build Trust

Building trust is vital when helping your adopted child heal from past trauma. Trust serves as the foundation for a relationship where your child feels safe and understood. To build trust, start by being a consistent presence in their life, maintain routines and be predictably positive in your interactions. Listen to them with empathy and without judgment, making sure they feel heard and valued. Honoring your promises, no matter how small, also reinforces their sense of security. Offer choices to empower them, showing that their feelings and opinions matter. Through these actions, you create a supportive environment where your child can begin to heal and flourish.

Create Routine

Maintaining a routine can be incredibly beneficial for adopted children who have been through trauma, as it provides a sense of stability and predictability in their lives. A structured daily routine might include waking up at the same time each morning, having breakfast together, and engaging in activities like schoolwork, outdoor play, or reading time. Following a set bedtime ritual, such as taking a warm bath, reading a story, or listening to calming music, can help signal the end of the day and promote restful sleep. These consistent activities provide security and help the child know what to expect, reducing anxiety and allowing them to focus on their growth and healing.

Offer Support

Offering support to your adopted child as they work through past trauma requires patience and understanding. Recognize that healing is a journey, and each child progresses at their own pace. Show your support by being consistently available and approachable, allowing your child to share their feelings when they feel ready. Validate their emotions by acknowledging their pain and expressing empathy, reinforcing that their feelings are normal and understandable. Engage in calming activities together, such as drawing, walking, or simply sitting in silence, which can provide comfort and a sense of connection. Additionally, educate yourself on trauma and its impacts so you can better understand and respond to your child’s needs. Through unwavering patience and a compassionate approach, you create a secure space for your child to navigate their healing journey.

Educate Yourself

When supporting your adopted child through past trauma, it’s crucial to educate yourself on various aspects of trauma, including its emotional, psychological, and physical effects. Learn about attachment theory to understand how early experiences shape a child’s ability to form secure relationships. Explore trauma-informed care practices to provide the best possible support. Resources such as books on child psychology, trauma, and adoption can be invaluable. Online courses, webinars, and support groups for adoptive parents can offer practical skills and community support. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help from therapists who specialize in trauma and adoption, like those at Relevant Connections PLLC. By expanding your knowledge, you can create a nurturing environment that fosters your child’s healing and growth.

Foster Connection

Helping your adopted child foster positive connections while working through past traumas involves creating opportunities for safe and meaningful social interactions. Encourage participation in group activities that align with their interests, such as sports teams, art classes, or music lessons, where they can build friendships in a structured and supportive environment. Facilitate playdates with compassionate and understanding peers to help your child practice social skills and develop trust in others. Encourage involvement in community events or volunteering, which can provide a sense of purpose and belonging. Additionally, reinforcing family bonds through regular family activities and open communication can help your child feel secure and connected. By nurturing these connections, you create a network of support that can bolster your child’s emotional resilience and aid in their healing process.

Creating a safe space for your adopted child to heal from trauma requires patience, understanding, and love. By building trust, establishing routine, offering support, educating yourself, and fostering connections, you can help your child feel secure and supported as they navigate their healing journey. Remember that healing takes time, so be gentle with yourself and your child as you both navigate this process together.

Brooke Chaplan is a freelance writer.

Navigating Mental Health: The Role of Therapists in Personal Recovery Stories by Brandy Levine

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Therapists around the world play a crucial role in helping individuals navigate their mental health journeys. Whether in Los Angeles, London, or any other bustling metropolis, the support they offer is invaluable.

Urban Living and Mental Health

Life in a big city can be exhilarating but also overwhelming. The fast-paced lifestyle, career pressures, and constant quest for success can take a toll on mental well-being. That’s where therapists come into the picture, offering a lifeline to those seeking solace and support.

Real-life Stories of Recovery

Consider Sarah, a marketing executive who recently moved to Los Angeles from a small town. The city’s energy was overwhelming, and she found herself struggling with anxiety. Sarah decided to seek help from a therapist. Through regular sessions, she learned coping mechanisms and mindfulness techniques that helped her regain control over her life. Her therapist provided a safe space where she could express her fears without judgment, leading to significant improvements in her mental health.

Meanwhile, in London, Tom, a financial analyst, faced similar challenges. Balancing work and personal life was a constant struggle. Through therapy, Tom discovered ways to manage stress and set healthy boundaries. His therapist helped him find a work-life balance that improved his overall well-being.

Understanding the Therapeutic Process

Therapy isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. Each individual’s journey is unique, and therapists understand this well. They tailor their approach based on the client’s needs. Whether it’s Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), psychotherapy, or other modalities, the goal is to foster healing and personal growth.

The Importance of Finding the Right Therapist

Finding the right therapist is like finding a trusted friend who guides you through life’s challenges. For John, a struggling artist, connecting with a therapist who understood the pressures of creative professions was a game-changer. His therapist helped him navigate the highs and lows of his career, offering strategies to manage stress and maintain a healthy work-life balance.

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Therapists Around the World: A Diverse Pool of Experts

From Los Angeles to London, and beyond, there are therapists specializing in a wide range of issues. This diversity ensures that individuals can find someone who resonates with their specific struggles and cultural background.

How Therapy Transforms Lives

Consider Maria, a single mother dealing with postpartum depression. She felt isolated and overwhelmed until she reached out to a therapist. Through compassionate counselling and practical advice, Maria gradually rebuilt her confidence and found joy in motherhood again. Her story is a testament to how therapy can transform lives, offering hope and healing.

The Role of Therapy in Overcoming Trauma

Therapists also play a vital role in helping individuals overcome trauma. For example, Mike, a firefighter, had recurring nightmares after a particularly harrowing rescue mission. Therapy provided him with techniques to process his experiences and manage PTSD symptoms. His sessions were a critical part of his recovery, enabling him to continue his vital work with renewed strength.

Accessibility and Affordability of Therapy

One of the challenges often associated with therapy is its accessibility and cost. However, many therapists offer sliding scale fees based on income, making mental health support more affordable. Additionally, online therapy options have become increasingly popular, providing flexibility and convenience.

Breaking the Stigma Around Mental Health

Therapists are also on the frontline of breaking the stigma surrounding mental health. Through community outreach and education, they encourage individuals to seek help without shame. By normalising conversations about mental health, they create an environment where everyone feels empowered to pursue their well-being.

Building a Supportive Community

Therapists often go beyond individual sessions to build supportive communities. Group therapy sessions, workshops, and support groups offer individuals the chance to connect with others facing similar challenges. These community-based approaches foster a sense of belonging and mutual support, crucial for long-term mental health.

Taking the First Step Towards Healing

Deciding to see a therapist can be daunting, but it’s a courageous step towards healing. For anyone feeling hesitant, know that therapy is a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Therapists around the world are committed to guiding you through this journey, offering the tools and support needed to thrive.

In cities across the globe, therapists serve as beacons of hope, guiding individuals towards better mental health. Their dedication and expertise ensure that no one has to navigate their struggles alone.

If you or someone you know is considering therapy, therapists in Los Angeles and other cities are ready to help. Take that first step today and embark on a transformative journey towards well-being.

Brandy Levine is a licensed therapist at Stori, specializing in cognitive-behavioural therapy to help clients navigate life’s challenges with resilience and insight. Her approach is centred on fostering self-awareness and empowering individuals to enact positive change in their lives.

5 Potent Paths for Prolonged Pain: Where to Turn When Life Feels Overbearing by Meghan Belnap

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Few trials in life are as demanding or relentless as those rooted in chronic physical pain or emotional trauma. For the young adult grappling with long-term afflictions, navigating through daily life can feel like traversing a battlefield with no map and an unreliable compass. 

Seeking Solace in Shared Stories 

When the weight of your struggle seems too heavy to bear, one of the most powerful avenues toward comfort and understanding is through storytelling and shared experiences. Whether you’re dealing with the debilitating effects of chronic illness, the fallout from trauma, or a blend of both, realizing you’re not alone can be profoundly liberating. 

Joining Support Groups 

Surrounding yourself with peers who understand firsthand the turmoil you face can provide a unique and invaluable support system. Consider reaching out to local or online support groups focused on your specific condition or trauma type. Here, you can share your story, glean insights from others’ journeys, and forge connections that transcend your individual pain. When you open up to a circle of understanding listeners, you’ll find that there is collective strength in solidarity. 

Creating Community 

Online forums and social media groups can serve as modern-day campfires, where you can find solidarity and support among those with similar struggles. From these virtual communities, real friendships and mentorships can blossom, creating a network that uplifts and sustains, even on the darkest of days. 

The Healing Art of Expression 

When words fail us, sometimes the canvas, the page, or the stage can amplify our voices. The creative process—whether through visual arts, music, writing, or performance—can be an outlet for the unspoken struggle within us. Engaging in art as a form of therapy not only provides an escape; it can also catalyse healing on a deeper, psychological level. Be careful though!

Exploring Therapy Through Art 

Art therapy, a form of psychotherapy that utilises creative means to express and process emotions, can be particularly powerful for young adults navigating complex internal landscapes. In a safe and guided environment, you can use artistic mediums to explore memories, release pent-up feelings, and discover new perspectives on your pain. 

Finding a Creative Community 

Being part of a creative community can cultivate a shared language around your pain that transcends traditional dialogue. Whether you join a local writers’ group, painting class, or theater troupe, immersing yourself in art alongside others can provide catharsis, camaraderie, and a fresh lens through which to comprehend and cope with your experiences. 

Professional Partners in Your Personal Battle 

With a struggle as intricate and unyielding as chronic pain or emotional trauma, it’s often necessary to call upon specialized professionals who can provide the knowledge and guidance you need to manage and, ideally, overcome your challenges. 

Therapy and Counselling 

The benefits of therapy and counselling for chronic pain and emotional trauma are well-documented. Contacting a skilled therapy center or counselling office can equip you with tools to address the cognitive and emotional aspects of your condition. Cognitive-behavioural therapy, in particular, has shown efficacy in helping individuals reframe their experiences and manage their pain more effectively. 

Seeking Medical Specialists 

Chronic pain often requires a multidisciplinary approach. Connecting with pain management specialists, physical therapists, or holistic health practitioners can lead to innovative treatments and strategies for maintaining your well-being. For those contending with trauma, seeking out psychiatrists, psychologists, or trauma-focused therapists can pave the way toward understanding and healing deep psychological wounds. 

Navigating Life With a Compassionate Guide 

The path to healing and resilience from long-term afflictions is rarely a straight line. Sometimes, having a life coach or mentor—a compassionate and knowledgeable guide—can help you chart a course that aligns with your personal goals and values. 

Life Coaches 

Life coaches work with clients to identify areas of dissatisfaction, set goals, and make strategic plans to achieve those objectives. While a therapist may look into your past to heal emotional wounds, a life coach can help you focus on the present and future, encouraging you to move forward with intention and purpose, despite your struggles. 

The Power of Mentorship 

Mentors, too, can be instrumental in guiding young adults through the labyrinth of chronic pain and trauma. Whether personal or professional, a mentor can offer support, share wisdom, and act as a role model for resilience. A mentor’s insight and perspective can prove invaluable as you learn to not just survive, but thrive, despite the weight you carry. 

Fortifying Your Internal and External Network 

In your darkest moments, it’s crucial to know that there are sources of strength—both internal and external—to which you can turn. These can be practices that you cultivate within, or connections you foster without, that fortify you against the relentlessness of your pain. 

The Power of Daily Practices 

Mindfulness, meditation, yoga, and relaxation techniques can serve as anchors in the storm of chronic pain or trauma. These practices help you tune into your body-mind connection, fostering a sense of control and calm that is often elusive. Establishing a consistent routine of these activities can help reduce stress, manage pain, and improve your overall quality of life. 

Building Resilient Relationships 

Cultivating healthy and supportive relationships can significantly bolster your resilience in the face of chronic pain or trauma. Whether it’s family, close friends, romantic partners, or even pets, the unconditional support and love found in strong relationships can act as a wellspring of hope and comfort. Nurturing these connections—through open communication, empathy, and mutual aid—can create a network of resources that sustain you through even the most challenging times. 

Finding your way through the intricate labyrinth of chronic pain and emotional trauma as a young adult can be daunting, but it’s not a lonely path. By reaching out to these potent sources of support and understanding, you can begin to unravel the complexities of your experiences and piece together a map that leads to a life defined not by your pain, but by your resilience and triumph. 

This article is by Meghan Belnap, freelance writer.

The Mental Health Impact and Trauma: A Guide for Road Accident Victims.

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Road accidents can have devastating consequences, not only physically but also mentally. While physical injuries are often visible and receive immediate attention, the psychological impact of such traumatic events can sometimes be overlooked.

Road accident victims must prioritise their mental health alongside their physical recovery. In this guide, we’ll explore the importance of addressing mental health after a road accident and provide practical tips for staying mentally resilient during the recovery process.

Understanding the Impact

The aftermath of a road accident can trigger a range of emotional responses, including shock, fear, anger, sadness, and anxiety.

These feelings are normal reactions to a traumatic event. Still, if left unaddressed, they can develop into more serious mental health issues such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, or anxiety disorders.

Victims need to recognise and acknowledge their emotions rather than suppress them, as this can help prevent long-term psychological complications.

Tips for Maintaining Your Mental Well-being

In the aftermath of a road accident, prioritising mental well-being is crucial. Here are essential tips for maintaining your mental health.

Manage Stress

Dealing with the aftermath of a road accident can be incredibly stressful, but some techniques can help manage stress levels.

Mindfulness meditation, deep breathing exercises, and progressive muscle relaxation are all effective ways to reduce anxiety and promote relaxation.

It’s also helpful to practice stress management techniques such as time management, setting boundaries, and prioritizing tasks to avoid feeling overwhelmed. Remember to be patient and permit yourself to take breaks when needed.

Navigating the legal aftermath of a road accident can amplify stress during recovery. However, you can alleviate some of that burden with a dependable legal team like Herrman & Herrman providing support.

Entrusting your case to experienced professionals allows you to shift focus towards prioritising your mental health and overall well-being.

Knowing that competent advocates are handling the legal complexities empowers you to engage in self-care practices without the added pressure of legal concerns weighing on your mind.

Seek Support

Seeking support is paramount for road accident victims. Opening up to trusted friends, family, or mental health professionals can offer validation, comfort, and valuable perspective during a challenging time.

Furthermore, consulting a qualified therapist provides a safe space to process trauma. Therapies like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing (EMDR) are particularly effective in addressing trauma-related symptoms.

By actively seeking support and engaging in therapy, victims can embark on a journey of healing, resilience, and eventual recovery, empowered by the guidance and expertise of those who understand and specialise in mental health care.

Self-Care Practices

Self-care is indispensable for preserving mental well-being throughout the recovery journey. Prioritise ample sleep, a nourishing diet, regular exercise, and indulging in hobbies that foster joy and relaxation.

Steer clear of detrimental coping mechanisms like substance abuse, as they can compound mental health challenges. Tending to your physical health bolsters mental resilience and facilitates recovery.

By nurturing yourself holistically, you cultivate a foundation of strength and vitality, empowering you to navigate the emotional complexities of post-accident recovery with greater resilience and grace.

Remember, self-care isn’t an indulgence; it’s a vital component of healing and self-preservation.

Connect with Others

In the aftermath of a road accident, isolation can intensify feelings of loneliness and depression. Therefore, victims need to connect with others actively. Whether it’s spending quality time with loved ones, seeking support from friends, or participating in support groups tailored for individuals with similar traumas, fostering connections is paramount.

Engaging with those who comprehend your experiences can offer validation, empathy, and a profound sense of belonging.

By building a network of understanding and supportive individuals, road accident victims can navigate their emotional journey with resilience, knowing they are not alone in their struggles.

Setting Realistic Expectations

Recovery from a road accident, both physically and mentally, takes time and patience. It’s essential for victims to set realistic expectations for their recovery and to be gentle with themselves along the way.

Healing is sometimes linear, and setbacks or challenges may occur along the road. By accepting this reality and focusing on progress rather than perfection, victims can cultivate resilience and navigate the ups and downs of recovery more effectively.

 

Conclusion

Road accidents can have a profound impact on both physical and mental health. Still, with the proper support and coping strategies, victims can navigate the recovery process with resilience and strength.

By prioritising their mental health, seeking support, practicing self-care, managing stress, connecting with others, and setting realistic expectations, road accident victims can promote healing and regain a sense of control over their lives.

Remember, it’s okay to ask for help and to take things one day at a time. Your mental health matters, and you deserve support and compassion as you journey toward recovery.

This article was written by a freelance writer.

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What Is EMDR Therapy and How Can It Help You?  by Brooke Chaplan

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Those with post-traumatic stress disorder undergo a wide variety of symptoms that can interfere with their everyday life. EMDR therapy is intended to help reduce the effects of PTSD on the body. In fact, there have been positive clinical outcomes showing this therapy’s effectiveness for treating addictions, depression, anxiety, chronic pain, and even OCD.

What is EMDR Therapy? 

EMDR stands for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing therapy. This extensively researched therapeutic practice has been proven to help people recover from trauma and PTSD-related symptoms. It’s classified as a psychotherapy method and is notated as an effective treatment offering by the NHS, American Psychiatric Association, World Health Organization, American Psychological Association, International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, National Alliance on Mental Illness, and so many more. 

What Makes EMDR Therapy Different? 

When you look at the treatment options for traumatic disorders like PTSD, many require in-depth conversing with a licensed therapist. Many patients will spend hours talking about their distressing issues and even complete homework between their therapy sessions.

EMDR therapy doesn’t work like that. Rather, it’s specifically designed to allow the brain to resume its natural healing process. However, it does include an element of talking therapy to help heal.

EMDR Therapy and Your Brain 

The human brain has a natural process for handling traumatic memories and events that happen in our lives. It utilises communication between the amygdala, hippocampus, and prefrontal cortex. The amygdala is the brain’s alarm for a stressful event. The hippocampus helps the brain to learn and share past memories regarding danger and safety. Lastly, the prefrontal cortex is responsible for analysing what’s happening and controlling your emotions and behaviours. 

Who Can Benefit from EMDR Therapy? 

EMDR therapy can be beneficial for a wide variety of patients, including both children and adults. It’s been known to treat individuals who have the following conditions (and more): 

  • Anxiety 
  • Depression 
  • Bipolar disorder
  • Eating Disorders 
  • Performance Anxiety
  • Personality Disorders 
  • PTSD 
  • Sexual Assault Victims 

Basically, anyone who has experienced a traumatic incident in their life can benefit from this particular type of therapy treatment. In fact, most individuals are able to overcome their symptoms in just a few EMDR sessions as compared to ongoing psychotherapy sessions. 

If you or a loved one has suffered a traumatic incident, it may be difficult to move on with your life.

Fortunately, EMDR therapy can be a great solution to help your brain and body successfully process the incident and move on.

EMDR therapy is recommended for all types of patients, regardless of age or gender. 

This article was written by Brooke Chaplan, writer.

4 Ways EMDR Therapy Can Help You Cope With Anxiety by Rachelle Wilber

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Mental health issues are very common and you may be dealing with anxiety and depression or past traumas. Whether you are worried about your finances, family problems, or other issues, anxiety can sometimes feel overwhelming. To cope with this, more people are turning to EMDR (Eye movement desensitisation and processing) therapy and getting surprisingly effective results. If you are searching for answers as to how to deal with anxiety, here are four ways EMDR therapy may help.

Verbalise Less About Trauma

If you are a person who does not like to talk about your anxiety, EMDR can be very beneficial in that it does not rely on you having to talk about painful memories or situations. Instead, it lets you use your imagination to focus instead on happier thoughts and feelings, helping to reduce your anxiety- although you will have to face your fears at the right time too, in order to heal.

Reduces Physical Problems

When you feel anxious and depressed, your body suffers as much as your mind. As a result, you may find yourself experiencing stomach cramps, headaches, a rapid heartbeat, and other similar problems. EMDR therapy has been shown to provide relief from what are known as somatic symptoms. When used regularly, these symptoms are greatly reduced or eliminated, helping to ease your mind even more.

Helps You Regain Control

When you are anxious, you generally feel as if you have no control over your situation. EMDR therapy changes that by helping you regain control of your emotions. To do so, it reduces the intensity associated with negative emotions and past trauma, and also helps lessen the intensity of any negative or disturbing images you may be replaying over and over in your mind.

Improves Processing of Information

EMDR therapy helps you improve how your brain processes information related to traumatic events. Instead of talking about the events that trigger your anxiety over and over, you instead are encouraged to use your imagination to process your thoughts, feelings, sensations, and emotions. By doing so, your therapist can help you create a mindset that is more tranquil, calmer and less stressful to you. It can take time to heal from trauma and to process it, so you will need to stick with the sessions to get the full benefits.

Rather than let anxiety rule your life day after day, consider speaking to a therapist about how EMDR therapy may be beneficial to your life.

This article was written by writer Rachelle Wilber.

PTSD Therapies And Which One Might Be Right for You by Kara Masterson.

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PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) is one of the most commonly recognised mental health issues because most people endure at least one traumatic experience in their lifetime. Though it’s commonly associated with war veterans, PTSD can occur from enduring the trauma of an abusive relationship, ill health, the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a job.

Thankfully, there are many PTSD therapies you can choose from in order to experience healing. 

Prolonged Exposure Therapy 

When people struggle with a form of PTSD, avoidance is one of the most common approaches. After all, no one wants to revisit the trauma. However, that trauma impacts the way a person lives in the future. By facing the trauma and incorporating activities such as deep breathing exercises, you’ll decrease the amount of power that traumatic event holds over you. Exposure comes in a number of ways- but should be done with a qualified therapist. One example of exposure is to record yourself as you talk about the event that traumatised you. As you listen to the recording, you can do a calming activity such as colouring in order to help you cope and heal with the story of your trauma. 

EMDR Therapy 

EMDR stands for “eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing”, and it’s been instrumental in healing people who’ve dealt with traumatic events. Actress Sandra Bullock famously discussed how she used the assistance of an EMDR therapist in order to deal with various traumatic events in her lifetime. By thinking about the event as you concentrate on something your therapist is doing, you can help to associate a positive experience with that traumatic one. Therapists use tools such as flashing lights, sounds, and movement in order to help with the healing journey. In order for it to be effective, consistent sessions for a few months are the best line of action, with a therapist you trust. 

Cognitive Processing Therapy 

Cognitive Processing Therapy is a PTSD treatment method that allows you to sit down and talk with your therapist about the traumatic event (or events) you’ve endured. You’ll need to process how you feel like it impacted your life. Once you’ve talked through it all, you’re tasked with the responsibility of writing it all down. The act of journaling helps to stimulate your mind to ponder on ways you can cope and adjust in order to move forward in the most abundant manner. Your therapist serves as a guide to help you process and heal with the truest version of the story of what happened to you. 

Stress Inoculation Training 

This method for healing your PTSD is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy. With this training method, you’ll learn various techniques such as self-massages in order to relax and get rid of the stress that’s associated with your trauma. You don’t need to be in a private space to do this type of training. It can be done on your own or within the safe space of a group. 

As the conversation surrounding mental health shifts, don’t be afraid or ashamed to get help. You don’t have to silently endure the negative impact of PTSD. While therapy requires you to show up and do the work, you can move past your trauma and experience healing. 

This article was written by writer Kara Masterson.

Surviving Trauma Makes Relationships Difficult. Self Compassion Can Help: by Taylor Blanchard

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You sabotage your relationships when things feel too calm.

You panic when your partner goes on a family vacation, believing that they’re leaving you forever.

Perhaps you can’t stand hugs or gentle touch.

Maybe you’ve wondered to yourself: “What in the world is wrong with me?! Am I just not cut out to have close friends or a romantic relationship?”

Actually, that’s not the case! You deserve close relationships– everyone does. If you resonate with these scenarios, though, you may have some unprocessed trauma– and that trauma may be making your relationships feel like a rusty, ungreased wheel.

You’re not alone. Here’s how trauma can blow our relationships off-course, and also, how self-compassion can help to ease that struggle.

Trauma Creates Hypervigilance

Trauma is any incident that overwhelms your ability to cope (abuse, neglect, or surviving a natural disaster, just to name a few examples). These abhorrent experiences cause our brains and bodies to swirl with cortisol, also known as the stress hormone.

After a seriously traumatic event (or relationship or childhood), our cortisol levels don’t always return to baseline. Often, the nervous system creates a new baseline of heightened stress response. In short: you don’t go back to being as calm as you were before the storm. Now, you’re hypervigilant all the time. You’re always stressed, always scanning for the next attack.

Unfortunately, relationships can’t be created without vulnerability, and vulnerability can’t happen if you’re constantly scanning for attack.

You might be hypervigilant in your relationships if:

  • You feel uncomfortable, fidgety, and unsafe during social situations
  • You constantly micro-analyse everything other people say to make sure they’re not going to hurt you
  • You constantly micro-analyse everything you say to make sure you don’t say anything “wrong”

Aversion to Intimacy

Trauma, and the excess cortisol it triggers, also creates an aversion to physical closeness. When we’re stressed  (i.e., when our cortisol is on full blast), our nervous systems naturally resist being touched.

Do you find yourself shrinking away from hugs? Do you feel an urge to run away when someone gently touches your arm? That’s likely a trauma response.

Of course, if you’ve experienced assault or physical or sexual abuse, this is a double whammy. Since your trauma came from physical touch, your brain has registered any physical touch as dangerous– on top of your increased baseline level of cortisol. Of course you’d feel sick at the thought of a hug! If this sounds like you, go extra easy on yourself if you struggle with relationships; this struggle isn’t your fault.

So, This Sucks… How in the World Do I Heal?

Yes, it sounds bleak. If this is you, you may feel hopeless. I’m with you; I’ve been there. It’s not hopeless, though. This is healable.

Therapy: Do I Even Have to Say It?

Yes, healing this will probably require trauma-informed therapy. You’ll be surprised at how fast you can begin to shift once you see a therapist who validates your traumatic experiences.

Here’s a hint: Psychology Today’s find-a-therapist tool can help you easily find a trauma-informed therapist. (Make sure to select “trauma focused” under the “types of therapy” menu.)

Now That That’s Out of the Way: Self-Compassion Comes Next

I’m 100% serious when I tell you: you deserve to go easy on yourself.

I say this with firmness, and yet, I forget to go easy on myself most days. Regardless, it helps immensely to stop comparing your relationships to other people’s relationships (both friendships and romantic relationships!).

Yes, it may likely take you longer to learn how to develop lasting relationships, both friendly and intimate. It may seem unfair that making and keeping tons of friends, as well as a life partner, comes so easily to some, while you’re struggling to simply text one person back.

Know what? It is unfair. You shouldn’t have gone through the trauma that you went through. What this means, though, is that you can recognize that you face more relational setbacks than someone who didn’t suffer the same trauma as you did. You’re starting further behind with a ball and chain tied to both feet.

Thus: you can stop comparing, and you can stop feeling like you’re “behind” somehow. Always try to recognize even your tiniest victories, even and especially the challenges which seem “easy” to other people.

Wrapping Up

Relationships make our lives juicy and sparkly, and so, if trauma has impacted your ability to form relationships (I’m with you!), then you’re probably struggling.

Try your best to go easy on yourself. You’ve been through a slog of painful experiences that, unfortunately, can make life on Earth feel like walking straight uphill all the time. Therapy helps. Self-compassion helps.

And yes, I know it’s tiring, but there is help for you out there. Just keep going.


Taylor Blanchard is a freelance mental health and wellness writer for hire. Her lived experience and extensive knowledge on mental health, emotional wellness, and spirituality guide her to create deep, compassionate blog posts, which she hopes will help people to feel less alone in the world. Self-care for Taylor looks like staring at the sky, drinking cacao while listening to metal, or cuddling with her rescue Pitbull mix.