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Why I Wrote ‘Arabella And The Worry Cloud’ And the Self Publishing Process With Shelley The Artist by Eleanor

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In 2019, not long after I wrote my first book ‘Bring me to Light‘ , I had an idea for a story about a little girl, aged 7, who had worries- Arabella and the Worry Cloud.

As a child, I was a big worrier! I remember feeling anxious from about aged 4. I don’t know if its just my personality/ genetics or what was going on, but I was always a worrier.

So, I decided that I wanted to use my experiences to help children with their mental health too. Poor mental health often starts in childhood. For me, I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder at 16 , and was off school with intense anxiety as part of a depressive episode at 15. It runs in my family and I know there are families now who were like mine or children living in more difficult environments. Children in loving, supportive homes (like mine was) can still experience anxiety around nursery, school, after school clubs and friendship issues, bullying and something I did not have contend with.. social media bullying. Other children have special educational needs or disabilities that impact them day to day. The spectrum is huge and I wanted to create a positive book to help.

Arabella is 7 years old and her special talent is worrying. In the book, her worries are represented by a cloud, known as the Worry Cloud, who comes down to see her from the sky. He reminds her of all her worries and she tries to run away from him. However, once she begins to think of positive thoughts and memories with her family like eating ice cream at the beach or swimming with her brother, her mind becomes lighter and happier. These positive thoughts are represented as light beams of positive energy and she finds she can put her worries into perspective. The book also serves as a reminder that the storm does not last forever!

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I am very blessed that my Dad has a close friend who is a renowned artist- Shelley. Shelley’s art work and illustrations are beautifully drawn, colourful and were perfect for how I wanted Arabella to be. She is an esteemed digital artist, mural maker, painter and sketcher. She really brought Arabella to life! So the process began….

Once Shelley came on board, we met every few weeks online for about 5/6 months so she could show me the illustrations she had created and I could give my input as the author. We had lots of fun while Shelley sketched the characters on her ipad for me over Zoom and we really love working together. Shelley is super talented and I am so thankful she is the illustrator of Arabella! You can see her work at www.shelleytheartist.com

So self publishing… why did I self publish? I had sent the manuscript to agents and had meetings with my old publisher and another famous publisher I had worked with on another book. They for different reasons eg budget and having a similar type of children’s book, did not want to take it on. Submitting books to agents means constant rejections and so I felt that it was slowing down time to get the book out there and thought why not self publish through Amazon instead? I could have submitted to more places as didn’t submit to as many as I could have. I would still love to be represented one day by an agent and major publisher so I will need to send out more manuscripts- watch this space!

Once Shelley and I had finalised the illustrations and pages, she resized them for me and then (through an author friend, Joanna Gutkin) I had the recommendation to Abid Hussain via Fiverr, who formats books! Abid then formatted (laid out) the pages for me and created the PDF files for the ebook and paperback. Once this was finalised and looked at by me, he then put it on Amazon KDP for us. I also spoke to a printer friend (of my Dad again as he has an amazing network) Hak Huseyn of Absolute Print printers who helped me to size it, choose the right paper and printed copies of the paperback for us too. As I am new to self publishing, Hak reminded me I would need an ISBN, so once that was paid for and barcode put on, we were good to go! Thanks Hak and Abid!

(image copyright: Eleanor Segall and Shelley the Artist)

This entire process was not as quick as I describe… it took us 9 months .. oh and I also forgot the trip to the bookshop I took with my Dad to find the right size of children’s book when we were about to format. The bookseller even got a tape measure to size it for us in inches, so thank you to Books on the Hill St Albans.

I also want to thank author friends Joanna Gutkin , Esther Marshall, Lauren Posner and Shani Singer who answered my queries about their books and self publishing and the Empowered Author Group on Facebook too.

Thanks also go to my Dad who believed in this book and helped me so much with it! And to the friends and family who read early copies. Rob, my husband has also been so supportive. And to Shelley for working with me!

If you buy a copy for your child, niece or nephew, cousin, friend’s child or your class at school I hope you love reading it and that it helps your child to understand that worrying happens, but we can talk about it, process it and find healthy ways to cope.

Arabella and the Worry Cloud is out now on Amazon

How Counselling Can Help You Manage Your Anxiety by Buick Hamblin, Therapist.

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Anxiety affects millions of people worldwide, impacting their daily lives and overall well-being. Counselling offers a supportive and effective way to manage your anxiety, helping you regain control and improve your mental health.

Understanding Anxiety 

Anxiety is a common mental health condition that manifests in various forms, including social anxiety disorder, generalised anxiety disorder (GAD), and panic disorder. Symptoms often include excessive worry, panic attacks, and constantly feeling anxious. These symptoms can interfere with daily activities, making it crucial to seek appropriate help.

How Counselling Helps with Anxiety 

Counselling for Anxiety

Counselling provides a safe space to explore and understand your anxiety. A therapeutic counsellor works with you to identify the root causes of your anxiety and develop strategies to manage it effectively.

Therapy for Anxiety 

Different types of therapy can be used in counselling to address anxiety. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) helps reframe negative thoughts, while exposure therapy gradually reduces fear responses. Both are proven methods in managing anxiety and improving mental health.

Types of Counselling for Anxiety 

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) 

CBT is a widely used approach that helps you understand and change negative thought patterns contributing to anxiety. It focuses on developing practical skills to manage anxiety symptoms and anxious thoughts. 

For example, if you often experience negative thoughts like “I can’t handle this situation,” CBT can help you reframe this thought to something more constructive, like “I can take small steps to manage this situation.”

Exposure Therapy

Exposure therapy is particularly effective for phobias and social anxiety. It involves gradual exposure to anxiety-provoking situations, helping you build tolerance and reduce avoidance behaviours. For instance, if you have a fear of public speaking, exposure therapy might start with speaking in front of a small group and gradually working up to larger audiences.

Talking Therapies

Alongside private talking therapy practices, NHS talking therapies service provides a space to express your feelings and gain insights into your anxiety. Whether through face-to-face sessions, group therapy, or online counselling options, talking therapies offer valuable support. These sessions can help you feel heard and understood, which is a crucial step in managing anxiety.

How Therapy Sessions Work 

Therapy sessions are tailored to your specific needs. During these sessions, you and your counsellor will create a treatment plan focused on your goals. Regular sessions build a therapeutic relationship, essential for effective treatment. 

The consistency of therapy sessions helps reinforce strategies to manage anxiety. For example, your counsellor might help you track your anxiety levels and identify what can trigger anxiety, which can be discussed and addressed in each session.

Benefits of Counselling for Different Types of Anxiety 

Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD)

Counselling helps manage chronic worry and stress, providing tools to cope with daily life. Techniques such as mindfulness and relaxation exercises can be incorporated into your daily routine to reduce overall anxiety levels.

Panic Disorder

Techniques like CBT are used to cope with panic attacks, reducing their frequency and intensity. Learning breathing exercises and grounding techniques can help you regain control during a panic attack, and if CBT doesn’t work for you there are other options of therapy available.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Counselling aids in managing obsessive thoughts and compulsions, promoting healthier coping mechanisms. For example, a counsellor might use exposure and response prevention (ERP) therapy, a type of CBT specifically designed for OCD, to help you resist the urge to perform compulsive behaviours. This approach is effective in treating anxiety associated with OCD.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Counselling addresses trauma, helping reduce PTSD symptoms through therapeutic approaches like CBT and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). These therapies can help you process traumatic memories and reduce their impact on your daily life.

Social Anxiety Disorder

Strategies in counselling help overcome social fears, improving social interactions and confidence. Role-playing and social skills training can be part of your therapy to help you feel more comfortable in social situations. By learning to manage your anxiety, you can gradually overcome social anxiety disorder and improve your quality of life.

Addressing Specific Concerns 

Health Anxiety

Counselling helps those who constantly worry about their health by addressing underlying fears and developing coping strategies. Techniques like CBT can help you challenge and reframe catastrophic thinking related to health concerns.

Stress and Anxiety

Techniques to manage stress are integrated with anxiety treatment, offering comprehensive support. Learning time management and relaxation techniques can help reduce the overall impact of stress on your anxiety levels.

Seeking Additional Support

While counselling is a crucial component in managing anxiety, there are other resources available to complement your treatment. Organisations like Anxiety UK offer additional support, information, and resources for individuals struggling with anxiety disorders. 

These organisations can provide helplines, support groups, and educational materials to further assist you in your journey towards better mental health.

Accessing Mental Health Services If you’re struggling with Anxiety

It’s important to know that help is available (although there can be waiting lists for therapy). The mental health service in your area can provide access to counselling and other forms of support. Your general practitioner (GP) can refer you to appropriate services, or you may be able to self-refer to local mental health teams. 

Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness, and taking this step can be the beginning of your journey to managing your anxiety effectively.

Embracing a Healthier Future 

Counselling offers effective strategies to manage your anxiety, tailored to your specific needs. By working with a counsellor, you can gain control over your anxiety and improve your mental health. 

Whether it’s through CBT, exposure therapy, or talking therapies, counselling provides the tools and support needed to navigate your anxiety and lead a more fulfilling life. Understanding the types of anxiety disorders and how they can be managed through therapy is crucial in overcoming anxiety.

If you’re struggling with anxiety, consider exploring counselling services. Taking the first step towards seeking help can make a significant difference in managing your anxiety and enhancing your quality of life.

Buick Hamblin is an experienced counsellor and psychotherapist with over 20 years in the field. Specialising in person-centred therapy and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), she offers compassionate, non-judgmental support to clients dealing with a range of issues, including depression and relationship problems. Accredited by the BACP since 2007, Buick provides flexible counselling options both in Grantham, UK and online.

Building A Stronger Family Together: Benefits Of Family Therapy by Miranda Spears

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In an environment where life’s hectic pace can strain family relationships, family therapy seems like a ray of hope for preserving relationships and promoting comprehension. Although the phrase “family therapy” can conjure up ideas of resolving disputes, the advantages of this approach go much beyond that, including enhanced relationships, better communication, and emotional healing.

Enhancing Communication Skills for Stronger Connections

Healthy relationships are based on effective communication, and family counseling services are essential for improving this ability. Communication failures are a common cause of miscommunication, conflict, and emotional distancing in families. Families can acquire and hone skills that enhance their capacity for eloquent and sympathetic thinking and emotional expression via counselling. Therapists help family members express their needs and actively listen to one another via various techniques, including role-playing and guided conversations. A family’s ability to communicate better can result in more meaningful and fruitful relationships. For instance, activities aimed at recognising and resolving communication patterns that fuel conflict are often included in counselling sessions. Family members can lessen the number of disagreements and misunderstandings by learning to have talks with more empathy and understanding.

Addressing and Resolving Conflict Effectively

Family life will always include conflict, but if unsolved concerns are not properly handled, they can become serious difficulties. Family therapy offers a neutral, safe environment for discussing and working through issues. Family members can share their opinions and feelings in talks led by therapists without worrying about being judged. Families are better able to resolve disputes in a way that fosters understanding rather than hate in this controlled setting. Families that get treatment concentrate on improving their ability to solve problems and resolve conflicts. Counselors often teach family members conflict-resolution strategies like compromise and negotiation, which help them identify points of agreement and strive toward amicable resolutions.

Strengthening Emotional Bonds and Family Cohesion

Family therapy has a crucial role in strengthening emotional ties and promoting unity within the family. Emotional distance often results from unsolved problems, unfulfilled desires, or traumatic experiences in the past. Family members can examine and resolve these underlying difficulties in therapy, which promotes emotional healing and fortifies bonds between them. Families might better comprehend one another’s experiences and viewpoints by using facilitated conversations and therapeutic activities. Activities intended to improve emotional connection, including telling personal tales or expressing appreciation, are often included in the therapy process. Through deeper connections fostered by these activities, family members can develop empathy and trust.

Improving Family Roles and Dynamics

Redefining and addressing family roles and dynamics is another aspect of family therapy that can have a big influence on relationships and family functioning. Rigid or dysfunctional role structures are a major source of discontent and conflict in many households. For instance, a family member can take on an emotionally taxing caregiver role, or there can be tasks that are not evenly distributed, leading to conflict. The chance to assess and modify these responsibilities to better suit the needs and abilities of each family member is offered by therapy. In order to recognise and treat problematic patterns in roles and dynamics, therapists collaborate with families. Families can investigate and reinterpret roles in a manner that fosters harmony and respect for one another via therapy. As an example, family members might work together to create new rules about who gets what or help each other adapt to new positions within the family.

Fostering Resilience and Coping Strategies

The development of resilience and useful coping mechanisms is yet another important advantage of family therapy. Families often deal with a variety of pressures that might harm their relationships and mental health, such as health problems, financial hardships, or life changes. Families that get therapy are given the skills and techniques to deal with these pressures and keep a good attitude. Therapists assist families in creating coping strategies that improve their capacity to deal with difficulties and adjust to changes. Teaching stress management strategies, developing problem-solving skills, and promoting healthy lifestyle choices are a few examples of therapeutic approaches. Families develop resilience, support one another through trying times, and manage to stay stable in the face of outside challenges.

Finally…

The advantages of family therapy for improving family dynamics and relationships are immeasurable. A family that receives family therapy can become more cohesive, resilient, and supportive—a place where people feel empowered to face life’s obstacles as a unit.

Miranda Spears is a freelance writer.

Gila’s Way: A Charity Set Up To Help Prevent Teen Suicide And Educate On Mental Health. Interview with Rabbi Hammer.

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Sometimes, I get emails about stories and they really stand out to me. This was one of them. A friend of mine knew about this suicide prevention charity in Israel, called Gila’s Way. The Hammer family in the Jewish community sadly lost their daughter Gila z’l to suicide when she was just 18. Gila had mental health issues and the family want to save lives in her name and make sure it doesn’t happen to another family. Rabbi Shalom Hammer, Gila’s father and a world renowned lecturer, started sharing his insights from Gila’s tragic story in order to raise awareness, teach empathy, and promote dialogue regarding suicide in order to ensure its prevention.

Gila’s Way is a non-profit organisation which implements, educates and presents programs regarding mental health awareness and suicide prevention in order to save lives.

I asked Rabbi Shalom Hammer a few questions about his life saving mission:

  1. Your charity Gila’s Way has such an important mission. Please can you tell me more about Gila as a person, her mental health struggles and how you as a family coped in the aftermath of her tragic death/ how the charity got set up?

Gila was an unbelievable girl, vibrant, vivacious, social, hilarious and extremely sensitive. She was a leader of her peers socially and she loved to have fun. She also saw the world in a very innocent wholesome way, she was not capable of harming anyone nor did she believe that people would harm her. Tragically she experienced a sexual episode which was obviously extremely traumatising for her. She also did not wish to or know how to openly communicate the degradation she felt and the pain she was experiencing. Consequently, a swell of anxiety and depression built up inside of her and she eventually began to lose hope which ultimately lead to her passing away.

After Gila died, we decided to take the inexplicable pain and the unfathomable loss to as much of a positive place as possible. My wife and I feel that Gila should be alive and the reason she is not is largely because of the lack of knowledge with mental health and certainly suicidal ideation that we had and that so many others have as well. Gila’s Way is an organisation therefore, who’s primary concern is education via seminars, lectures, interactive workshops and presentations, understanding that the more we educate and inform the greater chance we have of lowering the numbers and preventing suicide.

(image of Gila z’l: Gila’s Way and Hammer Family)

2. What would you like people to know about teen suicide and suicide prevention in Israel and globally?

The most important vital point that I cannot emphasise enough, is that the vast majority of people who die from suicide, do NOT want to die. Particularly when we are speaking about adolescents who are experiencing so much pressures and may impulsively make a decision within a few seconds and not realising that it is finite. When people understand that most people who die from suicide, did not want to die, they also understand that this means we are capable of saving that person.

3. What is your message to other parents coping with children with mental health issues or who have also experienced bereavement?

There are a number of very crucial messages for parents. Firstly, don’t be afraid or ashamed to talk and converse, secondly don’t converse with just everyone. Dealing with mental health and a child who is challenged, is very procedural and therefore exhausting. Make sure to speak to the right people and save your energies for those people. Don’t speak to just anyone because you will grow more confused and more exhausted; make sure to find those/that people/person who can be helpful and focus on speaking to them.

In addition, pay attention to what your child is “saying”. A child (or anyone for that matter) who is dealing with mental health challenges or experiencing a crisis, will not necessarily explicitly say “I need help”, but they will often send “cries for help” and share those signs because they really want help. Some of those “warning signs” can be familial/social isolation , spending long hours in their bedrooms and refusing to join the family for activities which they normally enjoyed. In addition, they may be exhibiting exhaustion, or become physically unkempt, and they also might desist from performing normal expectations (like going to school, doing their homework, participating in events etc.)

Finally, and this is something that I consistently emphasise, trust your parental instincts. We were blessed with instincts and often a Dr or professional might suggest something and our instinct is saying “this just does not sit well with me”…trust that instinct and pay attention to it, because it is there for a reason.

(image: Gila’s Way)

4. What do you at Gila’s Way want to achieve through your charity and how are you doing this through programmes/events?

Our primary focus is on education. We don’t want any parent or any significant other, to be in situations where they “don’t know” or “didn’t know enough” because knowledge is power and empowers us with the capacity to be aware, respond and even save a life. We do so through the many programs, presentations, seminars and interactive workshops and exhibitions that we offer for diverse groups (parents, educators, adolescents, leaders, professionals, here in Israel in the army and pre-military academies). Engaging audiences in the conversations breaks stigmas and allows for knowledge and consideration.

Finally, Gila’s Way offers a consultation service (NOT a hotline). Navigating the mental health system, especially in Israel, isn’t simple. If one knows someone struggling with their mental health, they can schedule a consultation with us to help guide them through initial steps towards healing and recovery.

‘Whoever saves a single life is considered to have saved an entire world’ (the Talmud)

For more about Gila’s Way, please go to their website here.

Rehab 101: What to Expect When Entering Treatment by Miranda Spears

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Rehab treatment is one of the most important things you can get if you’ve been struggling with dependencies and substance abuse issues. This is because the human body and mind can become reliant on certain substances, making it almost impossible to quit a substance without the help of the kind of professionals who work in rehab facilities. However, it’s never easy to make a major life decision without knowing the full story, which is why you should know what to expect as you’re entering rehab.  

Admission 

If you want to go to a drug rehab in Austin, USA, some of which are considered among the best in the world, you’ll have to understand what the process of admission is going to be like. Rehab facilities get a lot of patients each year, and all of these people have different needs and considerations because they may have different side effects from the same drug or may have been using wildly different substances. When you first enter rehab, professionals at the facility you’re considering going to will be able to assess your case by getting a medical history and figuring out the effects substance abuse has had on your body, which can then be used to create a treatment plan for you.   

Detoxification 

Detoxification is the next step of any good treatment plan and is often the toughest part of the early stages of sobriety and recovery. Withdrawal symptoms arise when people have not had access to drugs for a number of hours, upsetting their bodies, which have grown to develop a reliance on those substances. Symptomatic treatment for withdrawals by using medication to control cravings and side effects helps a lot in ensuring people are able to comfortably transition to recovery by lowering the worst sensations they’ll be feeling during this time, and, once the body has gotten rid of all of the toxins lurking within, the rest of your treatment will begin.  

Getting a treatment plan 

As previously mentioned, getting a proper treatment plan is a major part of getting better and weaning yourself off of the substance you’ve been abusing, including any side effects you’ll have to get accustomed to. For instance, using needles that are not clean could result in diseases like hepatitis, which means experts at the clinic would need to create a custom plan to help relieve this issue, too. Whatever the case may be, healthcare professionals will be able to create the best treatment for your case, balancing the side effects of that medication with the massive benefits you’ll get by taking them.  

Education 

A major part of treatment at rehab facilities is the education they provide to people who are struggling with dependencies. Many people are unaware that addiction can fundamentally change how the brain works, rewiring it to depend on drugs and further enabling abuse, and that triggers present in everyday life can make it even tougher to make a clean break. Getting educated about these issues will make it more likely for you to avoid triggers and ensure you’re not falling into the same traps as before once you’re done with rehab. 

Progress monitoring 

Monitoring progress is another part of ensuring success during the process of rehab because, though you may be able to get sober for a short time, you’ll have to work hard to maintain that sobriety. There are many ways that facilities are able to monitor progress, including while you’re within the premises by noting down the changes they’ve seen and scheduling regular checkups by a doctor, and when you’re outside the premises, by connecting you to a sponsor that will check on you on a weekly basis for years to come.  

Rehab is an integral part of treating substance abuse and drug addiction all over the world, as the professionals who work inside each facility can have permanent impacts on the lives of millions of people each year, helping them work through their issues. If you make yourself aware of what you should be expecting when you begin treatment, it’ll only make things easier to deal with in the short term, allowing you to be more comfortable once you start rehab. 

This article was written by writer Miranda Spears.

Navigating Mental Health: The Role of Therapists in Personal Recovery Stories by Brandy Levine

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Therapists around the world play a crucial role in helping individuals navigate their mental health journeys. Whether in Los Angeles, London, or any other bustling metropolis, the support they offer is invaluable.

Urban Living and Mental Health

Life in a big city can be exhilarating but also overwhelming. The fast-paced lifestyle, career pressures, and constant quest for success can take a toll on mental well-being. That’s where therapists come into the picture, offering a lifeline to those seeking solace and support.

Real-life Stories of Recovery

Consider Sarah, a marketing executive who recently moved to Los Angeles from a small town. The city’s energy was overwhelming, and she found herself struggling with anxiety. Sarah decided to seek help from a therapist. Through regular sessions, she learned coping mechanisms and mindfulness techniques that helped her regain control over her life. Her therapist provided a safe space where she could express her fears without judgment, leading to significant improvements in her mental health.

Meanwhile, in London, Tom, a financial analyst, faced similar challenges. Balancing work and personal life was a constant struggle. Through therapy, Tom discovered ways to manage stress and set healthy boundaries. His therapist helped him find a work-life balance that improved his overall well-being.

Understanding the Therapeutic Process

Therapy isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. Each individual’s journey is unique, and therapists understand this well. They tailor their approach based on the client’s needs. Whether it’s Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), psychotherapy, or other modalities, the goal is to foster healing and personal growth.

The Importance of Finding the Right Therapist

Finding the right therapist is like finding a trusted friend who guides you through life’s challenges. For John, a struggling artist, connecting with a therapist who understood the pressures of creative professions was a game-changer. His therapist helped him navigate the highs and lows of his career, offering strategies to manage stress and maintain a healthy work-life balance.

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Therapists Around the World: A Diverse Pool of Experts

From Los Angeles to London, and beyond, there are therapists specializing in a wide range of issues. This diversity ensures that individuals can find someone who resonates with their specific struggles and cultural background.

How Therapy Transforms Lives

Consider Maria, a single mother dealing with postpartum depression. She felt isolated and overwhelmed until she reached out to a therapist. Through compassionate counselling and practical advice, Maria gradually rebuilt her confidence and found joy in motherhood again. Her story is a testament to how therapy can transform lives, offering hope and healing.

The Role of Therapy in Overcoming Trauma

Therapists also play a vital role in helping individuals overcome trauma. For example, Mike, a firefighter, had recurring nightmares after a particularly harrowing rescue mission. Therapy provided him with techniques to process his experiences and manage PTSD symptoms. His sessions were a critical part of his recovery, enabling him to continue his vital work with renewed strength.

Accessibility and Affordability of Therapy

One of the challenges often associated with therapy is its accessibility and cost. However, many therapists offer sliding scale fees based on income, making mental health support more affordable. Additionally, online therapy options have become increasingly popular, providing flexibility and convenience.

Breaking the Stigma Around Mental Health

Therapists are also on the frontline of breaking the stigma surrounding mental health. Through community outreach and education, they encourage individuals to seek help without shame. By normalising conversations about mental health, they create an environment where everyone feels empowered to pursue their well-being.

Building a Supportive Community

Therapists often go beyond individual sessions to build supportive communities. Group therapy sessions, workshops, and support groups offer individuals the chance to connect with others facing similar challenges. These community-based approaches foster a sense of belonging and mutual support, crucial for long-term mental health.

Taking the First Step Towards Healing

Deciding to see a therapist can be daunting, but it’s a courageous step towards healing. For anyone feeling hesitant, know that therapy is a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Therapists around the world are committed to guiding you through this journey, offering the tools and support needed to thrive.

In cities across the globe, therapists serve as beacons of hope, guiding individuals towards better mental health. Their dedication and expertise ensure that no one has to navigate their struggles alone.

If you or someone you know is considering therapy, therapists in Los Angeles and other cities are ready to help. Take that first step today and embark on a transformative journey towards well-being.

Brandy Levine is a licensed therapist at Stori, specializing in cognitive-behavioural therapy to help clients navigate life’s challenges with resilience and insight. Her approach is centred on fostering self-awareness and empowering individuals to enact positive change in their lives.

Why Unplugging More Often Could Be The Best Thing For Your Mental Health.

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If you think about it, it’s unusual how overly connected we are to everyone and the world. A decade ago, if you sent a text message to someone and then a “Hello??” minutes afterward, you’d look desperate or rude, but nowadays, it’s a whole 180 degrees, and instead, if you’re not the one responding back in minutes, you’re the rude one! From the moment we wake up to the time we fall asleep, our lives are dominated by screens.

Whether it’s checking emails, scrolling through social media, or binge-watching the latest series, our digital devices have become constant companions. Now, everyone knows how dangerous it can be to use phones and screens too much. There are limits for kids, but not too much pressure to limit children, right?

Generally speaking, this interconnectedness can be way too negative. There’s doom scrolling, contact misinformation online, full-on rude people, trolls, and questionable hostility overall. It’s not good. The Internet can be an escape from reality, but nowadays, real life feels more like an escape from the internet.

So, why not unplug more often? Here’s why you should!

You Have to Keep in Mind There’s a Mirage to Social Media

It’s no secret that platforms like Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitter are filled with picture-perfect snapshots and videos of people’s lives. Some of these people seem to have perfect lives, like the perfect job, the perfect family, the perfect house, the perfect friends, and everything in their lives is absolutely perfect.

Their lives are just perfect, and you can’t help but feel sad and jealous to the point you’re probably thinking, “Do I have depression” right? But here’s the kicker: what you see is often just a highlight reel. Sure, what you see appears perfect, but chances are, it’s the furthest thing from perfect.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to these seemingly flawless lives. This comparison can seriously dent our self-esteem. It makes you feel like there’s inadequacy, right? Well, you’re constantly seeing everyone’s best moments; it’s hard not to feel like you’re falling short in your own life.

Doom Scrolling is Dangerous

Social media isn’t the only reason to unplug. Are you scrolling and seeing an endless stream of bad news? Maybe it’s political turmoil, natural disaster, or something else that’s overwhelmingly bleak. This constant negativity is going to lead to stress and anxiety in some people so make sure you look after yourself and monitor how much you watch.

It’s Best to Reconnect with the Real World

The real world is an escape from the internet, and honestly, it can be a fairly good escape. When you unplug, you have the opportunity to engage with the world around you. It usually gives you a better chance to spend time with loved ones, go for a walk in nature, or pick up a hobby that doesn’t involve a screen. Overall, these activities can help ground you and remind you of what truly matters.

Unplugging Improves Your Sleep

Screen time, especially before bed, can interfere with your sleep. The blue light emitted by our devices can mess with our sleep patterns, making it harder to fall asleep and stay asleep. Unplugging in the evening can lead to better, more restful sleep.

It’s All About Boosting Your Mood

Being connected all the time is stress-inducing, and engaging in offline activities can boost your mood and reduce stress. Reach out to your Dr or therapist if you need help boosting your mood.

This article was written by a freelance writer,

6 Healing Rituals for Grief During Times Of Mourning by Addy Reeds

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In times of mourning, finding ways to process grief is crucial for emotional healing. While everyone grieves differently, certain rituals can provide comfort and help individuals honour their loved ones. Please do reach out for support from your doctor or therapist if you need it.

Here are six healing rituals that can support you during these difficult times:

Creating a Memory Box 

One meaningful way to remember a loved one is by creating a memory box. This can include photographs, letters, and personal mementos that hold special significance. By curating these items, you create a tangible connection to your loved one, allowing you to revisit cherished memories whenever you need comfort. This ritual helps keep their memory alive and provides a physical space for their emotions. 

Planting a Memorial Garden 

Nature has a soothing effect on the soul, and planting a memorial garden can provide a serene space for reflection. Choose plants that were meaningful to your loved one or that symbolise remembrance and renewal. Tending to the garden over time can be a therapeutic activity, offering a sense of purpose and continuity. This living tribute grows and blooms, mirroring the ongoing nature of love and memory. 

Holding a Candlelight Vigil 

A candlelight vigil is a peaceful way to gather friends and family to honour your loved one. The soft glow of candles creates a tranquil atmosphere, perfect for sharing stories, reading poetry, or simply sitting in silent remembrance. This ritual fosters a sense of community and collective support, reminding you that you are not alone in your grief. It’s a moment to reflect on the light your loved one brought into your life and to share that light with others. 

Writing a Eulogy 

Crafting a eulogy is a powerful way to honor and celebrate a loved one’s life. Whether delivered at a funeral or kept as a personal tribute, a well-written eulogy encapsulates the essence of the departed and their impact on those around them. Seeking custom eulogy services, like Eulogy Pen, can help articulate your feelings and ensure that the tribute is both heartfelt and eloquent. This process can be incredibly cathartic, helping to process your emotions and find closure. 

Practicing Mindfulness and Meditation 

Grief can be overwhelming, and mindfulness practices can help ground you in the present moment. Meditation, deep breathing exercises, and mindful walking can provide relief from the intense emotions of mourning. These practices encourage self-compassion and allow you to observe your feelings without judgment. Regular mindfulness practice can create a space for healing and offer moments of peace amid the turmoil of grief. 

Creating Art in Their Memory 

Artistic expression can be a profound outlet for grief. Whether through painting, writing, music, or crafting, creating art in memory of your loved one allows you to channel your emotions into something tangible. This process can be deeply personal and healing, providing a way to express what words cannot capture. Art becomes a tribute to your loved one’s life and a testament to your enduring love. 

Grieving is a deeply personal experience, and finding the right rituals can make a significant difference in your healing process. Whether you choose to create a memory box, write a custom eulogy, plant a memorial garden, hold a candlelight vigil, practice mindfulness, or create art, each of these rituals offers a unique way to honour your loved one and find comfort. Remember, it’s okay to seek support and take the time you need to heal. 

Addy Reeds is.a freelance writer.

Four Ways To Enhance The Quality Of Your Sleep And Mental Health

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There are plenty of things you can do that can improve your life, but if you haven’t got the basics in place, then it’s harder to make the most of all that life offers you. Let’s think about sleep. No one’s their best self when they’re running low on sleep. It makes all aspects of life more difficult, most notably our relationships — because after all, who isn’t irritable when they wish they could still be in bed? Lack of sleep can also worsen mental health conditions including anxiety and depression and being in a good sleep routine helps improve these.

You can’t always guarantee a full 6 – 8 hours of sleep, but you can increase the likelihood. In this post, we’ll look at some handy tips for consistently sleeping well. 

Get Serious About Your Sleep Routine

Taking an ad hoc approach to your sleep might work, but it’s not a very reliable method. A better approach is to get serious about having a proper sleep routine. Humans are creatures of habit, so the longer you do your sleep routine, the more effective it’ll be. You don’t need to do anything wild; simply going to bed/getting up at the same time each day is a good enough start.

Get Active During the Day

You’ll find it more difficult to fall asleep if you still have a lot of energy. You’ll wake up with an allotted amount of energy, and if you don’t use it, then well, your body’s not going to get the hint that it should go back to sleep. You don’t have to run a marathon every day to tire your body out, but you should be at least a little active. This is especially an issue for people who work from home, who are generally less active than people who travel to work. Keep moving and improve your sleep and health!

Use/Avoid The Right Products

Some products are good for sleep, and some will help to keep you awake. Coffee might be great in the morning when you want to be more alert, but if you have it too late in the day (say, after 3 pm), then you might find that you’re lying in bed while still completely wide awake.

Alcohol consumption can also impact the quality of sleep you get and worsens mental health. On the other hand, CBD oil (without the psychoactive part) and chamomile tea have both been shown to help relax the body and put it in a state ready for sleep. Lavender oil also really helps relax the body and mind. Sometimes, you just need a relaxing regime to aid sleep.

Creating a Calm Atmosphere

Some people can fall asleep anywhere. But that’s not the case for most people. It’s generally easy to fall asleep in a calm and relaxed atmosphere. So take a look at your bedroom: does it fit that description? If not, then look at making some changes.

Decluttering, changing the lighting, and making the space a tech-free zone (no phones in bed!) will all help to make it a sleep-friendly environment. You may also keep some books handy for when you can’t drift away and calming things by your bedside eg lavender spray.

Good sleep is vital for good mental health. These tips will help you to get better quality sleep.

This article was written by a freelance writer.

Thriving Through Time: Prioritising Mental Health for Life’s Journey by Millie Fuller

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Mental health is finally getting recognition in society. The NHS in the UK has appointed their first medical director for mental health and neurodiversity. Our wellbeing should come first during all stages of life. 

Mental Health at Any Age

Poor mental health doesn’t discriminate, and it can affect anyone at any age. It impacts how we cope and how we relate to other people.  

The Signs of Mental Health Issues

Note anything that might be a sign of poor mental health. 

This can look different depending on age. 

Some common signs include:

  • Mood changes
  • Pulling away from social activities
  • Changes in sleep habits
  • Unexplained aches and pains
  • Suicidal ideation/ self harm
  • Unexpected anger or always tearful
  • Change in eating habits

Carers should also look out for any of these signs early on. The faster these are acted on, the sooner the quality of life can improve. 

The Role of Social Connection

As humans, we thrive around others. Our loved ones and our community give us both emotional support and a sense of belonging. 

To expand connections, look at joining a club or doing some volunteering. These interactions can ease loneliness, which can be especially common in older adults. 

Coping with Life Transitions

As we age, we’ll go through many transitions in life, some positive, and some not. Things like retirement, the loss of a spouse or even moving house can be difficult to navigate. Triggering negative feelings.

Reach out to a trusted friend. But if things start to become unmanageable, seek the help of a professional, like a GP or psychiatrist.

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Trying Mindfulness and Meditation

Lots of people find these practices useful. It helps to connect us to our feelings without judgment. Being aware of our emotions is so important and connecting with our breath.

Start with breathing exercises or guided meditation. To reduce anxiety, mindfulness should be done regularly.

Maintaining Hobbies and Interests

Make time for your hobbies- whether its sport, art, writing, gaming, music or drama. Taking time to do things we enjoy gives a sense of achievement. In some cases, it also connects us with others.

The Role of Technology in Mental Health

Many apps offer mental health support, and some of them are even free. Social media is also a great tool for staying in touch with loved ones. 

Older adults might need some support for navigating new technology. Carers or loved ones might need to give them a helping hand.

Nutrition and Mental Health

When we’re not feeling great mentally, it’s easy to fall into bad eating patterns. But we need to make sure we’re getting the vitamins and minerals that keep our brains healthy.  Eating well is key at any age to support a healthy mind. 

Summary

As we go through life’s journey, we must focus on our mental health at every stage. Learning to test how we’re feeling and navigate changes will keep our brains healthy. If we start to notice a decline, there’s no shame in seeking the help of a professional. It can help us navigate through this tough period. 

Stay connected to others and build new connections through mutual interests. For carers there’s plenty of resources online for creating a plan to help your loved one’s mental health.

Millie Fuller is a freelance writer.