In 2015, Alexander Walton had an idea. It was an emotional short story that he wrote, then placed in brightly coloured envelopes and randomly distributed across the city he lived in. Each one also contained a small gift: a symbol of hope. He called this project Find My Story and through the support and kindness of others, it expanded across the globe.
Over the next five years there were three stories in total. Hundreds of volunteers. Thousands of envelopes. And an avalanche of profound and moving responses from people who had found one of these envelopes, and had the curiosity to open it.
This experience was the inspiration for The Kind Mind Method and ultimately changed the author’s life in ways he never could have expected. He continues to advocate kindness and positivity through his books and ongoing projects.
(image: Alexander Walton)
For years, scientific studies have continuously demonstrated a clear link between kindness and mental wellbeing. Throughout that time, there has never been any unified mechanism to harness this power. Until now.
Do you feel as if you are stuck inside your own head? Does worry stop you engaging with the wider world? Do you sometimes feel helpless to stop negative thoughts? The Kind Mind Method is a simple thought process that will allow you to embrace a positive mindset in everything you do. It will change you in ways you never could have imagined and snap you into the moment like nothing else you have tried.
Built upon proven scientific principles and leveraging the power of kindness, Alexander Walton will explain how you can benefit from this profound change. Through clear steps and real-world examples, he will guide you through its adoption and ongoing usage. Along the way, he will examine how this approach provides you with a true alternative thought that you will actively want to pursue. And by the end of this book, you will understand how it can offer a structured mechanism to deal with any situation, and watch as you seamlessly embrace a different thought. A better thought. A kinder thought.
Here were just some responses to the Find my Story envelopes:
Found your story and you have no idea at what time it entered my life and the impact it had.”
“It is impossible to describe how this story made me feel…I will keep this gift on me until I feel I need to pass it on myself.”
“THANK YOU for writing your story, and sending that message of hope out into the world. I needed it so badly and I’ve kept the gift with me ever since. I’ll never forget the feeling of opening your envelope.”
A Christmas carol’s feeling in the belly. Your story is beautiful and your letter found me in a very special time. A time of uncertainty and doubts where this star blowing in the middle of the night was somehow something I didn’t expect anymore. Thank you so much for that.
You can find Alexander Walton on his website and his book is out now.
Most people know at least a bit about bipolar disorder. It has come into the mainstream more in recent years and many people have it.
BPD treatment is available for those who want or need it. There are many clinics and doctors who are willing to help those who are showing signs of this disorder.
If you have a bipolar disorder diagnosis or you know someone who has, there are some takeaways on treatment options about which you should know.
More is Known About Bipolar Disorder than Ever Before
First, it’s crucial to know that medical science has advanced to the point where more is known about bipolar depression. The brains of individuals who have it have been studied. This has led to a wealth of information that doctors and clinicians can use when developing more advanced and effective treatments.
Those Who Have It Can Often Live Normal Lives
It’s also true that those who have received a bipolar disorder diagnosis can usually live normal lives. They can often take care of themselves. However, there is a much better chance of this if the person who has received the diagnosis is willing to communicate regularly with a medical professional or team of professionals who can help them when needed.
Refusing Treatment Can Lead to Serious Problems for the Diagnosed Individual
It’s worth mentioning that if someone who has received this diagnosis does not want to get help, they could then become unwell. Part of bipolar disorder is that sometimes, those with it can suffer from the depths of depression. They can also experience dizzying highs of a manic phase.
Mania can be quite a dangerous time for the person with bipolar and treatment such as Lithium will be needed to return them to wellness.
A Medicine Regime Can Help
Most medical doctors agree that the medications that are available now can help someone who has received a bipolar disorder diagnosis. A mix of medicines including mood stabilisers, anti psychotics and anti depressants is usually what it takes to keep such a person on an even keel.
These medicines might not be the first choice of the person who has received the diagnosis. Sometimes, those who have bipolar disorder may not want to take medication.
Being a parent is challenging, but being a parent who is homebound can be incredibly isolating and stressful. With the added pressures of the COVID-19 pandemic, homebound parents have been struggling with their mental health more than ever before. However, it doesn’t have to be this way. There are several mental health support strategies that parents can implement to help them cope with this challenging time and help them continue to provide their children with the love and care that they deserve.
Prioritise Self-Care
Self-care practices such as mindfulness, meditation, and exercise can help homebound parents manage their stress and maintain their mental health. They can schedule regular exercise routines at home, and practice deep breathing and meditation during their downtime. It is essential for homebound parents to set boundaries and take care of their well-being to increase their capacity to address the demands of parenthood.
Seek Professional Help
Homebound parents who are struggling with their mental health should consider seeking the support and guidance of a mental health professional. They can benefit from online therapy sessions, group therapy sessions, or taking medication that might help them feel better. There are also many mental health hotlines and online resources available to parents struggling with their mental health.
Connect with a Support Network
Homebound parents can engage with online support groups where they can share their experiences, offer and receive advice, and connect with other people going through the same thing. It is also a good idea to connect with friends and family members for emotional support. Social connection is vital to maintaining good mental health.
Utilize Home Health Care Services
Home health care services can provide support and assistance for parents who are struggling with their health. These services can include anything from medication management to helping with household chores and providing much needed respite care for parents. Home health care services can also help parents navigate local resources to receive additional support.
Practice Stress-Reducing Activities with Children
Homebound parents can engage their children in various stress-reducing activities such as sensory play, guided meditation, deep breathing exercises, and yoga. These activities can help children learn how to manage their emotions and provide a calming environment for both parents and children.
Being a homebound parent is challenging, but it becomes even more challenging when mental health struggles are involved. Still, it is essential to prioritise self-care and seek professional help when needed. Engage with a support network, consider utilising home health care services, and perform stress-reducing activities with children.
These strategies will significantly empower homebound parents and help them cope with the challenges of parenthood effectively. With the proper support, homebound parents can provide the love and care their children need and deserve.
This article was written by writer Lizzie Weakley.
Being a mother, let alone a new mother, is no easy task. New moms might find themselves flustered with the idea of being a parent for the first time ever. No longer do they only have to care for themselves but also a little one, too, who depends on them. Frustration, stress, and lack of sleep are all common for new mothers. So, how can they fix this? Here are some tips.
Sleep in the Same Room as Baby
Waking up every few hours in the night is no easy task. Having your sleep disrupted when in a groggy state is several times easier when your baby is close by to you.
Keep a crib or bassinet right next to your bed or at least a few feet away to reduce long walks throughout the house to tend to your baby in the night. This way, you can resume sleep as soon as possible.
Prepare a Feeding & Changing Station Before Bed
Another way to ensure proper rest and sanity as a new mom is to keep a feeding and changing station stocked before going to bed for the night. Keep diapers, wipes, rash cream, baby powder, and a change of clothes nearby. Also keep clean bottles and formula (if applicable) within close reach.
Don’t Skip the Bubble Baths
Good hygiene provides relaxation, which in turn, helps us feel more put together and well-rested. There’s nothing quite like soaking in a calming bubble bath to ease those tense muscles.
Keep Your Mental Health in Check
After having a baby, your mental health is of utmost importance. When you’re in a bad mental health state, it’s difficult to get quality sleep at night. You may have problems falling asleep, staying asleep, or may be oversleeping. Either way, you find yourself feeling unrested.
Right now, your wellbeing and your baby’s well being matter most. A pile of dirty dishes? Leave it for tomorrow. Now is the time to prioritize your physical and mental state in the form of good rest. Unless there’s broken glass on the ground or a horrible stench in the house, the chores can be put off.
Get Physical
Even simply going on a walk around the block can be a great way to get exercise in. This in itself can be a relaxing activity. And as everyone knows, getting exercise can also allow you to get a better night’s rest.
Drinking Calming Teas
Turning to herbal teas like chamomile or lavender can be great ways to unwind after a hectic day as a new mom. Never underestimate the power of a hot beverage filled with calming herbs, especially before bedtime.
Conclusion
Being a new mother is going to be a challenge no matter how you look at it. However, what a mom can do differently to make things easier is to ensure she gets proper rest. With the latter tips, any overwhelmed, exhausted mom can get the rest and relaxation she needs to feel rejuvenated after a long day of parenting.
The decision to seek help for alcohol use disorder is an important one. It takes courage to admit that you need assistance, and taking the first step toward recovery can feel like a daunting task. One of the early steps of recovery is an alcohol assessment centre, which can assess your condition, provide treatment recommendations, and connect you to ongoing support. However, navigating an assessment centre can be overwhelming, especially if you are feeling vulnerable or uncertain. In this post, we will discuss some tips for maintaining your mental well-being while navigating an alcohol assessment centre.
Educate Yourself
Before entering an assessment centre, take some time to educate yourself about the process and what to expect. This can help to ease anxiety and provide a sense of control in an unfamiliar environment. You can research online, check out the centre’s website, or speak with someone who has been through the process before.
Prepare Mentally and Emotionally
Entering an assessment centre can be a nerve-wracking experience, but it’s essential to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally. You might consider bringing along a trusted friend or family member who can offer support and help you stay grounded. You can also practice mindfulness or deep breathing exercises to help you stay centred.
Speak Openly and Honestly
It’s important to be honest about your alcohol use, even if you feel embarrassed or ashamed. The professionals at the assessment centre require accurate information to provide the best treatment options for your specific needs. Honesty also helps to build trust and openness in the therapeutic relationship between you and your counsellor.
Focus on Your Goals
Entering an assessment centre can be overwhelming, but it’s essential to focus on your goals for recovery. Discuss your goals with your counsellor, and work with them to develop a plan for achieving them. Remembering why you’re seeking help and what you want to achieve can help motivate you and make the process easier.
Take Care of Yourself
Finally, remember to take care of yourself while going through an assessment centre. It’s essential to prioritise your mental and physical well-being, which can include eating well, drinking plenty of water, and getting enough rest. Self-care also means taking breaks when necessary, practicing healthy coping mechanisms, and setting boundaries with those around you. Navigating an alcohol assessment centre can be overwhelming, but it’s an essential step towards recovery from alcohol use disorder.
By educating yourself about the process, preparing yourself mentally and emotionally, speaking honestly with your counsellor, focusing on your goals, and taking care of yourself, you can maintain your mental well-being while going through the process. It is highly recommended to reach out to facilities where you are, like A Better Choice Counselling/ Alcohol, Drug & Assessment Center, for more information or to answer any questions you may have.
Remember, seeking help for alcohol use disorder is a brave decision, and with the right support and resources, recovery is possible
She sits nervously clutching her GHD straightened hair. Its meant to look poker straight but her curly waves never seem to look like Avril Lavigne’s hair. Except for that time when her friend tried to tame it for her with straighteners and an iron!
She lives in a bedroom in the family home- half child, half adult, the wallpaper pink with pictures of little bo peep covered with music posters- Destiny’s Child (Beyonce, Kelly and Michelle in their Survivor jungle outfits peer down) and Joss Stone with her nose piercing. She looks up to these women and wishes she could be them, especially Joss, who is only a year or so older than she is. Mariah Carey is another huge influence and she listens to her Daydream and Greatest hits albums on repeat on her CD player, trying to sing like Mariah but failing to hit those notes.
At school, she loves Drama- she loves to perform as different characters and study theatre. She has a wonderful group of friends who she will remain friends with today. She dreams of going to drama school.. and she will achieve her goal!
She is me, aged 16 years old in 2004.
She is ‘baby Ellie’- the teenager who had no idea what was in store for her life or to come. Who should have been free to party, make mistakes, not worry about life. Who should have been discovering life safely but enjoying teen life.
She was given the diagnosis of a severe mental illness, bipolar disorder, when she was still a child.
She struggled with depression, mania and psychosis from the age of 15.
She has been medicated for 19 years (and had changes of medication).
She has been in therapy for longer.
but she survived and thrived.
And she still loves theatre and music and friends (although the GHD’s have been relegated to the back of the cupboard!)
So dear Baby Ellie,
Whatever happens – everything is going to be OK and you will achieve things beyond your imagination- except being able to sing like Mariah Carey.
When I look back at her, I hear the lyrics of the song ‘Looking in’ on Mariah’s day dream album that I used to play….
Binge eating disorder (BED) is a severe eating disorder characterised by recurrent episodes of consuming large amounts of food in a short period. This disorder is associated with acute physical and psychological complications that can affect an individual’s quality of life. Recovering from binge eating disorder can be a challenging process, but with the right guidance and support, it can be achieved. This blog post will discuss five tips for successfully recovering from binge eating disorder.
Seek Professional Help
Recovering from binge eating disorder requires professional guidance and support. The first step towards recovery is to seek professional help. Consulting with a healthcare provider (such as the NHS or privately) or a registered dietician can help an individual develop a personalised treatment plan that addresses their unique needs. The medical professionals (psychiatrist, GP) can also screen individuals for underlying health problems that may contribute to binge eating disorder, such as depression, anxiety, or other mental health disorders.
Establish a Support System
Establishing a support system is essential for individuals recovering from binge eating disorder. This support system may consist of family, friends, or support groups. Support groups can help individuals connect with other people experiencing similar conditions and receive emotional support and encouragement. It can also provide information about recovery resources and strategies that have worked for others.
Identify Food Triggers
Identifying food triggers that lead to binge eating can help an individual manage such situations. Food triggers may include certain foods, emotions, or social situations. Identifying these triggers can help an individual prepare and develop strategies to cope with them when they arise. Strategies may include therapeutic skills including distraction techniques, mindfulness, or relaxation techniques.
Embrace Online Binge Eating Recovery Services
Online binge eating recovery resources like Lightwork Nutrition can provide valuable support and information for individuals experiencing BED. Online support groups, forums, and recovery programs offer anonymous access to peer support, real-time chat, and educational resources. Using these online resources can help individuals connect with others facing similar challenges from anywhere at any time.
Cultivate Self-Care Habits
Cultivating self-care habits may improve an individual’s physical and mental well-being, ultimately aiding in their recovery. Self-care habits may include healthy eating habits, gentle exercise, and stress management techniques like mindfulness, yoga, or meditation. These habits enable people to manage stress, boost self-esteem and confidence, and improve overall health and well-being.
BED can have significant impacts on an individual’s quality of life. Recovering from binge eating disorder can be a challenging, yet achievable process for individuals. Seeking professional help, establishing a support system, identifying food triggers, embracing online binge eating recovery services, and cultivating self-care habits can enable individuals to overcome binge eating disorder effectively.
Remember, recovery is a process, and with hard work, patience, and dedication, individuals can experience good mental health and well-being.
This article was written by freelance writer Lizzie Weakley.
When it comes to mental health, many people tend to focus on the usual suspects: stress, anxiety, depression, and medications. However, did you know that your food choices also play a significant role in your mental well-being? Over the years, studies have revealed the powerful connection between what we eat and how we feel emotionally. It’s not just about getting the right nutrients for physical health, but also for mental health. This blog post will explore some of the clear examples of how eating affects your mental health.
Mood Swings
What we eat affects the chemistry of our brain, which can lead to mood swings. Consuming foods high in sugar and simple carbohydrates, such as cakes and candy bars, may give you a quick energy boost, but it can also cause blood sugar spikes and crashes, leading to irritability, anxiety, and depression. Eating a balanced diet with protein, complex carbs, and healthy fats will help stabilise your mood and keep your energy levels consistent; buying from health food stores with less processed foods and organic produce like Southtown Health Foods can help with this goal.
Stress and Anxiety
Eating nutrient-dense foods can play a big role in reducing stress and anxiety. Foods like salmon, walnuts, and chia seeds contain omega-3 fatty acids, which are linked to lower levels of stress hormones. Other foods, such as leafy greens, are rich in magnesium, which can help decrease anxiety. On the other hand, consuming caffeine and sugar can increase feelings of anxiety.
Brain Fog
The foods we eat can also impact our cognitive function. Processed foods and fast food meals that are high in trans fats and sugar can cause inflammation, which affects the brain’s ability to think clearly and process information. It’s important to fuel your brain with nutrient-dense foods, such as whole grains, lean protein, and healthy fats like avocado and nuts.
Depression and Mental Health Disorders
Studies have shown that people who consume a diet high in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean protein have a lower risk of depression and other mental health disorders. These foods are rich in vitamins and minerals that are crucial for proper brain function and emotional well-being. On the other hand, a diet high in processed and fast food can increase the risk of depression and other mental health issues.
Gut Health
The gut-brain connection is a well-known phenomenon, and the gut microbiome plays a vital role in our mental health. Consuming a diet high in fibre, fermented foods like yogurt and kimchi, and prebiotics like garlic and onions can help foster a healthy gut microbiome and improve mental health. On the other hand, consuming a diet high in sugar and processed foods can lead to an imbalance in gut bacteria and inflammation that can negatively impact mental health.
In conclusion, what you put into your body matters for both your physical and mental health. Meal planning and making mindful food choices can go a long way in nourishing your brain and keeping your mood stabilised.
It’s important to note that there is no one-size-fits-all diet that will work for everyone, but incorporating more whole foods into your diet is a good start. Take control of your mental health by paying attention to your diet and making changes as necessary. Your body and mind will thank you for it!
Please note that a healthy diet without any other support is not a ‘cure’- make sure to reach out to professionals if you are in crisis.
Discover Proven Therapy Methods to Transform Your Life
Sometimes something as small as getting stuck in traffic, running late, or having technical issues during a video call can send your day spiralling. Recovering and taking the reins on your stress and anxiety takes effort! While therapists, psychologists, and counsellors are known for their expertise in helping others navigate these struggles, they also employ various life hacks to relieve their own stress and anxiety. Prepare to be amazed as we delve into the hidden world of mental health gurus and uncover the secrets behind their cool, calm, and collected demeanours.
Before we dive in, let’s talk about stress. Counselling specialists Association of Learning believe that stress affects certain people more than others. “You might feel the effects of stress more acutely than the average person,” They shared with Be Your Own Light. “Childhood experiences, genetic predispositions, and support networks all have the potential to affect your ability to process and manage stress.”
But before you go and blame mum and dad, Association of Learning suggests you learn more about the causes of stress and its effect on the mind through online counselling courses. Discover the logic behind your knee-jerk reactions, outbursts, and feelings while learning interesting tips and techniques (like the ones below!) for managing them.
Now that we’ve heard from the experts about how stress affects individuals differently, let’s look at some psychological tricks that can help you handle stress efficiently.
Psychological Hacks
Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR)
If you’re someone who struggles with anxiety and stress, you’re probably familiar with muscle tension. Progressive muscle relaxation (or PMR) is an anxiety-reduction technique from the 1930s that has become a staple in the pursuit of calm. The method includes tensing and relaxing the body’s primary muscle groups in rapid succession. By regularly engaging in PMR, you can train your body to recognise the difference between a relaxed and a tight muscle, and calm your mind.
Here’s a quick, 1-minute PMR routine that you can perform right at your desk:
Sit comfortably with your feet on the ground and your hands in your lap.
Take a deep breath in through your nose and release it through your mouth, letting your shoulders drop away from your ears. Relax your shoulders.
Now, focus on your facial muscles. Begin by scrunching up your forehead and holding it for a few seconds. Feel the tension building up. Now, release and let your forehead smooth out, letting go of any remaining tension.
Move your attention to your jaw. Gently clench by pressing your teeth together. Hold for a few seconds, noticing the tension. Now, slowly release and let your jaw unclench completely.
Bring your awareness to your neck and shoulders. Take a deep breath in, and as you exhale, gently tilt your head to the right, feeling a stretch on the left side of your neck. Hold for a few seconds, then return to the centre. Repeat on the left side.
Take one last deep inhale and exhale, imagining any lingering stress or worry leaving your body and being replaced by serenity and relaxation.
Thought-Stopping
The average British adult has 11 self-critical thoughts every day. These thoughts can range from benign, “I wish I earned more money,” to increasingly upsetting, “I’ll never achieve anything, so why bother trying?” Here’s where thought-stopping comes in. The popular self-control skill is used to combat distressing thoughts, enabling you to focus on ideas that contribute more to your well-being.
If you’re struggling with discouraging thoughts, try this 1-minute thought-stopping practise:
Take a deep breath. In through your nose and out through your mouth.
Notice the unwanted thought and recognise its presence in your mind.
Mentally or verbally say the word “Stop!” in a firm and assertive tone. Imagine it as a strong command to interrupt the thought.
Visualise a red stop sign, see it clearly, and imagine your thoughts coming to a halt.
Replace with a positive thought: Immediately shift your focus to a more positive or neutral thought. It could be a pleasant memory, a calming image, or a positive affirmation. Hold onto the new thought for the remainder of the exercise.
Take another deep breath, ending the exercise by inhaling positivity and exhaling any remaining tension or negativity.
Guided Imagery
Guided imagery requires you to engage all of your senses—smell, sight, touch, taste, and sound—to create a scene in your mind that feels like reality. Unfortunately, you won’t actually be able to sit down to an imaginary Sunday roast, but your mind will imagine each sense, forcing you to focus. Because the mind and body are indivisible, guided imagery can actually cause changes in your heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing patterns.
Try it yourself! Here’s a quick 3-minute guided imagery exercise:
Find a quiet and comfortable place to sit or lie down. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, allowing your body to relax with each exhale. Now imagine yourself in a peaceful garden. Visualise the following:
You are standing at the entrance of a beautiful garden. Picture the gate in front of you, adorned with intricate designs. Open the gate and step into the garden. As you enter, notice the scent of fresh flowers in the air.
Look around and see vibrant colours all around you. Observe the variety of flowers and plants that surround the path you’re on. Take a moment to appreciate their beauty, and let it bring a sense of tranquillity to your mind.
Continue walking along the path, feeling the softness of the grass beneath your feet. Notice the gentle breeze brushing against your skin, bringing a soothing sensation. As you stroll further, you spot a peaceful pond in the distance.
Approach the pond and sit down beside it. Watch as the water reflects the clear blue sky above. Listen to the calming sounds of nature, the gentle rustling of leaves, or the distant chirping of birds.
Now, imagine a small stone in your hand. Hold it and imagine transferring any worries, stress, or negative thoughts onto it. Feel them leaving your body and absorbing into the stone. Release it into the calm water of the pond, watching as the ripples carry away all that no longer serves you.
Take a moment to bask in the serenity of this garden. Feel the sense of peace, relaxation, and inner calm spreading throughout your entire body and mind. Allow yourself to stay in this tranquil place for a few more breaths.
When you’re ready to return, slowly bring your awareness back to your surroundings. Open your eyes and take a final deep breath, feeling refreshed and rejuvenated.
Mindful Observation
At this point in the rise of pop-culture psychology, odds are you’ve heard the term mindfulness before. Mindfulness is a psychological practise in which the patient is brought into full awareness of the current moment, focusing on the here and now and banishing their anxious thoughts. Mindful observation is like the little brother of mindfulness, requiring you to increase awareness of your physical senses: sight, touch, scent, smell, and even taste!
Try this mindful observation practise to redirect your thoughts:
Find a quiet and comfortable space where you can sit or stand without any distractions.
Take a deep breath and close your eyes if you feel comfortable doing so. If not, you can keep them open but maintain a soft gaze.
Begin by focusing your attention on your breath. Notice the sensation of the breath as you inhale and exhale. Feel the breath entering and leaving your body.
Now shift your focus to your immediate surroundings. Start by observing the sounds around you. Pay attention to any noises, whether they are distant or nearby. Allow yourself to simply listen without judgement.
Next, shift your attention to your sense of touch. Notice the sensation of your body against the chair or the ground beneath your feet. Observe any sensations you feel, whether it’s warmth, pressure, or tingling.
Now, slowly bring your attention to your sense of sight. With your eyes open or closed, notice any colours, shapes, or patterns that you can perceive. Observe the play of light and shadows.
Finally, bring your awareness to any scents or smells in your environment. Take a moment to notice any aromas that may be present. Breathe in deeply and acknowledge the scents around you.
Take one last deep breath and slowly open your eyes if they are closed. Allow yourself to sit for a few moments, appreciating the sense of calm and presence you’ve cultivated.
Those are all of the hacks we can squeeze in today; hopefully you’ve been able to gain some insight into how to regain control and manage the stress and anxiety in your life. Remember, sometimes all it takes is a few minutes to re-centre yourself! If you need further help from a doctor or therapist, please reach out for help too.
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