How To Think About Crafting A Personal Development Plan for Self-Improvement.

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So, you’ve decided to take the reins and guide yourself toward personal growth? That’s great news! Crafting a personal development plan isn’t just about lofty goals; it’s about mapping out your journey to becoming the best version of yourself. Think of it as creating a personalised roadmap that highlights both the routes and the scenic stops along the way.


Understand Your Current Situation

First things first: where are you at right now? Take a good, hard look at what you’ve accomplished and where you might be spinning your wheels. It’s all about self-awareness. Do you feel like you’re killing it in some areas but maybe lagging a bit in others? This step is your foundation—it’s all about knowing your strengths and poking at your weak points a bit. Remember, honest self-evaluation is the first step to genuine growth.

Define Clear, Relevant Goals

Now, let’s talk about your goals. And not just any goals—SMART ones. Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-bound. That’s the secret sauce. Whether it’s climbing up the career ladder, enhancing your health, or just learning how to whip up a good meal, knowing exactly what you want to achieve gives you a clear target to hit. Setting these goals will also infuse your daily routine with purpose and direction.

Identify The Skills You Need

Got your goals? Great! Next up: figuring out what skills you’ll need to bag these goals. If you’re aiming for a promotion, maybe you need some extra leadership flair or tech skills. If it’s about health, understanding nutrition or workout plans might be your focus. List what you need to learn, then plan how you’re going to learn it. This planning should also include identifying any potential barriers to your learning and thinking about ways to overcome them.

Allocate Resources And Time

Resources—time, money, tools—it’s what you’ll need to get where you want to go. Planning is key here. Maybe carve out a few hours each week for studying, or set aside some cash for courses or books. Knowing what you have and what you need to get is crucial. Also, consider the less tangible resources like emotional support or professional networks.

Action Plan

Time to break those big dreams down into smaller, bite-sized tasks. Add some deadlines to keep you motivated. If you’re learning a new language, maybe you’re practising daily, chatting with a native speaker weekly, and subscribing to a language app. Each small step should align with your larger goals, creating a path forward. Consider using tools like digital planners or apps that can help you manage these tasks and keep you on track. R

Remember, the key here is consistency; by chipping away at your goals day by day, you’ll build momentum and see tangible progress. Plus, scheduling regular check-ins with yourself to assess the week’s successes and setbacks can keep you honest and adaptable.

Monitor Your Progress

Keeping an eye on how you’re doing is essential. It’s like giving yourself a mini-report card. Are you smashing those targets? Great! Falling a bit short? Time to tweak your plan. This step keeps you motivated and on track. Regular reviews can also help you understand if your goals still resonate with your aspirations or need adjustment.

Be Flexible And Adjust

Here’s the thing: life happens. Your goals and methods might need a quick shuffle as you face new challenges or opportunities. Stay flexible and keep your plan fresh. Flexibility can also help reduce the stress of unexpected changes and keep you resilient against discouragement.

Seek Feedback

Don’t shy away from feedback. Whether it’s from friends, family, or a mentor, a fresh pair of eyes can offer new insights and help you stay the course. Use that constructive criticism—it’s gold! Plus, engaging regularly with your feedback sources can build stronger relationships and open up more support networks.

Incorporate Wellness And Recovery

Taking care of your overall well-being is non-negotiable. If life’s stressors are piling up, it’s vital to incorporate strategies to manage them. Organisations like AUK can be a tremendous help if you’re struggling with addictions or related stress. Remember, a healthy you is a more productive you. Incorporating mindfulness practices into your daily routine can also play a significant role in maintaining your mental health.

Reflect And Celebrate

Take a moment to pat yourself on the back. Celebrate every win, no matter how small. It’s not just about cheering yourself on; it’s about reinforcing the habits that got you there. Celebrating your progress not only boosts morale but also helps anchor your achievements in your mind, reinforcing the behaviours that got you there. Create a ritual around your celebrations—maybe it’s a monthly ’victory dinner’, or writing down accomplishments in a journal. This can help turn reflection into a habit, which not only boosts your self-esteem but also enhances your motivation to continue striving towards your goals. Such moments of reflection allow you to see how far you’ve come, which is essential when the road ahead seems daunting.

Harness The Power Of Visualisation

Imagine yourself succeeding. Really, picture it! This isn’t just feel-good fluff; it’s a powerhouse technique to keep your eyes on the prize. And why not throw together a vision board? It’s a fun, visual reminder of where you’re headed. Using visualisation regularly can effectively bridge the gap between your current state and your goals, making them feel more attainable.

Establish A Support System

It’s easier to climb mountains with a little help. Build a network of cheerleaders who believe in your journey. They can offer a shoulder to lean on, an ear for your plans, or even a nudge when you need it. This support network can become your go-to resource during challenging times or when you need a bit of inspiration.

Stay Curious And Keep Learning

And finally, never stop learning. As you grow, so will your interests and goals. There’s a whole world out there filled with books, courses, and people to learn from. Keep that curiosity alive, and you’ll never stop growing. Staying engaged with new ideas and continuous learning can also prevent stagnation and keep your mind sharp.

A personal development plan isn’t just a checklist; it’s a living, breathing blueprint for your growth. With the right planning, a bit of flexibility, and a whole lot of gumption, you’re well on your way to becoming your best self. Keep pushing, keep learning, and most importantly, keep enjoying the journey!

This article was written by a freelance writer

Moving Forward Into 2023. Happy New Year!

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Tonight I was sat with Rob and our friends at their home, enjoying a dinner together. We ate good food and just loved being together. We then watched the beautiful fireworks on TV as Big Ben (the clock) tolled in midnight.

And as I watched the colours take off and swirl in the night sky over London, wishing our friends happy new year and looking at Rob, I thought about the year that has been.

At the end of 2021, I created a vision board for this year and what I wanted to manifest. Amazingly, a lot of it has and I am hugely grateful for so much that this year has brought (some parts though weren’t so good, and thats absolutely ok.. we are human and life isn’t always perfect).

There are some dreams that I hope will come true for 2023. Good health and happiness of course for us, family, friends and everyone at the top of the list.

2022 was a year of many ups and some downs. For now, I would like to keep my resolutions and hopes to myself until I feel ready to share them but want to wish you all a happy, healthy new year. May it bring only blessings and may all our hopes and wishes manifest for the good.

Thank you for reading and supporting this blog in 2022 and always! In March, it will be 7 years since I started blogging!

Heres to 2023!

Love,

Eleanor x

How To Stay Motivated At Times When You are Feeling Lost by Tracie Johnson

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Life is uncertain. Even in the best of times, something unexpected can happen. You may have a hard time getting out of bed or putting one foot in front of the other each day.

It can be a challenge to find the motivation to keep moving forward when you feel stuck or don’t know which way to turn. Don’t give up hope. You just need help finding your way.

You are Not Alone

Many people have faced struggles similar to yours, yet when you look at others around you, they may pretend everything is going well. Nothing could be further from the truth. Everyone has some sort of obstacle or bump in the road. However, we have been taught to hide our feelings. We avoid asking for help. Once you understand that others are involved in a struggle like yours, it will help you to feel like you are part of a community.

You are Stronger than You Realise

You may be under the misconception that you are ‘too weak’ to take on the world. Start looking for your strengths. Sit down with a piece of paper and jot down anything positive you can think of about yourself. List your achievements. Think of problems you have resolved in the past. Ask people you trust about the best things about you.

You can boost your confidence when you focus on what you can do instead of what you can’t. Focusing on your strengths may give you a sense of direction and shift your mindset.

A Helping Hand Can Make a World of Difference

Sometimes it simply takes new eyes to find the best part of you. You may be so caught up in all of your obligations that you’ve lost sight of who you want to be. You are probably like so many others who have sacrificed their own interests in order to take care of others. You may want to seek guidance or spiritual life coaching from helpful resources who can help you see yourself in a new light. 

It’s time to stop letting the rest of the world get in the way of your pursuit of happiness. Discovering the gems hidden inside of you can light the way to a brighter future as you realise your full potential.

Focus on What You Can Control in Your Life

While it’s true that there are many outside influences that are completely beyond your control, you can take charge of more than you realise. Don’t limit yourself with boundaries that have been established by others. Find your way to climb your mountains. Use the tools you have that will help you to open doors in your life. Don’t dwell on anything that has already happened. You can’t go back to the past.

Don’t let yourself get stuck in the mud of the problems of today. Tackle one small problem at a time. Don’t let your thoughts hinge on what will happen tomorrow. Stay in the present moment and celebrate your victories.

Work on Being the Best You Every Day

You’re going to make mistakes. The most important thing you can do is learn from them. If there is something that went wrong in the past, try to make a positive choice now. Wake up every morning determined to be better than you were before. Make a list of goals for the day. If you don’t achieve all of them, bump them to tomorrow. You’ll always have something to keep you going when you have more items on your to-do list. However, don’t pressure yourself and pace yourself.

Final Thoughts

You are a unique, remarkable individual. There is no one else like you on the planet. Celebrate your special qualities. Remember how important you are in the grand scheme of things. Choose something to shoot for, goalwise, on a daily basis. It will give you a reason to wake up every morning.

Think about something good in your life instead of the negative. Take two steps forward. Even if you slide back one, you are still headed the right way. Explore new opportunities. You never know when something will spark a new interest. It could pave the way to who you were always meant to be.


This article was written by writer Tracie Johnson, based in the USA.

Mental Health New Years Resolutions by my Twitter Followers (and I). by Eleanor

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Its 2022 and some of us are making New Years Resolutions so I thought it would be a good idea to do ones focused on mental health and wellbeing. I asked some of my lovely Twitter followers what their resolutions were to include in a blog, so here they are. Thanks to all who contributed! I would love to know yours too!

Mine are get enough sleep, eat more healthily, lose weight and self care.

We can add:

Conversations Create Change LLCMy intentions are to nurture my inner child through healthy eating and fun activities.

Rabbi E. PoupkoProduce more video content for my YouTube channel!

PollyMine are to reduce my alcohol consumption, swim at least once a week, and learn to say No!

Erin HallettSaying no more often without an apology and continuing with daily yoga .

Ncediwe SolwandleTry to take time out for myself from time to time, invest in boosting my confidence and self-esteem.

Guy Barton I don’t do New Years resolutions but I aim to believe in myself more.

Stuart Rimmer MBESpend time in nature , heading for the mountains and living with more simplicity to counter the worlds complexity.

Robert Ashton1- Exercise, 2- sleep, 3- the outdoors, 4 – SAD lamp 5- 15 mins silent reflection at the start of the day.

What are your new years mental health resolutions?

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Love,

Eleanor

2020: New Year Round Up by Eleanor

 

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New year posts are always hard to write aren’t they? We start the year in a midst of optimism about goals and achievements and working towards our dream/s. But it can so easily get derailed as life gets overwhelming or busy. However, this post is to say ‘do not give up!’ (to me and to you).

2019 was an amazing, busy, emotional, whirlwind of a year for me. I started the year engaged and half way through wedding planning. In March, my step grandpa sadly passed away at the age of 96. Then, my father in law has stage 3 brain cancer and earlier this year was hospitalised for pneumonia (due to chemotherapy weakening the immune system), which then rapidly became sepsis (poisoning) which can be life threatening. We didn’t know if he would make the wedding and at one point we didn’t know if he would make it through the night.  There was a lot of praying, a lot of fear, a lot of emotion. That was April.

Thankfully, he survived and recovered over months at home. But he is still unwell- we are just lucky he is still here and he made our wedding too.

In May, I started a new job in PR and Communications and met the best colleagues ever. I also spent the year writing my book ‘Bring me to Light’ with Trigger editors Stephanie and Katie. I submitted the manuscript 2 weeks before our wedding.

In late June, I was bridesmaid for my best friends wedding and it was wonderful.

In July, I married my best friend in front of loved ones (including father in law), we moved in together and we went on honeymoon to Sicily, Italy in August to a beautiful place and made good memories. In September, Rob’s cousin got married and that was a lovely family wedding.

In October, I left my new job for personal reasons- although I loved it. The stress of the year, the changes of life had got to my mental health. I am currently working freelance as a writer but applying for jobs too.

Sometime in October/ November, I started EMDR trauma therapy with a wonderful therapist and I hope it continues to help me.

In November, my book was published and sent out to the world and I did some press for it, although I experienced heightened anxiety with it coming out which affected me for a while. Good friends got married too at this time.

In December, I went to Limmud Festival (a conference) with my Dad for our first talk about it and managed to speak, despite my anxiety.

Now, its 2020.

I have some goals for this year. Mainly to be happy, healthy and confident and to give to other people.

This year I would like:

To publish my children’s stories

-To seek out amazing opportunities to promote my book

-To work as a writer and in social media. I would also love the opportunity to work in schools again part time to develop my skills in early years. For me to be financially independent is something I would love again.

-Manage my panic attacks through therapeutic techniques.

-To raise more mental health awareness

-To be more healthy and look after my body

-To be kind and give to others more.

 

Here’s to a new year of health, happiness and prosperity. How was your 2019/ new year?

Eleanor x