How To Recharge When You Feel Overwhelmed by Olivia Heath

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Not everyone can understand or relate to what feeling overwhelmed is really like, nor can anyone truly control whether they experience it or not. Typically, we feel overwhelmed when our brains reach their capacity to process and store information.

Decades of scientific research have allowed us to understand some of the triggers that can cause us to feel overwhelmed, and chances are, you will be no stranger to a few of them. It can sometimes be as simple as a lack of sleep, which can cause the brain to process information at a much slower rate than usual. Sleep deprivation alone isn’t a direct cause of feeling overwhelmed. It’s common for other factors like daily responsibilities, work stress and life changes to also make it harder for our brains to think clearly and rationally. In this article, we will discuss some of the main causes of overwhelm and how to navigate the feeling if it arises.

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Factors That Drive Feeling Overwhelmed

Everyone experiences overwhelm differently. For some, it’s an evident but manageable feeling, whereas for others, it can be completely overpowering and intense. Overwhelm occurs when our brains experience cognitive fatigue, which can be caused by a number of factors. Sensory saturation is one of the most common causes of overwhelm and occurs when too many sensory stimuli overload the brain at once. Sensory stimuli are anything you see, smell, hear, touch or taste. Some stimuli tend to be more taxing than others, for example, constant phone notifications or a repetitive background noise. When our brains process too many stimuli at once, our nervous system is constantly activated and rarely gets to switch off and reset.

​Feeling overwhelmed can also be caused by unrealistic expectations or perfectionism. If you hold yourself to extremely high standards that are impossible to live by, you can easily become overwhelmed when everything seems equally urgent and important. Life’s not perfect, and it’s also unpredictable, which is why when you aim for perfection or strict control over your life, you can feel overwhelmed with how challenging it can actually be.

​Some people feel overwhelmed by very specific situations, usually because of a traumatising event they’ve previously experienced, which has caused their nervous system to be stuck in overdrive. Experiencing a traumatic event can be life-changing for your nervous system, as it can easily become hypervigilant to everyday occurrences that could put you in danger. While it’s essential that your body is alert to life-threatening situations, it can be damaging if your nervous system stays in this fight-or-flight state longer than necessary. Essentially, your body is always in survival mode, which exhausts your nervous system and impairs your brain’s functioning, making you feel overwhelmed and exhausted much more quickly than others.

​It’s helpful to understand the different situations that can trigger overwhelm to arise, but it’s important to also recognise that there are some situations that are harder to prevent, such as overwhelm in the workplace. In more serious cases, individuals may be entitled to mental injury compensation if workplace conditions have caused overwhelming stress that has developed into a recognised mental health condition. These situations prove just how serious feeling overwhelmed can be if it’s not treated.

How To Recharge After Feeling Overwhelmed

The quickest and most effective way to recharge after feeling overwhelmed is to take a break from everything in front of you. If you’re overwhelmed by your environment or even your phone, try removing yourself and find a quiet, secluded space where you can slow your thoughts down. Block notifications on your phone so that you can’t be triggered by the

noise or thoughts they provoke. Although many find it difficult, deep breathing and grounding techniques are great for slowing down your nervous system so that you feel in control of your thoughts again. A popular grounding method involves paying attention to what’s around you, and naming what you can see, feel, hear, smell and taste. This technique directs your focus to the present moment and acts as a distraction from the overwhelming thoughts you might be experiencing. It’s also a proven technique to calm anxiety.

​Another scientifically-proven technique to release feelings of stress when you become overwhelmed is to physically move your body. Whether it’s a light stroll, stretching or a brisk walk, physical activity lowers stress hormones like cortisol and flushes out toxic chemicals that have built up in your muscles, helping you to instantly feel more relaxed.

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How To Get Help When You Feel Overwhelmed

Dealing with overwhelm by yourself can be extremely challenging, especially when it occurs regularly. The best help you can get with feeling overwhelmed is support from family, friends or a professional service. Never feel embarrassed or afraid to reach out for support if you’re struggling with feelings of overwhelm. It is a common experience, and with the right support and coping strategies, it can be effectively managed.

Tips For Planning A Sensory-Friendly Wedding by Clay Reese

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Your wedding day is meant to be a truly special time, a day to celebrate your love with friends and family. Once you’re engaged, you’ll likely find many people want to know what you’re doing for the wedding – with some people expecting a big, showy day, with everyone in your extended family getting an invite. 

Weddings are exciting, but they can also be overwhelming, especially if you don’t love large social gatherings or find the fuss and fanfare that traditionally comes with the day a little anxiety-inducing. However, the most important thing about your wedding day is that it is right for you and your partner, not what everyone else expects from you. Here, we show you how you can still have a dream wedding day, but keep things calm and sensory-friendly. 

Get comfortable with your venue

Often, couples have one chance to view their venue before booking, and then they might only get one visit in before the big day. This is especially true if it’s a popular venue, or you want to get married in peak season. Unfortunately, this can leave you feeling a little unsettled on the day of your wedding, since you aren’t familiar with the space and don’t have your own familiar things around you. 

If this is something you’re concerned about, you may want to opt for a less popular venue, or one that you’re already familiar with, such as a local church, hall or even a family home. This will allow you to make several visits before the big day, so that you feel comfortable with your surroundings and can relax and enjoy the moment.

Keep things small- if that’s what you want

Big weddings can come with a lot of noise, talking and a huge amount of people to organise. Keeping things small and only inviting your closest friends will mean that you don’t have as much sensory input to deal with, but it also means they’re likely to respect your needs. If you have any specific requirements, consider communicating this with your guests beforehand, so you can arrive assured that no one is going to cross your boundaries.

Making the decision about your guest list as soon as possible will allow you to speak to people well in advance of the big day, and handle those conversations in the best setting for you, whether that’s written, over the phone or in person.

Consider your outfit

Weddings usually mean wearing a special dress or suit, but sometimes those with sensory issues can find the feel of certain fabrics or seams can cause problems. If this is the case for you, then make sure to find a dressmaker, tailor or clothing brand that you feel comfortable with, so that you’re not distracted by your outfit on the day. 

Wear ear plugs

Even with a small number of guests and a quiet venue, there can still be a lot of stimulation if you’re sensitive to noise. Wearing discreet ear plugs can allow you to soften the impact of this noise and enjoy your day without getting overwhelmed. There are plenty of subtle options available, but if you’re worried about them being obvious in your wedding photos, you could take them out for the solo and couple shots, since it’s just likely to be you and your photographer at this time.

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Plan for breaks

When planning your day, work with your venue so that you don’t feel rushed or under pressure at any time. Incorporate plenty of breaks into the schedule, and make sure you leave some time for just you and your partner to soak up the joy after the ceremony. You could go for a walk, or sit quietly in a separate room – whatever you need, speak to your venue to make sure you can get that special time. Not only will this help you deal with any sensory overwhelm, but it’s also just a really lovely way to celebrate together and take your first moments as a married couple.

A calmer day

By carefully planning your day to meet your needs, you can relax and enjoy the wedding planning process. Invite your closest friends and family, raise a glass, and celebrate your love together in a way that is perfect for you.

Clay Reese is a blogger and digital media expert.