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(image: Peter Mason- not our actual house!)

Two weeks ago, my husband and I moved into our new cottage type house (not the one in the photo!). It has been a journey for us to get here and something we have been working towards for several years- and honestly, we weren’t sure we would be able to buy a house (with a mortgage) in the area we live in as we’re in London and prices are expensive. We are also aware to even be on the property ladder is a dream come true for so many and we know many people renting. So we are really grateful this has happened for us as we spent years living in a small 1 bedroom shared ownership apartment and weren’t sure we could move.

Moving to a new home can be unsettling but I remember just sitting down on the couch a few weeks ago and trying to drink in that this house is actually ours. I feel so so grateful.

We spent a couple of years at my Mums due to a dip in our finances (in 2024, I lost all my income overnight and had to rebuild it) and trying to find the right place for us- and over this period of time, two properties (a small house and a flat/apartment ) we offered on fell through due to various twists and turns. I was even considering moving to a different area entirely because it felt like what we needed was out of reach for us.

(image: Tatyana P Unsplash)

The overriding emotion is gratitude because our families and friends have been so supportive and kind to us, feel privileged.

I definitely struggled a lot during the time of being at my Mums due to being in a waiting season of not knowing about jobs, finances and home and health stuff (with my PMOS fertility) and this is a new chapter for us which we hope will be positive. My mental health was understandably slightly affected and I was lucky that I could pay for therapy sessions when I needed them and didn’t spiral too much. I am still pinching myself that our much held prayers have been heard.

If you’re reading this and you are struggling, please know things can turn around quickly, keep faith in your heart despite everything feeling hard. We will never forget the kindness and support shown to us. A person is truly not a person without other people and for me, G-d too. He is behind everything.

Moving home is said to be one of the most stressful things in life- so its important to take things day by day as it can be anxiety provoking.

With love,

Eleanor x

(image: Hasan Albari: Pexels)

Distance should never keep you from ensuring your elderly parent is safe and living a good life. This blog post will discuss some tips on how to look out for your elderly parent from far away. While you cannot be there with them every day, these tips will help you ensure they are living comfortably and safely.

1) Check in regularly

The first step to take is to ensure you are checking in with your parents regularly. This can be done via phone, text, email, or video chat. Ask them how they are doing and if they need anything. If possible, try to schedule regular check-ins, so you always have a set time to catch up.

In addition, it can be helpful to set up a check-in system with other family members or friends who live close to your parents. This way, if you are unable to check in for a period of time, someone else can check for you.

2) Stay updated on their health

As we age, our health can decline quickly. It is important to stay updated on your parent’s health so you can catch any problems early on. Make sure you know their current medications and dosages, as well as any allergies they may have.

You should also know their medical history, including any chronic conditions or surgeries they have had in the past. This information will be helpful if your parents need to see a doctor while you are not there.

3) Know their financial situation

It is also important to stay updated on your parent’s financial situation. This includes knowing how much money they have in the bank, as well as any debts they may have. If your parents are having trouble paying bills, you may need to step in and help out financially if you are able.

If your parents live in their own home, it is vital to help with home maintenance, if your parents need it. This can include tasks such as yard work using a battery powered snow blower for snow removal, and making repairs around the house. If your parents are unable to do these things themselves, you may need to hire someone to help out.

4) Consider a care home

If your parents are having difficulty taking care of themselves, you may want to consider a care home. Care homes can provide around-the-clock assistance with activities such as bathing, dressing, and eating. They can also help with medication management and provide transportation to doctor’s appointments. Of course, putting your parents in a care home is a big decision that should not be made lightly. You will need to weigh the pros and cons carefully before making a decision.

If you are concerned about their mental health as well, its important to raise any concerns with other family members and their doctor if appropriate.

5) Make sure they have an emergency plan

It is important to make sure your parents have an emergency plan in place in case something happens when you are not there. This plan should include a list of emergency contacts, as well as instructions for what to do in case of an emergency.

In conclusion, these are just a few tips on how to look out for your elderly parent from far away. While you cannot be there with them every day, these tips will help you ensure they are living comfortably and safely.

This article was written by a freelance writer.