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Christmas For CAMHS 2025- Making Christmas And The Festive Season Special For Young People In NHS Mental Health Units.

~ Eleanor Segall ~ 2 Comments

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Every year, the incredible charity Christmas For CAMHS brightens up the lives of children and teens on NHS CAMHS mental health wards. These are for children who are too ill with their mental health (often distressed and traumatised) to be at home with their families, friends and loved ones. In 2004, when I was just 16 and going through a bipolar episode, at Christmas, I was in a mental health ward away from home (I am Jewish and don’t celebrate Christmas religiously but there is something about being given a gift, a card, activities when you are far from home that warms the soul). I know how scary it can be to live in hospital with other ill children and teenagers. So, I absolutely love the work of this important charity.

Christmas For CAMHS was founded by Dr Ro Bevan. While working as a doctor on a children’s ward in 2015, she saw first hand that, during the festive season, hospitals supporting children with physical illnesses were showered with huge amounts of gifts, festive treats and celebrations – as they should be! They even had enough to cover ward birthdays the following year! The following year she was working on a child and adolescent mental health ward. She was shocked by the contrast. So she posted about the inequality on Facebook – “We had no presents donated. Our patients had one present each using money scrimped and saved from the NHS budget.” Her plea went unexpectedly viral, inspiring an intrepid bunch of volunteers to come together with her to create our charity Christmas For CAMHS. We had to make sure that no child or young person on a UK mental health ward was ever forgotten at Christmas again. 

Since then the charity has gone from strength to strength, providing some essential Christmas hope for almost 9875 children and young people. Last year, in 2024, the charity sent over 1100 individual gifts (with an additional fidget toy too) to these children and young people – that’s gifts to every young person in every CAMHS unit in the UK! 

They also sent 52 special additional gifts for young people on the ward particularly in need, such as those with no parental support and young people in foster care – this included items such as oodies, comic books and specialist art equipment. But that wasn’t everything! As well as individual gifts and goodies, they sent wellbeing advent calendars, festive decorations and activity kits – great for distracting and boredom-busting – paper chains, homemade cards and ward gifts such as jigsaws, art kits, books and board games. Festive season in a box!

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The charity say, ‘It’s never really about the gift itself. For these young people struggling with conditions such as anorexia, psychosis, bipolar disorder and depression, it’s about a glimmer of hope — the knowledge that someone out there cares for them, is thinking of them, and wants them to feel less alone at a very hard time of year to be poorly in hospital. This is why what we do is so important. These fragments of hope and glimmers of joy can, and do, change the course of lives.’

A recipient of the charity’s kindness who was in hospital years before, told them the following and reached out to the charity.

She said: “I was in a CAMHS inpatient unit over the Christmas period when I was 17. While friends were studying for A Levels and passing their driving tests, I was really struggling to keep myself safe and needed to focus on basics like brushing my teeth and eating regularly. Staying in an inpatient unit is a really tough experience for anyone, but Christmas is particularly hard when the pressure to be with family and enjoy the festive period is much higher.”

I wasn’t safe enough to go home overnight yet, so woke up in hospital on Christmas Day. I remember feeling really low that morning, but the unit had received a care package filled with presents which were given to all of us who were there over the Christmas period. I don’t remember what l picked out, or what the other presents were, but I remember feeling like the universe wasn’t such a bad place after all.”

It felt really special that even when I couldn’t care for myself, there were people who did care for me.I hold that memory close to this day and I’m so grateful to Christmas For CAMHS for helping me through a really difficult time.”

I can relate to this person, I was lucky enough that in 2004, we did receive a small gift and I did get some cards from people in hospital with me (I was struggling with bipolar and psychosis at this time but I still remember that lovely feeling of being thought about by the ward staff).

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Christmas For CAMHS is a charity extremely close to my heart. This year, they hope to reach their 10,000th child this Christmas. Times are really tough for charities and they need your help to be Father Christmas and his Elves in all of the CAMHS wards in the UK again this year. You can support Christmas for CAMHS by donating online or choosing a gift from their wish list:

https://www.justgiving.com/campaign/christmas-camhs 

Thank you Christmas for CAMHS and all its staff and volunteers for bringing light and hope to poorly young people going through a challenging time.

For more: please see https://www.christmasforcamhs.org.uk/

On Mindfulness And Waking up And Smelling The Roses (Literally!) by Eleanor

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Sometimes the world and life gets so busy, hectic and at times, very dark. We are bombarded with negative stories and awful news, social media means we have access to this constantly and everyone is always going through something difficult in life. Whether its struggling with your mental health or whether life events come and derail your mood, life can be challenging.

What I learnt this week was that sometimes I can stay too much in my head and own space, worrying, overthinking, overplanning- because I care too much. It can be hard when you’re an emotional person to stay always rational and content. Gratitude is hugely important for this, being thankful and giving it over to the universe or higher power. However, I wanted to share with you how nature got me out of a worried, controlling (of my own universe) place…

I had spent all day working at home, hadn’t been out and decided to go out to visit my Dad with Rob. It sounds so small but I was instantly taken with the array of beautiful roses and flowers in people’s gardens. The zesty orange roses, their pale pink delicate friends, shocking pink bright roses and white ones poking their heads amongst the other colours. And as we arrived in my Dad’s road, each house had so many stunning roses.

It made me so much more mindful and content, to be in nature and just really appreciating our world. So thats my message for you today- step outside and smell the roses, because we can often miss them when we’re on our devices or not mindful and present in the world. Have a small walk if you can, take in fresh air, go and visit the flowers and the trees and breathe.

Have a lovely weekend,

Eleanor

New Year, Rome Holiday and Health by Eleanor

~ Eleanor Segall ~ 2 Comments

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Hi everyone!

Wishing you all a very Happy New Year 2025!

January can be a challenging month for us all, post the festivities and time off work. I just thought I would write a little update here.

This year, I am looking for a new role in Digital Communications for charities/ lifestyle brands, Journalism or Writing. I have also written the sequel to Arabella and the Worry Cloud– which is very exciting. I loved writing it and hope to work on it further this year :). The story came to me in Summer 2024 and I have been refining it. This month, my story (and my Dads) is also featured in ‘The Inherited Mind’, an amazing book by journalist James Longman about his search to understand whether mental illness is inherited – which is out now with Hyperion Books!

I had some time off over Christmas break and my husband Rob and I spent a wonderful holiday in Rome. It was really wonderful to explore the city (Robs first time there), eat lots of delicious food and just have time together! We tend to go away in the Winter due to Robs annual leave and have lots of lovely memories to sustain us through the new year (we went to the Colosseum and Roman Forum, Stadio Olimpico and Jewish Museum). We visited lots of restaurants and an amazing gelato shop (Marlene’s) and went shopping. We spent New Years Eve eating a yum dinner with wine and it was a very special week.

My health is a work in progress. I am working with the NHS Oviva programme to lose weight at the moment- which I hope will boost my fertility and general health- both mental and physical (and hopefully improve my PCOS). I will give more updates on that when I have experienced more of the programme- but I am working alongside a dietitian and medical professionals.

Mentally, it has not been an easy time and there has been a lot going on outside of all of this, but I am trying to take it day by day, hour by hour and create new opportunities for myself to thrive. There’s times where we all don’t feel good enough and have imposter syndrome. I do believe miracles happen when we choose joy and choose to co-create. The right opportunities will come- career wise, financially and health wise. I have been feeling more anxious at times but every day is different and I am trying to reset and look after myself, and those around me.

Here’s to a a happy and healthy 2025 with lots of amazing things manifesting!

How was your break?

Love,

Eleanor

6 Healing Rituals for Grief During Times Of Mourning by Addy Reeds

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In times of mourning, finding ways to process grief is crucial for emotional healing. While everyone grieves differently, certain rituals can provide comfort and help individuals honour their loved ones. Please do reach out for support from your doctor or therapist if you need it.

Here are six healing rituals that can support you during these difficult times:

Creating a Memory Box 

One meaningful way to remember a loved one is by creating a memory box. This can include photographs, letters, and personal mementos that hold special significance. By curating these items, you create a tangible connection to your loved one, allowing you to revisit cherished memories whenever you need comfort. This ritual helps keep their memory alive and provides a physical space for their emotions. 

Planting a Memorial Garden 

Nature has a soothing effect on the soul, and planting a memorial garden can provide a serene space for reflection. Choose plants that were meaningful to your loved one or that symbolise remembrance and renewal. Tending to the garden over time can be a therapeutic activity, offering a sense of purpose and continuity. This living tribute grows and blooms, mirroring the ongoing nature of love and memory. 

Holding a Candlelight Vigil 

A candlelight vigil is a peaceful way to gather friends and family to honour your loved one. The soft glow of candles creates a tranquil atmosphere, perfect for sharing stories, reading poetry, or simply sitting in silent remembrance. This ritual fosters a sense of community and collective support, reminding you that you are not alone in your grief. It’s a moment to reflect on the light your loved one brought into your life and to share that light with others. 

Writing a Eulogy 

Crafting a eulogy is a powerful way to honor and celebrate a loved one’s life. Whether delivered at a funeral or kept as a personal tribute, a well-written eulogy encapsulates the essence of the departed and their impact on those around them. Seeking custom eulogy services, like Eulogy Pen, can help articulate your feelings and ensure that the tribute is both heartfelt and eloquent. This process can be incredibly cathartic, helping to process your emotions and find closure. 

Practicing Mindfulness and Meditation 

Grief can be overwhelming, and mindfulness practices can help ground you in the present moment. Meditation, deep breathing exercises, and mindful walking can provide relief from the intense emotions of mourning. These practices encourage self-compassion and allow you to observe your feelings without judgment. Regular mindfulness practice can create a space for healing and offer moments of peace amid the turmoil of grief. 

Creating Art in Their Memory 

Artistic expression can be a profound outlet for grief. Whether through painting, writing, music, or crafting, creating art in memory of your loved one allows you to channel your emotions into something tangible. This process can be deeply personal and healing, providing a way to express what words cannot capture. Art becomes a tribute to your loved one’s life and a testament to your enduring love. 

Grieving is a deeply personal experience, and finding the right rituals can make a significant difference in your healing process. Whether you choose to create a memory box, write a custom eulogy, plant a memorial garden, hold a candlelight vigil, practice mindfulness, or create art, each of these rituals offers a unique way to honour your loved one and find comfort. Remember, it’s okay to seek support and take the time you need to heal. 

Addy Reeds is.a freelance writer.

5 Benefits of Existential Therapy by Lizzie Weakley.

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It’s not uncommon for individuals to feel lost, overwhelmed, or dissatisfied with their lives. You may struggle to find meaning and purpose, leading to a sense of unease and frustration. This is where existential therapy comes in. Existential therapy is a type of therapy that focuses on helping individuals confront and come to terms with the existential challenges of living. It can be a powerful tool for those seeking meaning and purpose in their lives. This blog post will explore 5 benefits of existential therapy.

Increased Self-Awareness

One of the key benefits of existential therapy is increased self-awareness. This helps individuals understand themselves on a deeper level. The therapy sessions provide a safe and supportive environment where people can explore their innermost thoughts and feelings. By gaining a better understanding of themselves, individuals are often able to make more informed choices and live more fulfilling lives.

Improved Coping Skills

Existential therapy also helps individuals develop better coping skills. The therapy sessions often involve exploring the challenges of living, such as the inevitability of death and the search for meaning and purpose. Through this exploration, individuals are able to develop better coping skills and strategies for dealing with the existential challenges of life. This counselling can lead to increased resilience and the ability to handle difficult situations with greater ease.

Greater Sense of Purpose

Another benefit of existential therapy is the development of a greater sense of purpose. Through the therapy sessions, individuals are encouraged to confront the big questions of life, such as “Who am I?” and “What is my purpose?” This exploration can be uncomfortable at times, but it can also be incredibly rewarding. By developing a greater sense of purpose, individuals often find that they are more motivated and fulfilled in their daily lives.

Improved Relationships

Existential therapy can also help individuals improve their relationships. By gaining a deeper understanding of themselves, individuals are often able to relate to others in a more meaningful way. By focusing on the existential challenges of living, such as the search for meaning and purpose, individuals are able to connect with others on a deeper, more authentic level. This can result in more fulfilling and meaningful relationships.

Increased Creativity

Finally, existential therapy can lead to increased creativity. By exploring the existential challenges of living, individuals are often inspired to think outside the box and express themselves in new and unique ways. This can lead to increased creativity and a sense of joy and fulfillment.

Overall, existential therapy can be a powerful tool for those seeking meaning and purpose in their lives. This therapy can lead to increased self-awareness, improved coping skills, a greater sense of purpose, improved relationships, and increased creativity. If you are struggling to find meaning and purpose in your life, consider exploring existential therapy as a way to move forward. Remember, you are not alone in your search for answers, and existential therapy can help you along the way.

This article was written by freelance writer Lizzie Weakley.

How You Can Achieve A Healthier Lifestyle This New Year.

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It’s about the time of year when everyone decides that they’re going to live a healthier lifestyle. If you’re not sure how you can achieve this goal, don’t worry. There are plenty of changes, some of which are easier to manage than others, that will help you improve your health. You can also do this all year round, not just on New Year’s Eve or for a few weeks in January.

  1. Eat Better

Have you ever heard the saying “you are what you eat”? People often think about it in the vein of weight loss, but that’s the first misconception people have about eating healthily. 

Eating better doesn’t just mean trying to lose weight. Sometimes, weight loss is a part of your lifestyle goals, but not necessarily. In fact, changing your diet just to lose weight can lead to an unhealthy and unsustainable lifestyle. You might lose the weight quickly, but your health could suffer and you’re less likely to maintain the results. 

Instead, focus on a well balanced and nutritious diet. Eat the calories you need and make wise food choices. You don’t need to be too restricted, just controlled. 

  1. Drink Plenty 

No, this isn’t a suggestion to drink more alcohol. While alcohol in moderation isn’t a problem, too much alcohol can be terrible for your health. 

Rather, you should think about how much water you drink. The recommended amount is between 6 and 8 glasses of liquid. It doesn’t have to be water. Tea, coffee, and soft drinks do count. 

However, it’s better to drink mainly water and non-sugar drinks. Soft drinks with a lot of sugar contain loads of calories and have very little nutrition, which isn’t a great combo. 

  1. Cut Out Bad Habits

Speaking of cutting things down, you should definitely think about cutting out bad habits like smoking or substance abuse. 

Smoking causes a huge amount of damage to your body and wallet. While you can go cold turkey and completely cut smoking out, some people find this difficult. NRTs, or nicotine replacement therapies, are a good way to wean yourself off.

If you’re trying to stop a very heavy smoking habit, this is especially helpful. Find treatments that work for you, whether that’s extra strong pouches or another kind of medication. 

  1. Exercise

It’s no secret that good fitness is good for your physical and mental health. 

The key to getting fit is to build yourself up. Don’t try to run a marathon right away. Set small, achievable goals and stick to them. The key is exercising regularly, not becoming an instant athlete. 

  1. Mental Health 

A big part of a healthy lifestyle is your mental health. This will keep you happy and healthy. 

This is easier said than done, especially when you’re balancing your mental health with physical health problems. We have enough to deal with in our lives without adding chronic pain or fatigue into the mix. 

Keep an eye on your mental state and well-being. If you do feel overwhelmed, talk to someone. Whether it’s a friend or a medical professional, talking things out can help you process problems and manage them better. 

Heres to a healthy and happy 2024!

This article was written by a freelance writer.

Life is Finite: How to Deal with this and our Mental Health.

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Humans are probably the only species on the planet that know that life is finite. Practically every other creature that ever existed did so in a state of blissful ignorance. The end of life wasn’t some dark, horrible certainty that needed pushing to the back of the mind. It just didn’t exist psychologically. 

We have no such luxury. As thinking beings, we have to confront this issue, one way or another, and somehow try to make peace with it. It’s not easy. 

Over the years, you can see some of the strategies people used to try to do this. One method was believing in the afterlife and in the soul – somewhere that you’d go once your physical body finally gave up. For many people, this is a core tenet of faith. For others, it is not. The idea that we could somehow pass away into nothingness seems like a tragedy.

Aging is currently a big issue in our society. The number of people over the age of 65 is the highest that it has ever been. And it is going to continue to grow as the population changes. Fewer people are having babies, and more people are living into their seventies, eighties, and nineties. It’s a big difference compared to just a few decades ago. 

In this context, we are all having to learn how to deal with our finite lives. But what’s the best way to do it? 

Get Comfortable With It 

Nobody likes the idea that we’re here for a small amount of time. We have these unlimited imaginations. And yet, we’re confined to these Earthly bodies.

One piece of advice is to try to find ways to become comfortable with the fact that life doesn’t go on forever. It seems taboo to even talk about it, especially when there are people around us approaching the end of their lives. But it is critical that we address the issue internally. Unless we can somehow make peace with it, we’ll never find peace in ourselves. We will always have this gnawing feeling at the back of our minds that the whole show will come to an end. That’s no way to live. 

Talk To Somebody About It

Sometimes, chatting to somebody you trust can help you come to terms with the facts of life. If you don’t have anybody in your life who fits the bill, then there are plenty of helplines available including Samaritans or you could talk to your GP or a therapist/ psychologist if it is beginning to impact on your day to day living and mental wellbeing . 

In many cases, just getting the words out can help tremendously. Speaking your mind to a sympathetic person is a great way to come to terms with reality. 

Prepare For It

The finitude of life can also be scary for another reason – the fact that we aren’t always prepared for the end of it. We can spend weekends worrying about what will happen to our loved ones when we are gone. 

We can’t go on living forever. But we can make financial arrangements to ensure that people who depend on us are taken care of in the future.

Setting up a policy to provide a lump sum to your relatives and dependents is relatively straightforward. And getting free gifts with life insurance is always a bonus. 

Complete Your Goals

Having the discipline to complete your life goals is a real skill and one that relatively few people ever manage to master. Ideally, you don’t want to get to the end of your life only to look back on it and regret that you didn’t live it the way that you wanted. You need to feel like you completed your goals – or at least took control and moved towards them. 

Sometimes taking the plunge and just getting on with things that you’ve left on the back burner is the best way to cope with the fact that life is limited. When you pursue that which is truly important to you, a lot of the worries and concerns disappear. You know that you’re making the best possible use of your time – and you’re grateful for it. 

Appreciate What You Have

Yes, the facts of life can be tough to accept. But it is also worth appreciating the fact that you’re here in the first place – a very unlikely event when you consider all the people who could have been born throughout history. That’s some consolation when you think about it. There is always goodness and hope in life- make the most of it.

This article was written by a freelance writer.

Reflections on Winter Mental Health: by Eleanor

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I’m in a time in my life right now where I am finding things hard, which includes public speaking about my book. I have come to the conclusion that however painful that is, I can still do my freelance writing and social media work and I can still communicate with my book and blog readers. So all is not lost.

Public speaking induces fear in me, so I am going to start by making some videos when I feel able and sharing online. I also hope to be supporting my Dad at a talk he is giving on our story with bipolar this weekend, more on that after the event.

I am going through a period of depression at the moment (probably part of my bipolar, the winter and long nights/dark days and a reaction to life circumstances). As I am medicated, its not terrible, but I do experience heightened anxiety. I also freeze in fear and going out can sometimes be a challenge. The book was a blessing but I didn’t realise how exposed I would feel sharing it with the world.

This will get easier and I know how lucky I am to have a warm home, food on the table, a husband and family who love me and some very good friends. My sister has been my personal cheerleader too and we are helpful to each other too- she is wonderful.

I am now 9 weeks into therapy and I feel like its going to take a while to deal with all the trauma I have been through. Last week, I made a timeline of events for my therapist and we ranked traumas in order of how painful they are. Eventually, in the new year, we will start to process them in a safe space. EMDR (rapid eye processing) works in this way and will hopefully clear the blockages, fear and pain away so I can thrive again.

I am learning to be kinder to myself. To take time for me. To take breaks. To try not to feel guilty or selfish for working part time from home- I am learning that depression and anxiety are difficult but I am incredibly grateful for my blessings.

There are good things. My book being featured in Happiful Magazine this week and looking forward to Chanukah, Robs birthday and the Christmas break with family/friends. I also continue to be paid to write from home and am working on future plans. However, I am slowing down in order to recover from a very busy year!

How are you feeling this Winter? What helps you?

Eleanor x

 

 

 

 

Dealing with Life Stress: For Mental Health by Eleanor

~ Eleanor Segall ~ 5 Comments

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Hi friends,

I have needed to write this blog for a while, where do I begin?

A few weeks ago, my father in law to be was taken to hospital with a rare form of pneumonia, caused by a weak immune system due to his cancer treatment. He was very ill and on oxygen as he couldn’t breathe. Thankfully very strong antibiotics were pumped into him and the infection is going and hes now off the oxygen . However, he is still in hospital on a feeding tube and slowly recovering from a bout of confusion (caused by low sodium levels).

This has been really upsetting and stressful for all involved, but we’ve had an amazing amount of support- with food, prayers, charity donations and hospital visits. Its been hard for me as the hospital is not near my home too.

We now have 2 months to go to the wedding and I am super excited but also worried- we really want my father in law to be there with us and well on the day so praying hard.

I start a new job on Tuesday in PR and Communications but will still write and blog on the side. I am also writing my book currently and am on deadline, so its all go here!

My anxiety levels are high in the mornings at the moment, I had chest pains this morning from stress and I am needing to take time for me and relax when I can. I think its because of everything happening all at once and so much to do for the book, wedding and so much change happening.

I do not like change but sometimes change is vital for us to grow.

I could do with a spa day though and some deep breathing exercises, meditation and general management of life stress. I am juggling a lot- and needing a break really.

How do you manage when life stressors become too much?

Love,

Eleanor xxx